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Red Sox Girl wrote :

I solve this issue by always having my photos available to all matches, whether or not they have photos posted. I think "no photos" is one of the biggest peeves of eH members. I know the majority of people aren't going to be attracted to someone based purely on their written profile, there has to be a physical element too, so I'd rather folk get to evaluate as much as possible about me up front.


I don't play any games ever, so wouldn't play the "not showing you mine if you don't show me yours" routine. I know that rarely someone will have a more legitimate reason for not posting photos, so at least they can make photos available to me if they choose to, based on my profile - I was matched with an MD recently from a small town who didn't make his photos available all the time because he would likely have been matched with patients. I close people out all the time for no photos, but he made his available to me immediately when this happened.
This is such a refreshing approach. I have been burned so many times that I close people out if they do not have a photo. No exceptions. No games. No BS.
- July 10th, 2008, 04:03 pm
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I agree MW - it's been months since I communicated with a photo-less match. I did it a few times but it never ended well. I'm with you now - no photos, sorry but I'll close you out, no exceptions.
- July 10th, 2008, 05:32 pm
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ScottK wrote :

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"Photo Nudge" really means, "I don't care what stage you chose on your photo sharing settings are, I want you to switch it to 'Match by Match basis' and then share your photos to me. I'm that special... and worth it."

Well, not exactly. When the eHarmony programmers added Photo Nudge they forgot to add a "Make an exception to my Photo Sharing settings and share my photos to this match since he/she asked for it" button.

Photo Nudges have been around for almost a year and nobody has gotten around to fixing this. Out of 200 employees how many programmers have they got? One?


Bingo!


This is EXACTLY the situation I was trying to describe!


Its a bug in their system! There needs to be an "override" for Photos.


BTW, to a few posters above, yes, you share your picture ALWAYS, except for matches that don't have any pictures on file at all. Go to "My Settings" -> "Sharing Settings" and look at #2.













2. If my match does not have a photo on file with eHarmony, I would like to:
share my photos only with users who have a photo posted share my photos with all my matches

Which leads me to my next nagging of EH that I do probably once a week...


I want a 3rd option in there, called "Share my photos ONLY when my matches Stage's threshold of "Sharing" is reached!


Thus, if one of my matches holds her Photo back till Stage 3, she will NOT be allowed to see my Photo until Stage 3 as well. On the other hand, if she Shares her picture right away, like I do, then she can also see my picture right away.


This is an ABSOLUTE MUST for EH to do! It is only FAIR to us matches that don't hide our pictures back till a later Stage. If someone wants to hide their picture back, fine, but they should NOT be allowed to see ANY pictures until their Stage threshold is reached. FAIR IS FAIR!








EH. On that




Seems like petty gamesmanship to me. If I worked at eH I'd ignore your nagging too.
- July 12th, 2008, 04:25 pm
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ekmf wrote :

Seems like petty gamesmanship to me. If I worked at eH I'd ignore your nagging too.
Huh?


Either you misread my request, or you are one of the lame "Game Players" I am trying to get rid of.


The mere presence of the "Hide my Photo until a later Stage" is a lame game and shouldn't be allowed.


Either EH needs to get rid of that option, or they need to allow us to make these game players have to think twice about having that option set.


My request does the later. If they know they won't be able to see anyone else's picture, until they share theirs, it will encourage them to be upfront and just share their D*MN picture, or if they really feel strongly about connecting without seeing "Physical" aspects, they shuld live by their rule, and not be able to see anyone else's picture either.


What are we, little kids? Hey, can you ask Tommy during Recess if Amy likes me? If so, I would like to meet below the monkey bars!!!


Grow up, and just show your picture!


Assuming you are one of these lame game players... I am curious, why do you feel you are better than the rest of us who show our picture right away?


- July 13th, 2008, 11:04 am
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