Sean_D is offline Sean_D Post #1  January 26,2012, 10:01pm
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Hello, im new and i have a question.. First off, i have only looked at my matches once in fear of being thought of as a creep. I was wondering if it updates the person again, telling them that i had looked at their profile again? It sounds like a creepy question, but i am shy about messaging, plus there are alot of matches and i am pretty forgetful lol..
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #2  January 26,2012, 10:12pm
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If you keep relooking at the same persons profile it will reupdate your last viewing....so if they are someone who is looking at their page every day they will see it.

Why dont you want to communicate...that is what you are paying for....to communicate. If you are thinking they will run to you think again.
 
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What ami1uwant said.

First, off you are a guy, most women won't initiate so you need to get over your shyness and start sending First Questions.

Second, if you keep viewing a profile constantly but don't communicate that may be creepy but it is definitely going to come across as a lack of interest. However, going back and reviewing a match every several days, particularly if you are waiting for them to respond, keeps you in front of their eyes. And if you are waiting for a response this is a good thing.
 
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You will only seem 'creepy' if you keep viewing profiles and do not make the effort to contact them.
 
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Sean_D wrote :
Hello, im new and i have a question.. First off, i have only looked at my matches once in fear of being thought of as a creep. I was wondering if it updates the person again, telling them that i had looked at their profile again? It sounds like a creepy question, but i am shy about messaging, plus there are alot of matches and i am pretty forgetful lol..
having just posted a couple of times this evening with my tongue firmly planted in my cheek, i want you to know that the following is serious feedback:

if you cannot get over this then you are probably not emotionally mature enough to date or have a romantic relationship.

i'm sorry if that comes off as too blunt and brutal. but that is how i see it.
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mhawkins258 is offline mhawkins258 Post #6  January 27,2012, 4:27pm
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[QUOTE= It sounds like a creepy question, but i am shy about messaging, plus there are alot of matches and i am pretty forgetful lol..[/QUOTE]

Don't be shy at all about messaging. You want to send out a lot of messages at first. I'd say only slow down or stop sending out messages once you've gotten a few into actual communication. Too many of these matches are free or AKA non-paid members that can't even communicate anyways. The problem is we can't tell who's who. So fire away and good luck..
 
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If you like ther profile picture & their profile, send your questions ......There is no need to hold back.

I have no problems looking at their profiles or pictures, yes several times, as I wait for them to reply. Some of them take forever. I have waited a few weeks for one of them to start replying and now we are flying through the GC. You need to go all guns blazing as I call it Like them, message them. There is no need need or place to be shy. They are on a pay website looking for a relationship/dates.
 
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Sean_D is offline Sean_D Post #8  January 28,2012, 11:56pm
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Lol thankyou very much for the thoughts everyone, now i know.
 
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When I was on eH, and I saw someone check my profile out more then once, I didn't see it as not being interested at all. I saw it more as " should I or shouldn't I?" type of viewing. No creepy about it. But, your odds will improve if you start sending out your questions to as many POSSIBLES as you can. Keep looking while you are waiting for replies, that way you are NOT disappointed if the 1 you had your heart set on doesn't answer.




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