BabyYoda is offline BabyYoda Post #21  February 9,2012, 2:16pm
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What to say in the first email can be very nerve wracking. You don't want to send a message so cheesy or creepy that the reader will delete it. But you also don't want to send a boring message, For example, hey, how's it going? What you say in the first email and how you say it will determine whether or not the person reading it will message you back or not. How would you send someone a message that would be enticing and inviting without being to cheesy about it?
I think you are over analyzing things. First emails may be important for some people, but you don't have to think of some amazing sentences on order to capture someone's attention.

All you have to do is greet your match, give a light compliment of said person and/or profile and ask a question or two about said profile and/or person. Basically, be polite and inquisitive. Show interest without being over the top with it.

Lastly, learn your audience and have the flexibility to adjust to various personalities. Also, understand that the goal isn't to win literary awards, but to win the heart of someone which can only be achieved through person to person interaction. Oh, try to avoid getting caught up in interview style email exchanges. Make sure you share ideas as well as interests with each other to keep the convo flowing, not to mention engaging and interesting.

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Ingy, while you might not wait 5 or 6 months to sleep with your boyfriend, many people do. Not everyone who chooses to wait is religious. Every couple is free to pick the timeline that feels comfortable for them.

Otherwise, great post!
It's a rarity that I ever have seen someone wait 5 or 6 months (besides Jussmile on the boards but then she gave in her last guy!..LOL)....But I've never met anyone who every waits that long unless they are religious...Most people who have any type of time table that are non religious reasons are usually hung up on trying to control the relationship by "getting something" first before they "give out"..

Most mature, sexual, adults don't have an arbitrary time that they wait....it is different for everyone....I'm not a first date gal...but I could never wait 5 or 6 months....Again...going on what the norm is...

That's why I asked the question to him
 
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And one could argue that never having sex on a first date is arbitrary.

You have sex on a timeframe that works for you. So does everyone else. That timeframe will differ from couple to couple. And the reasons will be as varied as the people.

I have seen posters, other than jussmile, post in threads that they do not have sex before about six months. I have also seen posters say that they have sex on a first date.

I'm not looking to change your views on when couples should have sex. I'm simply pointing out that not every couple follows your timeline, and they are well within their right to "stray" from your view.
That's all.

Otherwise, I really liked your post, and thought it was spot on.
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
And one could argue that never having sex on a first date is arbitrary.

You have sex on a timeframe that works for you. So does everyone else. That timeframe will differ from couple to couple. And the reasons will be as varied as the people.

I have seen posters, other than jussmile, post in threads that they do not have sex before about six months. I have also seen posters say that they have sex on a first date.

I'm not looking to change your views on when couples should have sex. I'm simply pointing out that not every couple follows your timeline, and they are well within their right to "stray" from your view.
That's all.

Otherwise, I really liked your post, and thought it was spot on.
I never said I've "never" had sex on the first date....

I'm not saying anyone has to follow my timeline...not sure where you got that...I was simply asking the OP about HIS timeline and reasoning....that's all....
 
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It hasn't advanced that far. We've only been dating for five months.
"only" 5 months and no sex. That's extremely unusual.
 
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I never said I've "never" had sex on the first date....

I'm not saying anyone has to follow my timeline...not sure where you got that...I was simply asking the OP about HIS timeline and reasoning....that's all....
Misinterpreted what you meant by not being a first date girl...my bad! I guess you aren't arbitrary!
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
Misinterpreted what you meant by not being a first date girl...my bad! I guess you aren't arbitrary!
Just trying to keep it light...But yes...that's not my typical M.O...but can't say I've never done a few times
 
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