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RayJ33 is offline RayJ33 Post #1  February 3,2012, 5:43pm
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Hi community I am new to EH and just finished making my profile almost complete but still suffering problems. I would like advice on how to word my responses better to my profile questions to help me with why no one replying or messaging me. I haven't been having luck with my profile...I get looks but no response either when I initiate conversation first or when they view my profile first. Help will be much appreciated!




The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am most passionate about sports, culture, and travelling/adventuring. I am someone who loves to try new things also learning from different cultures in style, health and entertainment. I also like to travel, and visit new places I've never been before meeting new people and seen new places.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Anyone shorter than me which is not hard to find,just kidding...but seriously I am looking for a person who is fun, has a good sense of humor, loves movies/sports, dance, and willing to try out new things with me together

Basic Information

Occupation:
Student/Athlete
Age
23
Height
6' 6"
Wants Kids:
No
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
African-American
Religion:
Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks:
Never
Smokes:
Never
In my own words
The three things which I am most thankful for:

Being born into a good family with great parents to support me. They always support me on whatever I decide to do and never make me feel uncomfortable with decisions I make.
I am thankful for being a healthy,tall, young, athletic, and handsome, young man with a lot of potential for the future.
Also I am thankful for being a very fair person who see all people equally and willing to accept people no matter their race,sex, family background and religion
Three of my best life-skills are:

Using humor to make friends laugh
Keeping physically fit
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

I wish people would notice right away that I am actually a funny guy and love to joke around a lot, so don't take me or what I say too serious all the time

Some additional information I want you to know:

My name is Ray-Ray and I’m from DC. I recently moved back from the west coast and now attending college in this area. I am a senior and my major is in physical ed. , I also play NCAA division II basketball as a Power Forward. Currently I am very busy with the basketball season and school. I would like to meet someone special to hang out with during my free time. Somebody to watch a good movie with, dinning out together, dancing and maybe watch a few of my games I play in. Just ask if you like to know more.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

I love to play basketball or doing almost any athletic competing event. Also I like to watch anime/asian drama shows, play video games, and dance.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Physically Fit
Good Listener
Generous
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  February 4,2012, 7:13am
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Since I'm not your target audience, I'm not going to comment much on your profile other than it seems OK. Not exciting, but OK. From what I've read on here though, there's few people in your age group using eH so this may not be your best resource.

What I find baffling is that you attend a university in a major metro area and can't find a date on campus. Plus you're on the basketball team. Things must've really changed since I went to college.

Anyway, try taking a couple of elective courses that are taken predominately by women and try to strike up a little one-on-one that way. I think you'll have better results than on eH.
 
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RayJ33 is offline RayJ33 Post #3  February 4,2012, 8:29am
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Since I'm not your target audience, I'm not going to comment much on your profile other than it seems OK. Not exciting, but OK. From what I've read on here though, there's few people in your age group using eH so this may not be your best resource.

What I find baffling is that you attend a university in a major metro area and can't find a date on campus. Plus you're on the basketball team. Things must've really changed since I went to college.

Anyway, try taking a couple of elective courses that are taken predominately by women and try to strike up a little one-on-one that way. I think you'll have better results than on eH.
Funny that you say that but you are right....No I don't have a problems finding dates or girls to hang out with. Everyone has their own reason for using a dating site, I use it so I can find girls who suit my preference and have similar hobbies/interest as mine because in person it's kind of hard to find people with similar interests as mine.... for example watching anime/asian drama, or anime. It's hard to find people with those interests since most are introverts, shy, or my race just not their type (Asian girl with African-American).

Also my age don't matter so what? I am really young to be using this site just give me a benefit of a doubt for being a very mature 23 year old male.

Anyway thanks for replying and trying to help...
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RayJ33 wrote :
Funny that you say that but you are right....No I don't have a problems finding dates or girls to hang out with. Everyone has their own reason for using a dating site, I use it so I can find girls who suit my preference and have similar hobbies/interest as mine because in person it's kind of hard to find people with similar interests as mine.... for example watching anime/asian drama, or anime. It's hard to find people with those interests since most are introverts, shy, or my race just not their type (Asian girl with African-American).

Also my age don't matter so what? I am really young to be using this site just give me a benefit of a doubt for being a very mature 23 year old male.

Anyway thanks for replying and trying to help...
I think he was just pointing out that the majority of eH's users are 30+.

If you are looking for someone who is into anime and manga I would check out geek2geek. Plenty of younger girls of all ethnicities.

Profile seems fine to me, nothing stands out as being off-putting. I might recommend trying to punch it up a bit though, let your personality shine through more.
 
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I'm also not your target audience...you'll have to wait for the ladies to chime in.....however , I agree..more and more people in your age range are using online dating...including eH...

Your profile is well written, does show the maturity you have.
It also reflects your ambitions and values very well and stated in an interesting way. Other areas also reflect your style and interests in both a fun and informative manner.

Very well written, interesting profile....you'll do well...Good Luck
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Also my age don't matter so what? I am really young to be using this site just give me a benefit of a doubt for being a very mature 23 year old male.
 
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A 23-year old male who does not want to have kids (not ever? not even maybe someday? are you sure?) is going to have a hard time attracting a serious relationship with a similar-aged female. Not saying there aren't young women out there who don't want to have kids, but you've severely limited your pool of matches.

Also, eH tends to attract women looking for relationships, not just someone to "hang out with." You come across as a guy looking for a woman for "a good time" rather than for a relationship. That could be why you get few responses.

And tall isn't always a most desirable attribute. I would rather date someone my height or shorter than someone over a foot taller than me. I am also personally turned off by men who describe themselves as "handsome." Let me look at the photos and decide for myself. To describe yourself that way sounds conceited.

Just a few things for you to consider....
 
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Reverse_Dragon wrote :
I think he was just pointing out that the majority of eH's users are 30+.

If you are looking for someone who is into anime and manga I would check out geek2geek. Plenty of younger girls of all ethnicities.

Profile seems fine to me, nothing stands out as being off-putting. I might recommend trying to punch it up a bit though, let your personality shine through more.
Thanks for your reply and advice so what questions should I add more personality too or which questions are my answers a little too dull?

Also I have already tried Geek2Geek before not many people in my area on that site + too many non-paying and fake member profiles there. I even tried Zoosk which has a lot of young people on it and some with same interest but not many people are paying profile members sad to say......
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
I'm also not your target audience...you'll have to wait for the ladies to chime in.....however , I agree..more and more people in your age range are using online dating...including eH...

Your profile is well written, does show the maturity you have.
It also reflects your ambitions and values very well and stated in an interesting way. Other areas also reflect your style and interests in both a fun and informative manner.

Very well written, interesting profile....you'll do well...Good Luck
Thank you, and yea that's true there are a lot more younger people using dating sites these days. That is why I am here since it's starting to get a little more popular these days but hopefully you are right and things will get better for me with online dating.
 
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A 23-year old male who does not want to have kids (not ever? not even maybe someday? are you sure?) is going to have a hard time attracting a serious relationship with a similar-aged female. Not saying there aren't young women out there who don't want to have kids, but you've severely limited your pool of matches.

Also, eH tends to attract women looking for relationships, not just someone to "hang out with." You come across as a guy looking for a woman for "a good time" rather than for a relationship. That could be why you get few responses.

And tall isn't always a most desirable attribute. I would rather date someone my height or shorter than someone over a foot taller than me. I am also personally turned off by men who describe themselves as "handsome." Let me look at the photos and decide for myself. To describe yourself that way sounds conceited.

Just a few things for you to consider....
That is not technically true a lot people these days have kid in early 30 to mid 30s these days and most people that usually have kids in early 20s or teens definitely wasn't planned.

True you are right I guess I could appear like I am looking for a one night stand... I'll fix that right away

Also height is a preference.... Most women I have met like tall guys. Funny thing is in my opinion being tall is a good thing and every place I go I am always noticed. Anyway there is nothing I can do about being tall on my profile.... why even comment on that? Are you suggesting I should lie about my height? Yea you are right saying I am handsome does sound conceited but nothing is wrong being confident I personally like people who are confident in themselves. Okay I can arrange that on the picture part no problem ! Just kidding.... Anyway thanks for the advice especially on the hanging out part
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RayJ33 wrote :
That is not technically true a lot people these days have kid in early 30 to mid 30s these days and most people that usually have kids in early 20s or teens definitely wasn't planned.

True you are right I guess I could appear like I am looking for a one night stand... I'll fix that right away

Also height is a preference.... Most women I have met like tall guys. Funny thing is in my opinion being tall is a good thing and every place I go I am always noticed. Anyway there is nothing I can do about being tall on my profile.... why even comment on that? Are you suggesting I should lie about my height? Yea you are right saying I am handsome does sound conceited but nothing is wrong being confident I personally like people who are confident in themselves. Okay I can arrange that on the picture part no problem ! Just kidding.... Anyway thanks for the advice especially on the hanging out part
I'm not saying you should lie about ANYTHING. You are tall. You mention you play basketball and your profiles says you're 6'6". Your matches aren't going to miss out on that fact. To say you're also so "thankful" that you're tall and handsome just sounds so superficial and full of yourself. You are no more responsible for being 6'6" than the next guy who is 5'3" is responsible for his height. You saying you're thankful for being tall is like a woman saying she's thankful for having natural DDs. Get it?

Your answer to the "want kids?" question is "no." "No" on this question generally means "never" on these sites. As in, No, I do not want to have kids. It doesn't ask if you want them now... it asks if you ever want kids. Most sane people realize you won't want to have kids with them immediately. If you want to have kids in your 30s, you would probably be best to answer "maybe" or even "yes" and elaborate somewhere else in your profile.
 
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