Most women are passionate about the same exact thing: my family and friends


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Abashment is offline Abashment Post #1  January 31,2008, 10:04am
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I'd say between 50-75% of the women I get matched with have this answer as their greatest passion (usually followed byfriends and familyalso being listed as two of the 3 things they are most grateful for). I thought I'd take a moment to explain some of the possible things this might tell me about the person who writes it.

1)She actually has no passion, andis justusing friends and family because it sounds good. (Also might use the generic "life" [img]images/smiles/17.gif[/img])

2)She relies on her friends and family for entertainment, which means if we were going to be in a relationship she'd depend on me for everything.

3) Her friends and family are so important to her that if I date her I have to date them as well. I already have too many friends and family members. I don't know that I can take on all hers as well.

4) She's boring.

5) She's not imaginative.

6) She's not unique.

7) She's not open to the possibility of movie out of her current city if things get to that point in the future.

8) I might need to treat her friends like a panel of judges. I'd make my own mind up about her, and I would expect her to do the same for me.
 
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About 90% of men say they are passionate about "living life to the fullest" followed by friends and family (if they even wrote more). Gag.
 
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Okay... I'm changing my profile and will sit back and wait for the fish to bite!! LOL!!
 
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cp30,54773 wrote :

About 90% of men say they are passionate about "living life to the fullest" followed by friends and family (if they even wrote more). Gag.
I second that. Eww.
 
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I changed my profile today based on some of the above comments... I think it expresses better who I am and also what I'm looking for in a match! Interestingly though, the passion part remained the same! I did feel I could do a better job in some of the other areas... so we'll see what happens!
 
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50-75% of my male matches say the last book they read was the Davinci Code... cmon! That tells me they don't read (the book came out several YEARS ago guys!)
 
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Good points, Abashment. It could be due to the pressure one feels, staring at that blank box on the screen and frantically trying to think of three items. Of course, no one has to finish the profile right away, but there's still a sense of "get it done quickly," and the friends/family reference is easy shorthand for "I'm nurturing, caring, and loved by many." Typically feminine traits, which our society generally wants women to have.



It's dang hard to come up with things I'm passionate about, without the risk of sounding like a dullard. I am into reading, writing, and ... gosh, can't think of a third right now. Um, maybe teaching. Boring, right?



Hmm. I guess if I decide to try this again, I'll list "literary criticism," "writing erotic romance," and "school reform." Would that get more attention?
 
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Spider,56413 wrote :

Good points, Abashment. It could be due to the pressure one feels, staring at that blank box on the screen and frantically trying to think of three items. Of course, no one has to finish the profile right away, but there's still a sense of "get it done quickly," and the friends/family reference is easy shorthand for "I'm nurturing, caring, and loved by many." Typically feminine traits, which our society generally wants women to have.



It's dang hard to come up with things I'm passionate about, without the risk of sounding like a dullard. I am into reading, writing, and ... gosh, can't think of a third right now. Um, maybe teaching. Boring, right?



Hmm. I guess if I decide to try this again, I'll list "literary criticism," "writing erotic romance," and "school reform." Would that get more attention?
Reading, Writing, and Teaching are all hot answers in my book (see, I'm punny)! Erotic romance says you have passion, even though most guys aren't into that. I'd probably offer to read some of it to get some better insight into exactly what those passions are.

Anyway, I really think those were good answers, but with all the repitition, even something like "Watching TV," "Reading entertainment magazines,"or "Sitting in bed counting the dots on the ceilings" sound more attractive than "friend and family." Also, you only have to list the thing you're most passionate about, not 3 things.
 
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I'd say it's at least 75% of my matches. Then the three things they're the most thankful for: friends, family, their health. Ways they spend their leasure time: watching movies, eating out. A few other vague responses here and there: "don't know", "it depends" ... all in the same profile.

I don't even think about initiating contact with women with those profiles. Hope they aren't paying $$$ and then expecting responses.
 
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I find most of the Passion answers are vague like, "Life" or "living life to the fullest" as cp30 pointed out. I think it's obvious that they don't really have a "passion"...something that really gets them energized and that they seek out when ever possible, or quite possibly their passion is something that they don't want anyone to know. It kind of puts up a red flag for me...even if it's only because they aren't passionate about anything...I am, and as such I'm not interested in anyone that thinks my passions are mundane, ho hum, boring, or whatever. I think it's best to get as much out in the open as possible so people can make the decisions they need to make with as much information as possible.
 
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