Goomph is offline Goomph — Advice Member-Moderator Post #11  February 5,2012, 10:49am
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Yes, they close you, and you can have them archived automatically when they do that. So he closed you. He might assume that now that you are communication outside eH, why not close her...

You need to text him and figure things out ...
 
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There is no way for you (general you) to know if someone has archived you. You would only see changes for communications, closings, nudges, etc. Just because it ended up in your archive tab does not indicate anything, actually. I have some people that I archived first, they started communication and now, when we're in a limbo state (nudges, photo request) it automatically goes back to the archive tab. I even have one that I sent an OC to and is now under the archive tab, not the communication tab.

As long as one side doesn't say "closed" you're good.
 
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On certain apps there have been glitches similar to this...Don't take it personally...just proceed as you would. ...Good luck..
 
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That's what I was thinking, depending on what application you or he is using, things might have happened based on the application.

Just get in touch with him ...

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On certain apps there have been glitches similar to this...Don't take it personally...just proceed as you would. ...Good luck..
 
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As a new user, I am still trying to figure out the EH system- it is not IMO user friendly. Since there was no "favorites" list I was archiving the people that I liked before I realized what the archives were for. My 2 cents.
 
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NotGettingYounger, the archive feature is for whatever you want it to be. It can used to put people "on hold" or keep the list of people you like, waiting on a response for a photo, etc. It doesn't "have" to be for those you don't like or whatever because NO ONE but you sees this list.
 
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Once you've initiated communication with a match through eHarm, you cannot archive the match; you have to "close" it if you choose to move it off of your active list. So, if he ended up in your archive list, it's because he closed the match. And, like others said, that could simply be the result of him moving outside of eHarm with you. (Then again, it would raise a red flag for me that the guy may not be totally focused on getting to know me. I know that I go back to a profile several times, even after Date #1, to read things after they have a new context for me.)
 
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I wouldn't worry too much, I close matches after setting up a date too, just so my communication page isnt so overly crowded. You can also go back and view a closed match if you log-in with a PC (not sure about the apps).

You know what they say about people who assume..... lol! I agree that you should call him, ask him about the details of the date. I don't think you should straight out ask him "Why did you close our match?" ...how he/she decides to work their eharmony account is really up to them. I wouldn't want to explain my M.O to someone before our first date lol!
 
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ts quite common for people who have gotten to person emails , calling or texting to archive these matches. I wouldnt read into it any more than that.
 
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Ephemera wrote :
Is that really how it works? I thought that if I archived someone it was not relayed in any way to them, just a place to store them in my lists. I had no idea that every time I archived someone it appeared on their list, too. Are you sure about that?
I'm pretty sure if you close someone they go to archive...matches don't know if they've been archived.

I don't close matches unless I'm not interested in them...I'd see if he contacts you before your supposed to meet.
 
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