PG-13 is offline PG-13 Post #51  February 10,2012, 2:24pm
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not all of the keywords, no, because I don't want to date me but I think I accurately describe myself.

the interests that are important, yes (but like I've said before, my music/movie tastes, the sports I like - don't matter much as long as my matches don't actively dislike any of it)

My last profile revision and adding some more pictures - worked well - I haven't been instaclosed in 2 days by anyone, I got a ton of communication (including one of my personal top 10 to date), and 2 dates lined up... So thanks everybody because it is turning around for me.
 
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Awwww.....and as always it comes down to the most parsimonious explanation. Pictures!!!! Duh. Duh. Duh. Its always about the pictures!! Good luck pg.
 
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I removed the picture of me throwing up a solid stream of milk after trying the gallon milk challenge in college, of me kissing my ex, of me chugging a beer, and of me with my "fun hole + down arrow" tshirt and then my matches seem to care more!!

(that was all sarcasm - in reality, I just found some better pictures)
 
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PG-13 wrote :
1. If you decided to stay at home for the evening would you tend to:

A) Watch TV
B) Clean
C) Talk on the phone
D) Read
2. Which of the following indoor activities sounds like the most fun to you?

A) Cooking
B) Shopping
C) Bowling
D) Watching a video 3. Your idea of adventure is:

A) Whitewater rafting
B) Karaoke singing
C) Trying a different route to work
D) Ordering a dish you've never tried before 4. Which sort of date sounds like the most fun to you?

A) Attend a lecture on a topic that appeals to both of you
B) Go bargain hunting at a local flea market or antique shop
C) Go bowling
D) Visit a local comedy club 5. How often do you find yourself laughing?

A) I crack myself up!
B) I try to laugh all the time and get serious only when it's needed.
C) Most of my time is spent being serious but I like an occasional good laugh.
D) I'm generally a pretty serious person.
PG...

To start, I'll repeat the plea that's been raised here countless times. When asking for input, it's helpful if your message board profile had some basic stats, to get an idea of who you are. All I know is your gender and what you've told us here. Not much to go with. From your first posting, I thought you were female, as I have closed matches that started communication with me. Generally because of physical attraction with a more minor reason, distance.

Based on your answers here, you sound like many of the matches I get. That's not a plus OR negative, but we're different but it doesn't mean we wouldn't be a match. This leads me to two basic points which might explain these 'instant closings.'

1. Your profession and profile description into your personality thereof. 2. Region of the country.

One of the things many women say brings them to places like eHarmony is '...finding someone serious.' That means a stable, healthy career/income. For all I know you have a washboard stomach and an executive with GE or IBM (which I tried to fire you in a couple proxy statements...lol) or, you manage a surf shop or freelance writer. The former in that list will generate more positive results. Do you mention vacations in your profile, since you appear very lifestyle/leisure oriented ? Are they vacations to help build schools in Africa/Central America or tours of Asia and Europe in fine hotels ? The former may be very admirable and by your matches, but more will be interested in the latter for comfort. By the way, this doesn't mean gold digger. True gold diggers would stick around long enough to see if there is hidden money via family and non-lifestyle wealth.

Region of the country can be telling as well. Having lived in different regions of the country in my adult life, I have found general patterns. Very broadly; The East is earnest, the Midwest, stable, high worth ethic, West is more leisure and lifestyle with Southern California being a haven for artists and emotions. These come with pluses and minuses. One could also raise the urban vs rural divide as well with urban areas being more sophisticated and rural more 'provincial,' in very broad stereotypes.

But, eHarmony may not be for you. In open ended, searchable profiles, you might be able to articulate your point and image more freely and that might be more liberating.
 
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charmed59 wrote :
The keywords you are looking for, are they also in your profile?

Are all the shared interests you are looking for mentioned in your profile?

On other dating sites I got emails from guys saying we had tons in common, and reading their profile I couldn't see anything we'd have in common. So make sure when they go back and read your profile they see the keywords and shared interests you see.
This is exactly what I was going to ask. As of the last review we saw of the OP's profile, there was a lot in it that didn't say much of anything about his interests and passions. I think that women wouldn't get a good idea from his profile that they have anything in common with the OP.

I'm wondering if it is what he is not saying in his profile that is causing his matches to next him.
 
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Noname,

Region of the country - Pacific NW - Seattle area (actually about 30 miles south)... and I have no shortage of matches. I actually just turned off "new matches" because...
Update - I had a pretty decent first date last friday, another first date lined up for thursday, a second date with last friday's date on saturday, and I just got a phone number through OC so I might be getting a third "first date" imminently.
Like I thought, I finally got my profile tweaked and a couple better pics and I'm pretty gtg.
Also, my favoritest active match (not one of the above) is interested in meeting up with me and she's on a 2 week vacation (so it wouldnt be until early March), so that's a potential 4th first date further out.

So with that amount of interest, I'm a little more over getting closed by a bunch of other people.

I've actually never been outside the country ever (not even to Canada). So as far as vacations to foreign countries, haven't done it. Mostly because I've been different degrees of broke for most of my life (as far as an elaborate vacation goes). I've roadtripped to Yellowstone once, to Cali a bunch, done Disneyworld, visited Alaska (where I have family) all within the last 10 or so years, so I have traveled.

As far as job, right now I'm actively working at Cost Plus World Market as a sales associate and backup beverage department lead. I also am employed as a sales rep at a window company (but haven't worked there since October, but haven't been fired, just haven't been needed) and have my emergency sub certification (but am the last person on the sub list and haven't been used yet). I also have other job apps out looking for something better and more permanent. My line in my profile has "retail/sub teacher/sales" as my job which is accurate.

So there you go, more info about me.
 
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Glad to hear you're getting a bit more interest in your profile. Hope things work out well with all the matches.
 
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Happy to hear things are picking up for you, PG. Hope you find those outdoorsy women you seek and get to fourth, fifth dates.

Cost Plus has those cute and affordable picnic baskets for fun in the great outdoors. Hmmm ... wonder if you get the employee discount?

Those new photos must be way better than the ones you initially posted. I guess women are pretty visual too. I hope you find a solid partner. Please keep us posted, and thanks for sharing your journey with us.
 
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