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golferguy is offline golferguy Post #1  January 29,2012, 6:04am
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I've sent about 30 guided communication and maybe a handful of custom emails and I have not gotten any responses. Does this type of thing take time? Should I always send a custom email? Seems like other people I've talk to have had better results than me.

Anybody have any thoughts or advice on this?

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Up to 75% of your "matches" are nonpaying members who can not communicate.

They can log in, view your profile (but not pics), send icebreakers and smiles.... so there is the impression of "activity".

Best to not send icebreakers ,smiles or go direct to eH mail.
Send the first question to those who interest you....respond / follow up promptly to those who contact you.

Also, if you are getting matches your setting may be OK, but you can tweak them for a larger batch. Make sure your profile and pics are recent and well written

Focus on the ones who respond...Good luck..
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I've sent about 30 guided communication and maybe a handful of custom emails and I have not gotten any responses.
 
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golferguy is offline golferguy Post #3  January 29,2012, 6:24am
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So even the profiles with pictures in them can also be non paying member's?

I tried not sending to many eH mails.

Tweaking them for a larger batch as in expanding my area or are there other ways?

On a side not, I have been getting guided communication from woman, but they have all been not my type
 
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Personal observation: Our 'type' is usually not our type. Meet people first, then decide. You don't know anything from a few grainy pics and a half-canned profile. The only person you hurt/hold back with your pickiness is you. If you don't think the eH process is giving you matches that appeal to you, then you are wasting your money with eH. Go out there and meet women. Does you no good at all if you dismiss the women that are interested in you and focus on the few words and pics of the ones you find appealing that are not interested in responding to you.
 
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In your experience, have you met a match and then become friends (no attraction for each other) but then met one of her friends or someone her social circle that you hit it off with....curious to know how this scenario might play out...

Saying that, I did respond to one of the woman who initiated the GC
 
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Ephemera wrote :
Personal observation: Our 'type' is usually not our type. Meet people first, then decide. You don't know anything from a few grainy pics and a half-canned profile. The only person you hurt/hold back with your pickiness is you. ...
I disagree. First of all pics are not grainy most of the time. If one is attracted to slender women, there is no reason to meet the overweight ones that are not going to appeal to one.

The most precious resource we have is time, and wasting it by going to dates with unappealing women is not a good idea.
 
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In your experience, have you met a match and then become friends (no attraction for each other) but then met one of her friends or someone her social circle that you hit it off with....curious to know how this scenario might play out...

Saying that, I did respond to one of the woman who initiated the GC
Nope this kind of thing happens on tv, not real life. People use EH to find mates, not to make friends and increase their social circle. You will find that once the 'no chemistry' factor is there, you will never see each other again.
Might I suggest Meetup.com, if you are looking for more 'social circle' ways to meet women ?
 
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I've sent about 30 guided communication and maybe a handful of custom emails and I have not gotten any responses. Does this type of thing take time? Should I always send a custom email? Seems like other people I've talk to have had better results than me.

Anybody have any thoughts or advice on this?

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Bad picture(s), perhaps...
 
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golferguy is offline golferguy Post #9  January 29,2012, 7:27am
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Bad picture(s), perhaps...
I would of thought that like 10 years ago, but I feel I'm moderately attractive person. Some people are also not photogenic...just seems like a numbers game
 
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1) Yes... they can fill out a profile and upload pics and be non-paying, non-communicating.
2) Good idea..send the questions...you can cut to eH mail at any time during GC.
3) Distance, age, lifestyle, religion, preferences, importance of preferences.. Also your own self-descriptors can be tweaked
4) You can close or archive those who are "not your type"

Also... Eh is to introduce you to "matches"...not lead you to their hotter friends.....

You can have your profile posted here for a peer review and tips...if the women you want aren't responding....Good Luck...
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1)So even the profiles with pictures in them can also be non paying member's?

2)I tried not sending to many eH mails.

3)Tweaking them for a larger batch as in expanding my area or are there other ways?

4)On a side not, I have been getting guided communication from woman, but they have all been not my type
 
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