How to Get the Perfect Amount of Matches

How to Get the Perfect Amount of Matches

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libbyhorse is offline libbyhorse Post #131  March 25,2009, 6:11pm
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I get about 10 - 12 matches a week but NOBDY has answered me back in the 6 months I've belonged - even when they have been close by. It can't be about bad breath and I can't believe nobody else but me likes horses.
 
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Faith02 is offline Faith02 Post #132  April 10,2009, 7:09pm
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I have had the same matches since i joined a month ago. I've tried to get new matches and they have none. I really want my money back cause this is a ripp off. I don't want some one this bad
 
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cinsay is offline cinsay Post #133  April 15,2009, 7:47pm
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IT WOULD BE NICE TO KNOW THAT PEOPLE, MEN CAN ACCEPT SOMEONE LIKE ME THAT HAS HEALTH ISSUE'S LIKE ME.SOME PEOPLE JUST CAN'T STAND THE FACT THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE JUST LIKE ME ON DISABLEITY, WE MIGHT LOOK O.K. BUT STUFF INSIDE LIKE FIBROMYALGIA, I.B.S.get's them to think we're lazy. so i thought you could help. thank's cindy howarth.
 
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stevenvictx is offline stevenvictx Post #134  May 7,2009, 5:41pm
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They can send me all the matches in the world, but it does nothing if none will give me the time of day.


Have pics, uddate my setting daily,make the first move.


Isnt this the place that says our matches are perfect for you through their 'system'?


They do all the work of finding miss right?





Someone forgot to tell the 40ish woman crowd this info.
 
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CME72 is offline CME72 Post #135  May 8,2009, 6:43am
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I get tons of matches but in two months have only had two people attempt communication. Only one has made it to open communication. I hardly ever get matches that are near enough to actually meet.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #136  May 8,2009, 8:29am
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@steven & @CME:


As said everywhere on these boards, EH takes time and patience.


This said a couple of things to think about:


1. Did you take the Profile Test honestly? It's really easy to answer the questions the way you think you are expected to answer them. There is another thread where a lady talks about retaking the test and suddenly getting much better matches.


2. Can you up your distance setting by one zone? There tends to be a correlation between more open distance and real interest in making and meeting a match.


3. Can you up your max age by a year or two? Put yourself slightly out of your comfort zone. You can always close matches if you really don't like them.


4. Review your "Black&White" questions. Can you decrease the importance of some of these?
 
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dragonfly13 is offline dragonfly13 Post #137  May 16,2009, 4:07am
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There are far more solutions to generating more matches than there are to getting plenty of matches but none of them respond. Any dating site is a double edge sword. As the others and the article say, loosen up your parameters for matching, then pray that they will answer you.

I also agree that you should change your photo...you appear to be handsome but the frowning scowl will turn off any matches you do get.

Best of luck.
 
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OklahomaCowgirl is offline OklahomaCowgirl Post #138  June 3,2009, 7:12pm
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LOL....it says "there are NO matches for you"....story of my life...reckon there aint no good ol country boys or cowboys..?? but its fun just to talk to people sometimes, i stay so busy with the ranch and all i hardly have any communication other than on line..hummmm??? shucks that almost sounds corny huh???
 
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SNGLnLKNG is offline SNGLnLKNG Post #139  June 4,2009, 9:23am
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I tried eHarmony about 5 years ago and only received 10 mathces during the few months I was on.

This time I've received over 45 in the last week. Its been overwhelming but I am dismayed at how many have been closed, I would think there would be a little more exchange before a man would close for the 'other' reason.

I guess its cause I'm a tall, attractive, smart, successful woman. Getting the same experiences here on eH as I do in real life. I'm too much woman! Luckily there are a few who aren't intimidated, and can see how sweet and down to earth I really am!
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Kate is offline eH_Advice_Host_Kate — Advice Official Moderator Post #140  June 4,2009, 10:25am

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Hi OklahomaCowgirl and SNGLnLKNG – It sounds like you have opposite challenges, here!

OklahomaCowgirl, if you aren’t getting any new matches, please contact our Customer Care team: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/ They often have insights that can help turn things around for you. It sounds, at least, like you’re in the right state, considering your lifestyle. If you are interested in finding a match who is likewise inclined toward the ranch, if you haven’t done so already, maybe you could include other “specific states” in your distance settings where you might be more likely to find a match who would want to share a home on the range with you (Wyoming, Texas, etc). Just an idea.

I’m also glad you’re here to join the online discussions. We are always around, and you don’t have to wait for matches to show up to participate in conversations!

SNGLnLKNG, I’m really sorry to hear that you have gotten closed for “Other” more than you’d like. You’re not alone – getting closed (for “Other” or whatever reason) is universal, and you most likely aren’t facing it more frequently than any other member. From what you say, it actually sounds like you are doing very well by getting communications. To make sure that all your positive qualities that you mentioned shine through to your matches, you could always post your answers to your About Me page for feedback. We currently have threads going for the first 3 questions:

What you are most passionate about: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=24399 (eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 1: "What Are You Most Passionate About?")
What you are most thankful for:
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=24755 (eHarmony Profile Workshop - Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?)
The most influential person in your life and why: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=25135 (eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 3: "Who has been most influential person in your life, & why?')

Good luck with everything!

~Kate
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