Jennipenni is offline Jennipenni Post #1  February 12,2012, 3:26pm
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Just curious, is anyone having luck with this dating site? I have not gotten a hit or anything for a month. Starting to think that is a waste of time and money. Any one feel the same
 
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Goki is offline Goki Post #2  February 12,2012, 4:51pm
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I'm in the same boat. No one seems to answer any of my guided communication questions or my personal emails. I don't know if it's a waste of money but I sure expected at least one or two interesting matches that would communicate a little bit. What am I doing wrong? Or is it eharmony? I chose eharmony because I hate the riff-raff of free sites like POF. However, I got a few decent responses there.
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I'm going to move this to the Using eHarmony board. This board/group (Talk To Your Community Team) is for questions about the eH Advice site.
 
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According to some estimates 75%+ of eharmony users are non-paying members, and thus unable to respond. Plus there are those that are no longer active on the site. That's likely the big reason for your lack of success thus far.
 
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For both of you.....

About 75% of the matches are dead profiles of past members who are still in the system...who may come back on free weekends.

Of the remaining 25%....about half are like you searching....so 1 out of every 8 profiles.....the other half have either found someone for a relationship but sincve they prepaid they still have an active account or they have given up after prepaying.


You get what you put in.

You need to have a good profile. Look at comments in this Using Eharmony thread on profile reviews and comments given.

You need to initiate communication.

It will not happen overnight. It takes time.
 
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Jennipenni wrote :
Just curious, is anyone having luck with this dating site? I have not gotten a hit or anything for a month. Starting to think that is a waste of time and money. Any one feel the same

Well from the response that I have received, I feel like I have been scammed out of 6 months of $ for nothing. I got more responses in a shorter period of time with Match.com than this site. I was just hoping for something more than "dates", ironically like the commercial. What a waste of my time!
 
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Jenni, what were you expecting to happen? eHarmony does not work like other sites. At all! You don't get to sift through hundreds or thousands of matches, they are given to you in small groups. Not only do your matches have to meet your criteria, but you must fit theirs as well.

As with any site, you typically get out of it what you put in. If you have a poorly written profile and less than quality photos, you won't receive many requests for communication. If you just sit back and expect the other side to do all the work, you probably won't get very far either.

I get a lot of activity on eH because I make sure I view profiles, update my profile as needed, respond in a timely manner, close immediately if not interested, etc. It's not a supermarket site, don't treat it like one.
 
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Adjust your settings wider and broader and post ur profile and pics here - there are some really helpful folks (and me) that will comment on them and try to help.
 
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I agree that if you aren't seeing any success that it can be helpful to post your profile here as well as to give us a picture of what your settings are like. If you update your profile and adjust your settings and are still not having any success it could be that eHarmony may not be the site for you (especially if you are finding more success on another site). Yes, I do agree that the estimates about inactive members may be true but that has never stopped me from seeing a certain level of success, even if it might not be exactly what I expected going in. I think unfortunately the commercials for most online dating sites give an inflated sense of what might happen. They can make it look like it's easy to find your perfect soul mate online when in reality it still takes a work and no site is going to deliver to you the perfect handpicked match (who of course is smitten with you as well) in a short period of time.
 
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Jennipenni wrote :
Just curious, is anyone having luck with this dating site? I have not gotten a hit or anything for a month. Starting to think that is a waste of time and money. Any one feel the same
When you say 'hit', what do you mean?

Do you mean that you haven't gotten delivered a Match to you in a month?

Or do you mean someone hasn't attempted to communicate with you in a month?

If it is the former, you need to call eHarmony Tech Support right now!!!

There is simply something wrong with your account.
You *SHOULD* be getting at least SOME Matches!

If it is the later, then it could be any number of things...
Make sure you have your Profile completely filled out, and, I can't stress this enough, make SURE you have good Photos of yourself.
Not cell phone in the bathroom mirror Photos, but good Photos of you smiling and happy!
Maybe toss in a couple Photos of you doing something you like... Golf, running, biking, etc.

And unlike these people that are quoting that 75% of your Matches are going to be unpaid, this is simply not true for everyone.

In my experience on eHarmony, I saw 90%+ of users that were ACTIVE!
(Granted, not all of those 90% liked me and wanted to communicate with me, but they definitely were active)

Finally, you should consider posting your Profile here for review.
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