How to Get the Perfect Amount of Matches

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Robert_inSD is offline Robert_inSD Post #141  June 29,2009, 7:04pm
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Thanks for the mention of preference strengths in the article. That will help many of us find a better balance in the rate of match arrivals. Some need more matches, while others need them to slow down.
 
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thedarknite is offline thedarknite Post #142  June 30,2009, 12:06am
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I have no clue. I get one or two matches a week if I am lucky. Only thing is, those matches are non-paying members. I can tell because they either have no photos or just one with only 3 questions answered.
I don't want to be too flexible with my setting either. Because then they start matching you anybody with a pulse. Why be flexible? I thought eharmony was about finding someone you were compatible with, not people who just happen to "somewhat care about smoking"
 
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markf is offline markf Post #143  July 1,2009, 6:58pm
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I get at least 5 or more per week I have 189 closed and over a 142 active try reading other peoples profiles and don’t be afraid to change the wording and information on your profile I’m not saying to say things that are not true or plagiarize but don’t be afraid to reword your profile. And I think number one is to get a least 2 great photo’s then see what happens. Oh and I have the distance set for 60 and very important.
 
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adonna is offline adonna Post #144  July 18,2009, 1:21pm
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The information is appreciated. So since I haven't gotten a match in a week, I went back and changed my profile to 300 miles and no preference on anything and not important. In other words, the least restrictive settings possible.

Guess what....still nothing. I don't get it.
Did I piss off EH? ;(
 
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mspretty is offline mspretty Post #145  July 19,2009, 3:07pm
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I'm frustrated beacuse If a see a match I really like, I try sending a communication request only to find them never responding back. Or they view me and don't do anything about it, or they get to open communication and close for god knows what reason. I am an amazing person and very outgoing! why is noboby wanting to talk with me? I have the same thing problem as "thedarknite". Someone help!!
 
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saginaw is offline saginaw Post #146  August 4,2009, 7:53pm
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For sure as a bit of insureance dont sit everyday and watch things do happen in time.slow down know what you want or looking for.It took me a month turning over 200 down men just not the right one.THEIR IS HOPE hang in to EVERY ONE!!!!!! SAGINAW!!!!!!
 
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I think I see a likely cause, for those outside major urban centers, reducing their number of match introductions.

Those of us who are members in urban centers often get flooded and set our distance limit to 30 miles with high priority. Both member's criteria must overlap. Thus, only flexible matching will introduce us to someone outside that zone, even if they have a larger radius set for themselves.

I had one match that used the county name rather than the actual city, which was, in her particular case, not a significant deception. It likely increased her rate of introductions. She promptly disclosed it during guided communication.
 
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73andlively is offline 73andlively Post #148  September 6,2009, 4:11pm
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I just signed up..  I am not lonely nor in any hurry to find some one to have good conversation with.  At my age I am on the move with activities and travel..I am looking for someone to relate with me in my Christian life, to have good companionship with open communication. 73andlively
 
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Berthenia is offline Berthenia Post #149  January 20,2010, 3:22pm
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I have just joined and I look forward to finding someone to share all the wonderful experiences one can have in the Washington Metro area. I used the free day or so that was offered and was sent some matches but nobody responded to me.
I am an optimistic and I am also good company so I am hopeful to find someone
 
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christine2356 is offline christine2356 Post #150  February 2,2010, 3:41pm
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Please advise me how I can change the age of my matches.  I am 54 years old this April and I
would prefer not to receive matches over the age of 60 years.  I continue to receive matches in
their mid-late sixties - I am not interested in this age group.  Thank you.  Also, I would like to
have access to direct communication with e.harmony in order to ask any questions I may have.
 
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