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mhawkins258 is offline mhawkins258 Post #11  January 27,2012, 7:39am
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Mekel, I feel you... I had a stint on the site in 2008/2009 that resulted in relationships. I just came back in the new year and this site does not feel as organic as before.

Since I reinstated on Jan 12th, I must have 20 GC's sent out, many older than a week and no action seen on the other side. If they are not interested, I'm not sure if they know how to close me out if they archive me. All "waiting for her response". I've closed out many, but at this rate, I'll eventually close the ones I do want to contact just because I feel like I'm messaging fake profiles that don't answer.

5k here I come. Good luck Mekel.
 
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Wow. And I thought I had a lot, having something like 300 closed/archived and another 200 so in my other folder. I don't mind the large #. I'd personally rather receive more and do the weeding myself, I would just prefer a more technologically up to date interface. For example, the ability to select multiple people at a time to be archived or closed. If you don't keep on top of it, it can really be a mess. I was on it a year ago and recently started up and want to clean out the 200 some odd people in my matches from before and start fresh but it just seems WAY too tedious to do so.

depending on your settings....if you have the widest net say all the USA then you probably get around 7-8/day over the course of a year equates to about 2500 matches in a year.
 
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Mekel, I feel you... I had a stint on the site in 2008/2009 that resulted in relationships. I just came back in the new year and this site does not feel as organic as before.
I ended my membership about a year ago after about 3.5 years.

I noticed the system was much more active in 2008/2009. In 2010 something changed...it seems there was a significant departure from eharmony and they seems to be attracting a different membership pool of people who werent as serious, who seemed to onl use the site to find that dreep but unattainable match.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
depending on your settings....if you have the widest net say all the USA then you probably get around 7-8/day over the course of a year equates to about 2500 matches in a year.
That was roughly how many matches I got per day, but my distance settings were usually just at the 30 or 60 mile range. (I live near a very large city and a few other medium-sized ones, and am in my 30's.) I probably had 5,000-7,000 matches in 2-3 years, so your math is right on the mark.
 
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seriously, it sounds as though you are way to picky in your matches, take a risk, live a little, who knows what you might find.
How do you know he's being too picky? He didn't say that he never went out with any of them. Also, remember that a certain percentage are inactive or may not have been interested in going out with him.

The real question is how he got that many matches in Wyoming. The state has roughly 500,000 people, so 5,000 matches is roughly 2% of the entire female population. (More if you only include those of dating age.) OP, did you live somewhere else for much of your time on eH?
 
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Ever consider that it's your cynical, pessimistic outlook on life that's resulting in your dating woes?

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Over 5000 matches closed or archived now. Anyone have a higher count?

Aside from the rather blatant fact that the true purpose of this 'service' is to maximize profits for a handful of people - that deep down the ideal of providing a matchmaking service to paying customers is just a farce, a cover, for the profit machine it really is, I'm curious who's had the tenacity to view and push the most matches into the garbage can. Do I get a cookie if I hit 10,000? At what point does the system simply run out of valid matches to send someone or is it just randomly generating fake profiles now (which would explain why so many are so similar - often with identical phrases in parts of the profiles - among other things).
 
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jimmyh452 wrote :
Ever consider that it's your cynical, pessimistic outlook on life that's resulting in your dating woes?
Ha. This statement could be applied to well over half of the members of eHA.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
I ended my membership about a year ago after about 3.5 years.

I noticed the system was much more active in 2008/2009. In 2010 something changed...it seems there was a significant departure from eharmony and they seems to be attracting a different membership pool of people who werent as serious, who seemed to onl use the site to find that dreep but unattainable match.
That makes sense. I typically have only used it for about 3-4 months at a time (typically at that point my matches would drop significantly to just a couple per day) and I also have pretty strict distance settings. I'd go lower than 30 miles if it would let me, but such is the limit.
 
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nick222 wrote :
The real question is how he got that many matches in Wyoming. The state has roughly 500,000 people, so 5,000 matches is roughly 2% of the entire female population. (More if you only include those of dating age.) OP, did you live somewhere else for much of your time on eH?
Been stuck in Wyoming since birth. However, my dating range is 'the-entire-world'. It goes without saying, given my location, this is necessary.

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Ever consider that it's your cynical, pessimistic outlook on life that's resulting in your dating woes?
Entirely possible. Though I define myself in terms like 'rational' or 'pragmatic' as opposed to pessimistic or optomistic and I believe in a "healthy" amount of cynicism. In any case, in no way am I attempting to divert blame from myself for having passed through so many matches. I'm merely curious what kind of numbers others have been through.
 
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Mekel wrote :
Over 5000 matches closed or archived now. Anyone have a higher count?

Aside from the rather blatant fact that the true purpose of this 'service' is to maximize profits for a handful of people - that deep down the ideal of providing a matchmaking service to paying customers is just a farce, a cover, for the profit machine it really is, I'm curious who's had the tenacity to view and push the most matches into the garbage can. Do I get a cookie if I hit 10,000? At what point does the system simply run out of valid matches to send someone or is it just randomly generating fake profiles now (which would explain why so many are so similar - often with identical phrases in parts of the profiles - among other things).
bitter much??
 
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