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ericaliza is offline ericaliza Post #1  February 9,2012, 7:28pm
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Hey all,

Just looking for some input on my profile. Thanks so much! Also...I made an album of the photos I have on my profile, so if anyone wants to take a look at those and give me their opinion that'd be great!


The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am passionate about helping women become the person Christ created them to be. I guess I'm going through the same journey myself, so I'm no expert, but it's something God laid on my heart years ago. I recently received my Masters degree in Forensic Psychology. Eventually, I hope to work in the criminal justice system and be a liasion between law enforcement and victims, as well as provide behavior analysis of criminals.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I have to respect him. To me, that covers all the bases...strong faith, love for family, ability to relax and have fun, as well as be the leader of a relationship.

The most influential person in my life has been:
I would have to say my grandpa. He is a man after God's own heart and an incredible example to me. I have never met anyone more wholly devoted to the Lord.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family. I am so blessed to have been raised in such a wonderful and safe environment.
-My friends. A girl couldn't ask for more loyal and fun friends.
-I just realized I probably should have put my Jesus first. He's the one who gave me the other two.

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Tough question. I may have to think about it more and come back to this one...

The things I can't live without are:
-my Bible
-a good book (other than the Bible)
-someone to share secrets with
-warmth
-my kickboxing class

The first thing people notice about me:
People usually first comment on my height and then on my smile, but I guess that's part of my appearance. So maybe my laugh. Or the sarcasm. Yea, probably the sarcasm. But it's a nice sarcasm. Or so I'm told.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I really could live without the kickboxing class listed above...but it's so much fun! Seriously, though, I'm having a hard time putting myself on paper because I feel like I'm a bunch of contradictions. I love high heels, but my favorite thing to wear is a pair of sweats and a tank. I quite possibly know more about football than you do (or maybe not), but I really want to learn how to ballroom dance. I grew up on a hobby farm and know my way around a rack (or ten) of hay, but people are always surprised to find that out. And I would pick a motorcycle over a car any day.

I typically spend my leisure time:
I have been showing horses for seventeen years and on a national level for the past ten years. It's taken up a big portion of my time, but I absolutely love it! Another activity I enjoy is spending time on the lake--jet skiing, fishing, and enjoying the sun!

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read a LOT of books...three a week is not unusual. Since finishing grad school, most of the books I have read have been just for fun. I like everything from James Patterson to Karen Kingsbury to Louis L'Amour. I also started writing a book of my own. I've always enjoyed writing and have wanted to write a novel for a long time. I have no idea how it will all go, but when I'm finished I will be able to mark it off of my bucket list. :-)
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ericaliza wrote :
Hey all,

Just looking for some input on my profile. Thanks so much!

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The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am passionate about helping women become the person Christ created them to be. I guess I'm going through the same journey myself, so I'm no expert, but it's something God laid on my heart years ago. I recently received my Masters degree in Forensic Psychology. Eventually, I hope to work in the criminal justice system and be a liasion between law enforcement and victims, as well as provide behavior analysis of criminals.

Why did you choose that field? What inspired you. Remove the God reference. I have read down your profile....you have mentioned god and faith way to much that you come off as a fanatic or bible thumper. This will turn off many guys --even those who do go to church. It is ok to mention your faith once.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I have to respect him. To me, that covers all the bases...strong faith, love for family, ability to relax and have fun, as well as be the leader of a relationship.

Leader of the relationship....this is a likely ruen off to many men in your generation. Many who are educated look at women as equals...not second rate citizens which is what the comment of he is the leader of the relationship implies....it also would seem to attract a guy who tends to be very controlling.

The most influential person in my life has been:
I would have to say my grandpa. He is a man after God's own heart and an incredible example to me. I have never met anyone more wholly devoted to the Lord.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family. I am so blessed to have been raised in such a wonderful and safe environment.
-My friends. A girl couldn't ask for more loyal and fun friends.
-I just realized I probably should have put my Jesus first. He's the one who gave me the other two.

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Tough question. I may have to think about it more and come back to this one...

Ask a friend or sibling this question and see what they say. This something that a guy would learn about you that is a plus---but not on a first meet.

The things I can't live without are:
-my Bible
-a good book (other than the Bible)
-someone to share secrets with
-warmth
-my kickboxing class

The first thing people notice about me:
People usually first comment on my height and then on my smile, but I guess that's part of my appearance. So maybe my laugh. Or the sarcasm. Yea, probably the sarcasm. But it's a nice sarcasm. Or so I'm told.

Focus on one please....

Some additional information I want you to know:
I really could live without the kickboxing class listed above...but it's so much fun! Seriously, though, I'm having a hard time putting myself on paper because I feel like I'm a bunch of contradictions. I love high heels, but my favorite thing to wear is a pair of sweats and a tank. I quite possibly know more about football than you do (or maybe not), but I really want to learn how to ballroom dance. I grew up on a hobby farm and know my way around a rack (or ten) of hay, but people are always surprised to find that out. And I would pick a motorcycle over a car any day.

I typically spend my leisure time:
I have been showing horses for seventeen years and on a national level for the past ten years. It's taken up a big portion of my time, but I absolutely love it! Another activity I enjoy is spending time on the lake--jet skiing, fishing, and enjoying the sun!

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read a LOT of books...three a week is not unusual. Since finishing grad school, most of the books I have read have been just for fun. I like everything from James Patterson to Karen Kingsbury to Louis L'Amour. I also started writing a book of my own. I've always enjoyed writing and have wanted to write a novel for a long time. I have no idea how it will all go, but when I'm finished I will be able to mark it off of my bucket list. :-)

The last three sections are much beter. I am not criticizing your faith...its just the impression it gives when reading your profile. Try to mention itonly once in one of the responses.

At your age profile pics DO matter.

Are you willing to initiate or wait for him to initiate? What are your age and distance settings?
 
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ericaliza is offline ericaliza Post #3  February 10,2012, 7:22am
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The last three sections are much beter. I am not criticizing your faith...its just the impression it gives when reading your profile. Try to mention itonly once in one of the responses.

At your age profile pics DO matter.

Are you willing to initiate or wait for him to initiate? What are your age and distance settings?

Thanks for the review...I appreciate it! I do have pictures posted, several of them. And I have no problem with initiating contact. My age settings are 23-35yo, and I have a 300 mile distance setting.
 
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Hi ericaliza!

Overall, you have a great profile. I get a clear sense of who you are, what matters to you, and what you want. There are a few areas where you can improve. See below for specific comments.

Best of luck with your search!

ericaliza wrote :
Hey all,

Just looking for some input on my profile. Thanks so much!


The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am passionate about helping women become the person Christ created them to be. I guess I'm going through the same journey myself, so I'm no expert, but it's something God laid on my heart years ago. I recently received my Masters degree in Forensic Psychology. Eventually, I hope to work in the criminal justice system and be a liasion between law enforcement and victims, as well as provide behavior analysis of criminals.
Why forensic psychology? Why the attraction to the criminal justice system vs. say, missions work
? A sentence, maybe two, to discuss this would be great.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I have to respect him. To me, that covers all the bases...strong faith, love for family, ability to relax and have fun, as well as be the leader of a relationship.
This is great. The types of guys you seek will get it. Everyone else will run for the hills. That's what a profile should do. Clearly attract someone compatible while repelling everyone who doesn't share those values.

The most influential person in my life has been:
I would have to say my grandpa. He is a man after God's own heart and an incredible example to me. I have never met anyone more wholly devoted to the Lord.
Your profile is ultimately about you, not about showcasing what a great Christian your grandfather was. So how did his example impact you? How are you a different person as a result of knowing him? One sentence on your grandfather followed by a sentence or two that brings it back to you would be much stronger.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family. I am so blessed to have been raised in such a wonderful and safe environment.
-My friends. A girl couldn't ask for more loyal and fun friends.
-I just realized I probably should have put my Jesus first. He's the one who gave me the other two.
Tells me nothing that I didn't already know about you, but OK.

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Tough question. I may have to think about it more and come back to this one...
Answer every question! You have limited space to make a "first impression." Granted, this is probably the hardest question to answer in the profile, but don't miss an opportunity to share another detail or tidbit about yourself.

The things I can't live without are:
-my Bible I would strongly recommend a different item. It's clear that your faith is central to your life. At this point, you really are just losing opportunities to share as much information about yourself as possible.
-a good book (other than the Bible)
-someone to share secrets with
-warmth
-my kickboxing class
Otherwise a nice, unique list

The first thing people notice about me:
People usually first comment on my height and then on my smile, but I guess that's part of my appearance. So maybe my laugh. Or the sarcasm. Yea, probably the sarcasm. But it's a nice sarcasm. Or so I'm told. Sounds as if you might actually be a bit mean and nasty if you have to qualify it with this last bit in red. I would delete the red.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I really could live without the kickboxing class listed above...but it's so much fun! Seriously, though, I'm having a hard time putting myself on paper because I feel like I'm a bunch of contradictions. I love high heels, but my favorite thing to wear is a pair of sweats and a tank. I quite possibly know more about football than you do (or maybe not), but I really want to learn how to ballroom dance. I grew up on a hobby farm and know my way around a rack (or ten) of hay, but people are always surprised to find that out. And I would pick a motorcycle over a car any day.
I like what you did with this section!

I typically spend my leisure time:
I have been showing horses for seventeen years and on a national level for the past ten years. It's taken up a big portion of my time, but I absolutely love it! Another activity I enjoy is spending time on the lake--jet skiing, fishing, and enjoying the sun!
Interesting and unique list. Nice that it includes some things that you might do with the guy in your life.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read a LOT of books...three a week is not unusual. Since finishing grad school, most of the books I have read have been just for fun. I like everything from James Patterson to Karen Kingsbury to Louis L'Amour. I also started writing a book of my own. I've always enjoyed writing and have wanted to write a novel for a long time. I have no idea how it will all go, but when I'm finished I will be able to mark it off of my bucket list. :-)
Great.
 
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ericaliza is offline ericaliza Post #5  February 10,2012, 9:48am
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emma_hazards wrote :
Hi ericaliza!

Overall, you have a great profile. I get a clear sense of who you are, what matters to you, and what you want. There are a few areas where you can improve. See below for specific comments.

Best of luck with your search!
Thanks so much for taking the time to review my profile and offer suggestions...I really appreciate that!

Also...I made an album of the photos I have on my profile, so if anyone wants to take a look at those and give me their opinion that'd be great!
 
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Remove the God reference. I have read down your profile....you have mentioned god and faith way to much that you come off as a fanatic or bible thumper. This will turn off many guys --even those who do go to church. It is ok to mention your faith once.
untrue. continue to use the bait needed to lure what you are fishing for.

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The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I have to respect him. To me, that covers all the bases...strong faith, love for family, ability to relax and have fun, as well as be the leader of a relationship.
this will also effectively filter out what you are not looking for- those with little to no faith.

good luck!
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I like this profile. It's the first incredibly Christian one I've seen that sounds fun too. Listing a book (other than the Bible) as one of the things you can't live without was really cute!

I also like your pictures. Hopefully you did mean them to show that you want marriage, babies, horses, and you're physically active.

The one where the man was cropped out is a little questionable unless he's your dad. Matches will ask about that eventually, so remove it if he's an ex.

You can look at the other advice and edit it a little, but it's really good, even as is.

Interesting. Let us know how you do.
 
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Just took a look at your photos. Wow! You seem really fun and full of life. That energy hardly comes through in your profile. Work on your profile some more to see if you can get a little more flavor across. It's something I've struggled with in my own profile. My dates are always shocked at how fun and witty I am in person. Like you mention, it's hard to capture yourself in a few words.

Anyway, you have a great range of photos. I loved the mix and the number. Here are the things I would change.

Photo #2 : Ask the photographer to give you a photo without her website address on it.
Fishing photo: I would delete. It doesn't show you at your most attractive.
Baby photo: Lose the baby--either crop the baby out or lose the photo. Personally, I would crop the baby out, and keep the shot.
Photo #9: Could you use the original with normal coloring, rather than this faded color version.

Nice job!

You should do fine. My only suggestion: since you are going after a specific demographic, be a little more open on other parameters--age, distance, etc. You can always close a match, but there will be some at the edges that are acceptable that you will miss if you set very narrow parameters across the board.
 
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ericaliza is offline ericaliza Post #9  February 10,2012, 10:34am
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untrue. continue to use the bait needed to lure what you are fishing for.


this will also effectively filter out what you are not looking for- those with little to no faith.

good luck!

Good to know! I feel that my faith is more than just a "mention" in my life and want that to come across, but I assure you that I'm no "bible thumper." As for the other, I definitely don't consider myself to be a "second rate citizen" (as was presented above) simply because I am a woman. I just want a man that is comfortable being with a strong, independent woman and being the head of that relationship. I hope that's what comes across.
 
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ericaliza is offline ericaliza Post #10  February 10,2012, 10:38am
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I also like your pictures. Hopefully you did mean them to show that you want marriage, babies, horses, and you're physically active.

The one where the man was cropped out is a little questionable unless he's your dad. Matches will ask about that eventually, so remove it if he's an ex.

Thank you for your kind words! In regards to that picture: He is a high school friend and we were at a wedding. The photo actually has several more people in it, but I cropped it so it was just me (mostly).
 
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