BabyYoda is offline BabyYoda Post #11  February 9,2012, 8:56am
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mustlovehockey86 wrote :
Thanks for the advice but we live far away and setting up a meeting isn't easy.
If your match is beyond reasonable driving distance, then you will have a difficult time making a connection. Ldr's require a lot of patience and communication in addition to major investments, fiscally and emotionally. The less one communicates with someone adding to the fact that there is great distance between two people, the more likely things will fade away.

I guess you will have to decide how much you are willing to invest in this person and hope for the best. Good luck!

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I'm a big believer in once a day emails. For instance, maybe I respond to all messages/communication between 7-8pm. So if someone messages me at 7:30pm, they might get a response at 7:35pm. If that person chooses to assign "desperate" or "needy" to that timing, I can feel good knowing that it is completely their baggage causing them to read into the timing, and I wouldn't have wanted to date a person like that anyhow. I would recommend for your own sanity adopting a similar mindset.

As to the fact that this person isn't emailing regularly, I wouldn't put a ton of weight on it. If he asks you out, then go out with him and see how he is in person. If not, well, not your problem.
 
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