Profile Review, please... SWF, 38

I know I am verbose, wordy...if that's a part of who I am, however, should I hide that, lure 'em in, then spring "me" on the poor, unsuspecting guy

Many lookers, only a few have communicated. Of those, most became flat and boring almost immediately, so I closed the matches. Please provide constructive feedback.
First WELCOME!
Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
I have always been blessed with Wonderful friends. I would have to say my best friend (since I was 9) Ondreea, because she was able to show me that I am a lovable person--THIS is baggagey and tends to indicate low self estemm. She taught me much about imagination and closeness and we learned together about forgiveness and strong friendship. She is still one of my rocks.

Good answer generally but too long. Two sentences max.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
That you are worthy of my respect. The man who will win my heart will be one who I can respect, admire, adore. Not that we all do not have faults, mind you. This does sound judgmental/preachy. Like you met a lot of men/people who aren't up to your standards.

[DELETE: Overall, however,] I respect a man who knows his mind, is kind, tries hard at everything he does, and does not make excuses. A man who appreciates communication and exudes tenderness toward me.

To me, this sounds like you are a lot of work. Sorry. I mean tries hard at EVERYTHING? really?

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
Especially at work, and with close friends, I am the Ray O'Sunshine. I always greet everyone with a smile. I am upbeat and energetic. People notice that I am smart and not afraid to be so. I love to talk and share what I know. Love to teach. This love to teach/talk/share may sound overwhelming to guys and along with what is above like you are always trying to "fix" people/men/things to make them better/better/best.... I think people tend to find me approachable and interesting. I also have a huge laugh!

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
That, although I am friendly and outgoing to everyone (repeat from above), especially in my work, I also am interested in getting to know people on a deeper level. I have a few acquaintances who I have formed friendships with, and many more who I wish would slow down enough to see that I am really interested in getting to know who they are.

The above is a very long-winded way of saying (I gather) that you want deeper relationships with more people?

What are five things that you "can't live without?"
My family
Bubble Baths I like this. I had this too.
Long walks/exercise
Someone to talk to (you sound like you talk A LOT already btw...maybe change this???)
My cooking tools EXPAND on this....what do you love to cook (I rock a pecan pie), what are you trying now....etc

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
I always have several going at once. I read a lot of cooking/foodie magazines and love to read cookbooks. Read history, biography, survivalist stuff. Informational books on subjects I desire to learn more about. I do a lot of reference reading, rather than reading books straight through. THIS is all fluff....doesn't add substance. Not a lot of fiction.
The last I finished? It was Hazlitt's book, Economics in One Lesson. I loved his very simple examples and his common-sense take on economics. Right now I am reading both "Dress Codes" by Noelle Howey, about growing up with a crossdressing father, and "Declaration" about the era of the Declaration of Independence. THAT is a cool combo.

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I am a romantic person. I crave closeness [THESE two might get you a bunch of guys looking for someone easy/desperate] and am very giving. I have learned much about what makes me tick, what "me" in the right relationship looks and feels like. I'd like to find that person with whom I am at my best.

What are you most passionate about?
LIFE!!! My family, my friends, finding the person who I can share my life, [REdundant my interests and my time with]. I am Passionate about food and cooking, politics and history, being outdoors, teaching and about people and writing and learning. I am a bit of a whirlwind (NO! really?!?) , and require someone who can keep up!

What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
My family THIS IS A DUPLICATE ANSWER that doesn't add any substance. , for the time I am able to spend with them, the comfort and love we share, and how we help each other to grow.
Living everyday. Being an upbeat and friendly person who brings a smile to others. The hope that I will find the person who sees me as I am and loves me for my spirit, passion and joy.
THIS you have said before: All of the things in my life that comfort and inspire me: music TYPE!, writing, [Rednundant: family, friends], books, the outdoors, learning new things. Challenges and the opportunity to grow.

The four things your friends say about you are:
Intelligent
Perceptive
Articulate
Genuine

What are three of my best life skills?
Using humor to make friends laugh
Maintaining an organized life
Raising and/or caring for children

How do you typically spend your leisure time?
Depends on the day...
I enjoy long walks IN the PARK (I never get tired!), bicycling, the beach, hiking, camping, [REDUNDANT spending time with friends and family.] I like concerts (TYPE) and dancing (type), farmers' markets and coffeehouses and hanging out. I love the lake and the pool and being outside. LOVE the Sun!
I cook for fun. I take my kids on adventures (bike rides, to the park or the movies) as often as I am able, but I also love sitting and playing a board game with them.
I like to read and the music is always on around me! LOVE campfires and naps and baths. I like my warm bed.
I'd like to find the man who will love to do all of the above with a unique lady!

Many lookers, only a few have communicated. Of those, most became flat and boring almost immediately, so I closed the matches. Please provide constructive feedback.

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
I have always been blessed with Wonderful friends. I would have to say my best friend (since I was 9) Ondreea, because she was able to show me that I am a lovable person. She taught me much about imagination and closeness and we learned together about forgiveness and strong friendship. She is still one of my rocks.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
That you are worthy of my respect. The man who will win my heart will be one who I can respect, admire, adore. Not that we all do not have faults, mind you.
Overall, however, I respect a man who knows his mind, is kind, tries hard at everything he does, and does not make excuses. A man who appreciates communication and exudes tenderness toward me.


This is a bit wordy and repetative
Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
Especially at work, and with close friends, I am the Ray O'Sunshine. I always greet everyone with a smile. I am upbeat and energetic. People notice that I am smart and not afraid to be so. I love to talk and share what I know. Love to teach. I think people tend to find me approachable and interesting. I also have a huge laugh!

first thing implies one thing.
What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
That, although I am friendly and outgoing to everyone, especially in my work, I also am interested in getting to know people on a deeper level. I have a few acquaintances who I have formed friendships with, and many more who I wish would slow down enough to see that I am really interested in getting to know who they are.

this is a non answer....you havent answered the question. You could put in what you said above about being smart.
What are five things that you "can't live without?"
My family
Bubble Baths
Long walks/exercise
Someone to talk to
My cooking tools

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
I always have several going at once. I read a lot of cooking/foodie magazines and love to read cookbooks. Read history, biography, survivalist stuff. Informational books on subjects I desire to learn more about. I do a lot of reference reading, rather than reading books straight through. Not a lot of fiction.
The last I finished? It was Hazlitt's book, Economics in One Lesson. I loved his very simple examples and his common-sense take on economics. Right now I am reading both "Dress Codes" by Noelle Howey, about growing up with a crossdressing father, and "Declaration" about the era of the Declaration of Independence.

you realize this example is going to open the flood gates on guys who have certain fetishes because you seem more open to them.

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I am a romantic person. I crave closeness and am very giving. I have learned much about what makes me tick, what "me" in the right relationship looks and feels like. I'd like to find that person with whom I am at my best.

What are you most passionate about?
LIFE!!! My family, my friends, finding the person who I can share my life, my interests and my time with. I am Passionate about food and cooking, politics and history, being outdoors, teaching and about people and writing and learning. I am a bit of a whirlwind, and require someone who can keep up!

Passionate about is why you chose your career , is there an interest you love and never give up (cooking??) and why, is there a cause you fight for or volunteer for
What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
My family, for the time I am able to spend with them, the comfort and love we share, and how we help each other to grow.
Living everyday. Being an upbeat and friendly person who brings a smile to others. The hope that I will find the person who sees me as I am and loves me for my spirit, passion and joy.
All of the things in my life that comfort and inspire me: music, writing, family, friends, books, the outdoors, learning new things. Challenges and the opportunity to grow.

The four things your friends say about you are:
Intelligent
Perceptive
Articulate
Genuine

What are three of my best life skills?
Using humor to make friends laugh
Maintaining an organized life
Raising and/or caring for children

How do you typically spend your leisure time?
Depends on the day...
I enjoy long walks (I never get tired!), bicycling, the beach, hiking, camping, spending time with friends and family. I like concerts and dancing, farmers' markets and coffeehouses and hanging out. I love the lake and the pool and being outside. LOVE the Sun!
I cook for fun. I take my kids on adventures (bike rides, to the park or the movies) as often as I am able, but I also love sitting and playing a board game with them.
I like to read and the music is always on around me! LOVE campfires and naps and baths. I like my warm bed.
I'd like to find the man who will love to do all of the above with a unique lady!

rYou need to be specific---what music? what movies? where do you like to bike? Also dont say you love something here but its something you rarely do. Dont say you love the beach and live in say Kansas where there are no beaches.