kerrida.k is offline kerrida.k Post #1  January 28,2012, 8:26pm
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Thanks for the input!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Only one thing? People, if it has to be only one thing. My family & friends are the best in the world; I love my church family, and I love taking care of people at work. "Love God, love people."

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A spiritual leader is a must-have for me. A man who can lead me toward Jesus every day we're together. A man who can not only handle but appreciate that fact that I'm a strong, capable woman, and not a delicate flower.

Basic Information
Occupation:
RN
Age
27
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No

Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
My friend A.K. has been very influential in my life; she's a big part of the reason I became a nurse, and I definitely admire her marriage & family life. She's just a little older than me, and it's so cool to see someone my age with such a healthy marriage.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family & friends; my parents have been married almost 34 years, and I respect them so much for that. My siblings & friends are the coolest & best in the world.
-My good health. I'm very blessed with a tough constitution!
-The flexibility my career allows me. I can work just about anywhere, with any hours, as a nurse.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:That I'm friendly & not stuck up. Large groups are not my forté, so when I meet people in a crowd I probably come off as a little standoff-ish, when in fact I just feel more comfortable in a smaller crowd.

The things I can't live without are:
my faith in Jesus
my family & friends
flexibility in my career
being outdoors
coffee & my contacts- I can't pick between them!

The first thing people notice about me:
Is smile part of my appearance? I guess it is. Hopefully my kindness- or maybe my quick wit!

Some additional information I want you to know:
I hate old, worn out socks. I love fresh, homegrown vegetables. I don't really care much about college football. (Heretical in the south, I know.) If there was such a thing as a dishwasher-loading competition, I could win one. But on a more serious note: While I'm not in a hurry, I am pretty serious about a relationship that can be long-term. I'm not really about just dating to be dating; I want a relationship to be consciously looking to figure out if we could spend a lifetime together. Marriage means till death do us part to me.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time
Hanging out with my family & close friends is always fun, no matter what we're up to. I've recently taken up running, and I'm enjoying it a lot more than I expected to; I'm actually training for a half-marathon in May! When I get the chance, I like to ride horses. I also enjoying kayaking (flat water only so far), hiking, whitewater rafting (if I lived closer to the Ocoee, I'd be on it every day that I could), and things like that. I have been known to buy a plane ticket for somewhere 12 hours before it was time for take-off...

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read Rick Bragg's story about Jessica Lynch, more because it was Rick Bragg than because it was about Jessica Lynch. But it was very good. I've read all but one of his books, and they feel very familiar to me; the people he talks about and the way life was for his ancestors sounds very similar to where my family came from (just not quite as rough as his!).
 
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kerrida.k wrote :
Thanks for the input!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Only one thing? People, if it has to be only one thing. My family & friends are the best in the world; I love my church family, and I love taking care of people at work. "Love God, love people."

Passionate about is the reason why you chose your career....is there a hobby or interest or cause you fight for? Is there something you volunteer for?

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A spiritual leader is a must-have for me. A man who can lead me toward Jesus every day we're together. A man who can not only handle but appreciate that fact that I'm a strong, capable woman, and not a delicate flower.

Right off the bat you are talking all religion all the time. This is going to turn away many of your matches. Eharminy is not a religious match maker.

Its ok to mention your religious views but you only want to do this once. Saying twice or more in your profile says your a bible thumper.



Basic Information
Occupation:
RN
Age
27
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No

Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
My friend A.K. has been very influential in my life; she's a big part of the reason I became a nurse, and I definitely admire her marriage & family life. She's just a little older than me, and it's so cool to see someone my age with such a healthy marriage.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family & friends; my parents have been married almost 34 years, and I respect them so much for that. My siblings & friends are the coolest & best in the world.
-My good health. I'm very blessed with a tough constitution!
-The flexibility my career allows me. I can work just about anywhere, with any hours, as a nurse.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:That I'm friendly & not stuck up. Large groups are not my forté, so when I meet people in a crowd I probably come off as a little standoff-ish, when in fact I just feel more comfortable in a smaller crowd.

this is saying you are a stuck up...

The things I can't live without are:
my faith in Jesus
my family & friends
flexibility in my career
being outdoors
coffee & my contacts- I can't pick between them!

The first thing people notice about me:
Is smile part of my appearance? I guess it is. Hopefully my kindness- or maybe my quick wit!

Some additional information I want you to know:
I hate old, worn out socks. I love fresh, homegrown vegetables. I don't really care much about college football. (Heretical in the south, I know.) If there was such a thing as a dishwasher-loading competition, I could win one. But on a more serious note: While I'm not in a hurry, I am pretty serious about a relationship that can be long-term. I'm not really about just dating to be dating; I want a relationship to be consciously looking to figure out if we could spend a lifetime together. Marriage means till death do us part to me.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time
Hanging out with my family & close friends is always fun, no matter what we're up to. I've recently taken up running, and I'm enjoying it a lot more than I expected to; I'm actually training for a half-marathon in May! When I get the chance, I like to ride horses. I also enjoying kayaking (flat water only so far), hiking, whitewater rafting (if I lived closer to the Ocoee, I'd be on it every day that I could), and things like that. I have been known to buy a plane ticket for somewhere 12 hours before it was time for take-off...

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read Rick Bragg's story about Jessica Lynch, more because it was Rick Bragg than because it was about Jessica Lynch. But it was very good. I've read all but one of his books, and they feel very familiar to me; the people he talks about and the way life was for his ancestors sounds very similar to where my family came from (just not quite as rough as his!).
See above in blue..

I understand religion is important to you but its heavy in your profile so that could scare some who are religious away.

At your age .....pictures do matter on your profile. Also...are you initiating communication or are you waiting for them to communicate with you? What are your age and distance settings?
 
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kerrida.k wrote :
Thanks for the input!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Only one thing? People, if it has to be only one thing. My family & friends are the best in the world; I love my church family, and I love taking care of people at work. "Love God, love people."


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A spiritual leader is a must-have for me. A man who can lead me toward Jesus every day we're together. A man who can not only handle but appreciate that fact that I'm a strong, capable woman, and not a delicate flower.

I'm a Catholic, and I'd love a religious partner too.... but sweetie, maybe God's plan for you is to strengthen someone else's faith? Think about it and try not to narrow down your options by listing this as THE MOST IMPORTANT thing..... especially since this isnt ChristianSingles, etc.

Basic Information
Occupation:
RN
Age
27
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No

Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
My friend A.K. has been very influential in my life; she's a big part of the reason I became a nurse, and I definitely admire her marriage & family life. She's just a little older than me, and it's so cool to see someone my age with such a healthy marriage.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
-My family & friends; my parents have been married almost 34 years, and I respect them so much for that. My siblings & friends are the coolest & best in the world.
-My good health. I'm very blessed with a tough constitution!
-The flexibility my career allows me. I can work just about anywhere, with any hours, as a nurse.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:That I'm friendly & not stuck up. Large groups are not my forté, so when I meet people in a crowd I probably come off as a little standoff-ish, when in fact I just feel more comfortable in a smaller crowd.

Why do you feel more comfortable in a smaller crowd? If you're mentioning it... it might be good to explain why and not let someone form their own assumption/opinion.

The things I can't live without are:
my faith in Jesus
my family & friends
flexibility in my career
being outdoors
coffee & my contacts- I can't pick between them!

The first thing people notice about me:
Is smile part of my appearance? I guess it is. Hopefully my kindness- or maybe my quick wit!

Some additional information I want you to know:
I hate old, worn out socks. I love fresh, homegrown vegetables. I don't really care much about college football. (Heretical in the south, I know.) If there was such a thing as a dishwasher-loading competition, I could win one. But on a more serious note: While I'm not in a hurry, I am pretty serious about a relationship that can be long-term. I'm not really about just dating to be dating; I want a relationship to be consciously looking to figure out if we could spend a lifetime together. Marriage means till death do us part to me.

I like what you did here! I wrote something similar (bunch of random facts) but I suggest cutting your "serious note" in half.... its just TOO much too soon. Try stopping at, "...a relationship that can be long-term." Period. And save the rest for later, if he mentions it in GC, OC, or on a date.

Stating you want long-term already implies that you're not dating just to date, and that marriage could be in the future. Keep some cards in your deck for a later conversation.


My interests
I typically spend my leisure time
Hanging out with my family & close friends is always fun, no matter what we're up to. I've recently taken up running, and I'm enjoying it a lot more than I expected to; I'm actually training for a half-marathon in May! When I get the chance, I like to ride horses. I also enjoying kayaking (flat water only so far), hiking, whitewater rafting (if I lived closer to the Ocoee, I'd be on it every day that I could), and things like that. I have been known to buy a plane ticket for somewhere 12 hours before it was time for take-off...

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read Rick Bragg's story about Jessica Lynch, more because it was Rick Bragg than because it was about Jessica Lynch. But it was very good. I've read all but one of his books, and they feel very familiar to me; the people he talks about and the way life was for his ancestors sounds very similar to where my family came from (just not quite as rough as his!).
I agree with ami1uwant.... pictures speak a thousand words. Make sure you have a variety up, close ups, body shots, group shots, some with you maybe at a marathon or kayaking?

And don't be shy to initiate communication.... and I mean starting GC and not icebreakers. Icebreakers are used mostly by non-paying members and some don't pay them any attention.

Good luck
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Thanks for the suggestions! I have tweaked quite a few things. I have only about 5 pics so far, but I'm scouring thru trying to find some good action shots. My distance & age settings are pretty wide; 120 miles, and a couple years younger to almost 10 years older. I have sent out quite a few GC questions (at least 20, maybe more, and I've only been a subscriber for a week), but haven't gotten any response yet. I'll try to send out more questions so maybe I can get some responses. Any other tips?
 
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kerrida.k wrote :
Thanks for the suggestions! I have tweaked quite a few things. I have only about 5 pics so far, but I'm scouring thru trying to find some good action shots. My distance & age settings are pretty wide; 120 miles, and a couple years younger to almost 10 years older. I have sent out quite a few GC questions (at least 20, maybe more, and I've only been a subscriber for a week), but haven't gotten any response yet. I'll try to send out more questions so maybe I can get some responses. Any other tips?

In your pictures you need a good face shot that they can see your hairstyle and the color of your eyes.

You need a body shot of something at least from your hips on up.

putting pictures of you with a bunch of friends are not good pictures...same true for pictures with some guy (is this an ex of yours?)


With eharmony about 75% of the matches...6 out of every 8 are dead profiles of past members who are no longer active but may return on a free weekend.

1 out of the 8 is like you searching

the other 1 out of the 8 had prepaid for there membership and either gave up on the site or found someone they are dating currently.
 
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You repeat a few times that you are looking for a lasting relationship (your friend has a good marriage, your parents being together 34 years, you comment that is what you want). Other people have commented on this, but I want to say that I think the one statement you should keep is about your parents. I wonder sometimes if someone has a good family history and putting it out there can offer relief and understanding to those that care, while still showing that you want the same thing in your life.

I definitly am looking for a good Christian guy to be the 'head of the household' and pursue God for wisdom in our marriage life. I think maybe you could reword spiritual leader a little. Something along the lines of: Someone who desires to grow in God and seek his wisdom. Someone who believes God should be at the center of a marriage. These say it a little more casually than how you word it, while still making it clear the path you would like him to be on.

The only thing noone mentioned that stood out to me... I LOVE when people post quirky/random things about themselves, but I don't like to see the word "hate" anywhere, even about socks. Could make a guy wonder how you feel about more significant matters. I just try to keep it positive. "Old socks and I have a holey (and therefore unholy) relationship." (haha, my joke was terrible. You're welcome to use it.)

Of course I am also a girl around your age, so take this as friendly advice. Have a guy friend that knows you fairly well give it a look or your friend's husband that you mentioned. Even your dad maybe.
 
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I think all of the feedback is good. I agree that I would remove any redundancies - religion or otherwise. I've always approached my profile where if I talk about something once I don't talk about it again in any other section. It streamlines things and keeps my profile from becoming repetitive.

Also, I'd tighten up some of these sections. Some of them come across as rambling, but not necessarily saying very much. With every section I always asked myself - what should my match be taking away from me after reading this section. A lot of people fill out their profile as if they are just trying to check a box, but it helps to really focus on the things you think are most important to know about you.
 
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