How to Get the Perfect Amount of Matches

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Larson is offline Larson Post #11  July 10,2008, 10:16am
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Larson,165693 wrote :

"You may be missing that special someone because they live 31 miles away!"

The article is wrong. When I choose 30 miles, eHarmony still sends me matches from towns 45 miles away (aerial). When I chose 60 miles, I still got matched with someone 70 miles away!

Has anyone else here have the same experience?
I forgot to add that I also set the Match Flexibility: Distance to the highest "Very Important" setting. I still got matches from beyond the 30/60 miles I have set. The article is wrong.

Has anyone here have the same experience?
 
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Hey Larson, read the second page of the article. I'm guessing you have your Distance Flexibility settings to Somewhat or Not Important
 
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Larson,165727 wrote :

Larson,165693 wrote :


"You may be missing that special someone because they live 31 miles away!"

The article is wrong. When I choose 30 miles, eHarmony still sends me matches from towns 45 miles away (aerial). When I chose 60 miles, I still got matched with someone 70 miles away!

Has anyone else here have the same experience?


I forgot to add that I also set the Match Flexibility: Distance to the highest "Very Important" setting. I still got matches from beyond the 30/60 miles I have set. The article is wrong.

Has anyone here have the same experience?
Yes, I have. I decided to do a little experiement yesterday and take my mileage preferences off for one day to see what would happen. I got one new match overnight, from about 400 miles away, and he immediately closed me for the "physical distance is too great" reason. So much for that experiment!


There are two metropolitan areas within 60 miles of me. In two months on eH, I have yet to receive a single match from either one. It seems that all the matches are from suburban and rural areas; many of them near 100 miles away. What gives? Any ideas?
 
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Wow, it sucks that you guys are having problems getting matches. I get like 8 to 10 a day and it is really overwhelming b/c many of them are "dead guys"- you know the ones that are trials or non paying members. So, I have all these seeminly great matches that don't exist. I don't think distance has much to do this with. I still get matches from hundreds and hundredsof miles away when I havce my settings to 120 miles.
 
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8 to 10 a day? That would actually be worth how much this place costs. Like I said, maybe 3-4 a week for me. So figure about 16 a month, and maybe 1 or 2 of them may actually pay for their subscription.
 
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In the first year that I was a member, I recieved about 1200 matches. In the last 4 months, I have received about 100. Now, maybe it is just me, but those number don't even seem ballpark close.


One curious thing, that I have found now. Every one of my matches is a very firm beleiver in the Christian faith, or so the profiles indicate, whereas I previously was matched with non-Christians (which is fine by me). I checked my settings, and have nothing checked to indicate that I want to be matched only with those with the Christian faith. Anyone else having a similar thing happen?
 
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It definitely comes and goes. It does seem like a matter of trial and error, but even then it doesn't seem to deliver a perfect number of matches that all live just the right amount of time. It seems like their are too many factors involved. I rarely get matches that live in the same city as myself, which I assume is not because there aren't any single women, but that there aren't many registered on here or that I would overly compatible with. I really don't quantify the number of matches I get every week nor do I like counting them like we're talking about fishing or the number of pennies foud in weekly in parking lot since I may close out some and they will close me out, etc.
 
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Hmmm.....I already knew everything from this article. Still not getting more matches. Should I get a prize or something? [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-money-mouth.gif[/img]
 
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Whenever I read posts complaining about the price of eHarmony, I get a chuckle. Before I joined eHarmony, I was a member of another dating service (not an online one) that had a one-year membership fee of $1,500. And that only guaranteed you 14 first dates.





Now before you get all excited and go, "Well at least you get to meet people!" keep in mind that the vast majority of matches never lead to a second date much less a long-term relationship. In fact, I'd consider you lucky if you met even a handful of matches with whom there was mutual interest in a second date.





That said, I did meet someone through this other service that I dated for about four months. Unfortunately it ended up being a complete disaster. Sure there was plenty of chemistry to keep things interesting at first, but the total lack of compatibility eventually caused the whole thing to implode. Despite what this other service promised, they did not get to know me well enough to know what worked for me and what didn't.
 
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graceventually,165752 wrote :
Yes, I have. I decided to do a little experiement yesterday and take my mileage preferences off for one day to see what would happen. I got one new match overnight, from about 400 miles away, and he immediately closed me for the "physical distance is too great" reason. So much for that experiment!
The heck? You gave up after only one match? Why not give the experiment some more time and see what happens?
 
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