Just about to give up!

Yes, I almost cleaned my bathrooms yesterday. Maybe today they'll get lucky!

Agree with others. You're a guy. You're on a site that has more women than men. Your matches are communicating. So the reason you are essentially date-less is you. Be more proactive and assertive. In your first e-mail, provide your phone number and suggest you meet or chat by phone if she feels comfortable.

Some guys really do seem to flounder around aimlessly when they get to e-mail. You are on a dating site is to date, not type. After the second purposeless e-mail, I generally stop responding, and focus on others.

Your friend's experience is similar to mine and those of my friends who use the site. I briefly considered looking at another site, but am not sure how I would fit more dates into my schedule, while giving each a fair shake.

Good luck!

Some advice....

you may need to tweek your profile a buit. Post it on here for some advice.

From my experience with eharmony...just getting to open communication doesnt mean a date. I d say about only 1 in 4 I got to open communication with I got a date. Though most of those loses of open communication came during free wweekends when the women would get to open communication, exchenger personal email addresses...but no date comes due to non response.

Remember you arent the only one they are communicating so you need to pounce on getting a date set up. You dont want to do this in your first open communication message because its a turn off. By the third open communication email you should exchange phone numbers to talk and set up a date or being it up in the email.

I you beeing too picky in who you communicate with? too judgemental on their pictures?

It sounds as if your friend is a woman...if she is attractive in pictures she will have a higher success rate of getting dates.

Hi guys,

I have been on eHarmony since around July-August 2011...and I've yet to go on a single date with someone. I know a person who joined in January and is already on her 4th date with a guy! It has made me start to wonder if the problem is me or if I'm doing something wrong on eHarmony...so I've decided to come here for advice!

I've had guided communication sessions with some women which have ended at around the middle stages or just right at the first stage. I have had 3 matches which made it to eHarmony mail (and also some women who have accepted eHarmony mail request and just left it at that). The first girl I had the chance to talk to on eHarmony mail was great, there was mutual interest and all and I almost asked her out! But then suddenly she went inactive for 3 weeks so I assumed she found a better guy. The second girl didn't reply back after a few email exchanges and the 3rd closed me after a few exchanges.

To me it looks like a pattern, initiating communication doesn't seem to be the problem but it starts when the communication starts. Any advice? I will happily provide info (profile and what not). Thanks.

...I feel like my luck has been pretty much in the gutter...

Here's my profile. Thanks ami1uwant.

The one thing I am most passionate about:
My family and living life to it's fullest potential. Being happy!

get away from cliches....live life to the fullest is one of them. Passionate about is why you chose your career, ids there a hobby you love, is there an interst you will never give up or what her to have, is there something you volunteer for?

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone who is kind-hearted, patient and open. I'm looking for someone who is genuine, who I can be comfortable with.


Basic Information

Occupation:
Helicopter QA
Age
21
Height
5' 6"(168 cm)
Wants Kids:
Maybe
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
Chinese
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never
At 21 you are very young to be using eharmony.....eharmony is more for those who went around the dating pools of their 20s and still havent found someone or they are now divorced and cant find someone. In your early 20s you have the bar scene, your friends who you can network with, through college classes.....

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
One of my instructors at my previous college where I studied Aircraft Maintenance Engineering. He taught me a lot of stuff and was probably the most inspirational teacher I had in my life so far. He's given me a lot of motivation to pursue a career in aviation.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My family - I'm thankful for having such amazing parents & relatives.

My life experiences - What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Well... technically speaking, if it doesn't kill you, it can still physically weaken you but mental strength is key

My true friends - Throughout my life I've come to realize who my real friends are and I'm really thankful for having those incredible people around me.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Creating romance in a relationship
Being a good friend and companion
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
My caring nature... and that I'm in my 20's (not 16 years old...haha). I also wish people would look past my initial shyness, but I think I have to work on that myself as well.


The things I can't live without are:
My family
My good friends
My dog
Internet
Good food & drink

The first thing people notice about me:
I appear to be a quiet guy. People usually think I don't talk much and that I am shy when they first meet me. I open up as you get to know me better, then you'll see a whole different side of me

Some additional information I want you to know:
If you want to know more about me, please message me
answerr the questions...what do you like to do for fun? what music do you like?....
My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Spending quality time with good friends & family, being with my dog, playing the guitar, exercising, driving around town, playing video games and watching movies.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
How To Raise The Perfect Dog by Cesar Millan. I recently adopted a puppy so I needed to read this! Contains very useful information about how to raise your puppy.

My friends describe me as:
Funny
Dependable
Genuine
Caring

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From my experience with eharmony...just getting to open communication doesnt mean a date. I d say about only 1 in 4 I got to open communication with I got a date. ...