How to Get the Perfect Amount of Matches

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JLMnamaste is offline JLMnamaste Post #81  August 20,2008, 7:29pm
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All the men I know who subscribe to Eharmony, get many more matches than I or other women I know who use the service. This has been across the board for the past 3+ years. It seems that women should pay less for the service is there are less men in the pool
 
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JLMnamaste is offline JLMnamaste Post #82  August 20,2008, 7:32pm
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I have experimented and changed my distance settings among others. Historically I have found that my male friends who use eharmony get many more matches than the women I know who use the service.


I feel women should have to pay a lesser fee if there are less men in the pool.


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Bia is offline Bia Post #83  August 23,2008, 9:26am
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In spite of being in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, I would like to let my possible matches to know that the plan is: go living in US. I was living there for a couple of months and I am planning to return but of course, I would like to have an “extra” and strong reason for that. Could you help me with some advices?
 
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Bia,228768 wrote :


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In spite of being in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, I would like to let my possible matches to know that the plan is: go living in US. I was living there for a couple of months and I am planning to return but of course, I would like to have an “extra” and strong reason for that. Could you help me with some advices?

Where do you plan to eventually settle down? Set your location (zip and country) to your probable eventual destination (in the USA or wherever) and then explain the situation in your profile. Don't forget to put a tentative date when you'll migrate.
 
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I would like the opportunity to be able to manage my matches. According to the home page it can only list 20 per page. I would be happy for one. I was communicating with one guy for about 2 weeks. He suddenly closed me out as he was persuing another relationship. I know my age has something to do with the amount of matches. I also changed my settings. Still nothing.
 
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I joined in the spring. I was getting about 6 local matches a week. Then in the last month it dropped down to 1 a week. Has anyone else seen a similar drop off in matches?
 
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Yes, NumbersGal, unfortunately a lot of women on this site experience that - often, even sooner than you did. I wish I could be more encouraging; sorry.
 
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NumbersGal,230865 wrote :

I joined in the spring. I was getting about 6 local matches a week. Then in the last month it dropped down to 1 a week. Has anyone else seen a similar drop off in matches?
Absolutely. Went from 5 a day to (maybe) 1 a week, and not even a normal one at that. But don't worry, when your membership is about to expire, matches will magically appear, forcing you to renew, just in case.
 
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I just recently became a paying member to try out EH, but I haven't been matched with anyone new since December. I changed all the match settings, looking anywhere in the world, being as open as humanly possible, and still nothing. Zero. Starting to be glad I'm just trying this out for a few months and not paying for much longer.
 
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DancingBee,199570 wrote :

Well I thought I was the only one who was disappointed with this site. I registered last December but then never joined until last month. I have had two men contact me who were 11 years older than I . I understand that I am 61 years old and not very attractive and overweight but I have checked out the men and they aren't exactly Harrison Ford. I have posted several pictures on my site. I have found that when I get a match and I check out their site some men close communication immediately. It has begun to irritate me. If I found them interesting, I woule have sent an icebreaker. Some of these men don't even post pictures. I also believe that me in their 60 and older should not post pictures of themselves without a shirt. It is really not attractive and should be saved for an occasion when it is called for. I also feel that communication is very slow. Some men choose to ignore questions and I would prefer to have a straight forward response. Haven't we reached the age where we can be honest with our feelings? I am looking for someone within my age group (give or take 5 years). I know some men will not date someone older and of course we have the old men who are looking for the young women. Get real - in 10 years you will be older and they will still be young.


I am an intelligent woman, own my home, make a decent living and enjoy life. I enjoy people and feel that if some of you men would just give me a chance, you might find that I are not such terrible women. I may not be a raving beauty but I have never felt that I should wear a bag over my head. I am realistic about myelf and feel that some men should stop looking at their magic mirrors and see themselves as they are now and not as they were 30 years ago. This is a good time in my life and I am just looking for companionship. I have a good sense of humor and enjoy having a good time.


Well I guess I have vented enough. Thanks for reading my comments.

Touche: I am also extremely disappointed, I have been on the site for 3 months, had so far 7 matches, none within anything remotely close to where I live.


Canadian site, is this a joke, not one match from Canada. I too, was enticed into renewing after a month, because oh! yes, I got 2 matcheswithin a week, didn't work and thought there might be hope. Right after renewing which was 1 month ago, not a match in sight.


I am 56, in the fashion business, been through, what most people have, distance no distance, I don't think it matters, what you post, the computer must scan certain ages and locations.


Maybe age has something to do with getting matches, but PLEASE, Eh should credit a person with drawing a profile and actually submitting compatible, matches.
 
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