Last 14 days, do you open up your settings ???


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Hi,

My eH subcsription is expiring in 14 days. I lowered the importance setting of all the things I could very low so that I could get higher number of matches. My matches had dwindled down already to a few a day.

Is this something you folks do ? If you did this, did you date any of those flex or half-flex matches ? I just wanted to maximize the chances that I might meet with someone I can click before my subscription runs out.
 
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Im not really sure what settings I would change personally - I mean, I could switch back to people with kids already, but Id get a bunch of kid obsessive profiles... but my distance range and non smoker would stay the same regardless. I'd say try it out and report back on how it went with really loose settings
 
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I did not lower the non smoker .... But almost everything else went down a few notches ... I shall report my findings
 
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Goomph - I think you may be confused by what a "flex-match" really is (or is supposed to be, anyway).

Even your "flex-matches" still meet all the dimensions of "compatibility" based on your personality questionnaire. They only thing "flexy" about them are things that fall outside your preferences (i.e. your settings and the importance levels). For instance, say you lower your "How many times a week do you prefer your match to drink" setting from "a few times a year" to "several times per week", you may start getting more matches that drink "several times per week". These will no longer be "flex-matches", as you have lowered your settings. They would be "flex-matches" if you kept your settings at their previous higher rate.

At least, that's how I believe flex-matches work. When I was active on EH, it seemed that many/most of my matches seemed to be "flex-matches", but I could not usually figure out what was "flexy" about them. Perhaps distance? I had my settings tight at 30 miles, but I would often get matches 60-100 miles away.

At any rate, I never found that most of my matches seemed all that compatible with me. If I ever give EH another shot, I am going to retake the questionnaire, because I sometimes felt that EH was sending me my complete opposite, instead of anyone who was compatible.
 
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Changing "importance" without actually changing the settings only does so much..

Also change your self descriptors with regard to lifestyle,religion,etc. For example if you put "spiritual, not religious" for yourself and "any religion ", zero importance, your match batch will increase significantly. Many people box themselves in (or eliminate matches) with a specific religion...

Also widen your distance radius ..and you can change the zip to be the next largest city to you.
 
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The biggest impact with your match count would be to expand your distaces settings. When I had mine to say nationwide or many states I would get 7-8 matches a day. The reason its 2-3 for you is probably they have to slow it down because the tank will run dry.
 
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I got my full complement of dates today, a lof of them were above my prefferred cut off date on the high side. That is the only difference I noticed.
 
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My settings were always fairly open anyway, because the variables that eH lets you specify as criteria are not the ones I really cared about, anyway. I also found that changing my settings didn't always change the matches I got. For example, I could make my distance setting more restrictive but still get matches from outside the distance I selected.

In your case, it sounds like you don't have much to lose. Might as well increase your options.
 
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