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sulu is offline sulu Post #11  January 28,2012, 6:34am
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Is it normal to wait? In my case, it’s standard discouraging procedure. I’ve been on the website since March 2009.

In that time, I have 236 closed matches, most of which weren’t done by me.

I have 96 matches in varying stages of communication levels, most of which are stuck on level one and already “nudged”.

I’ve spoken to 3. I haven’t actually met any.

Yes, I’m guilty of letting my account run off the paid subscription from time to time, usually when I feel fed up with what I’m paying for. I usually wait until they have a 3 month special before I re-up. That said, I re-upped a couple of weeks ago, and found that there was absolutely no change, no matches, exactly where I had left it a couple of months ago.

I’ve updated my profile a couple of times and even re wrote the survey twice. Yes, I have the photos, and I’ve answered all the questions too.

Is it disappointing? Yes. After all, their ads only guarantee matches, not responses, right?
 
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Anyone is able to sign up for free, but they are notified if anyone is attempting to communicate with them within the account ansd also by email. Most all people who sign up with eH are hesitant about subscribing until they see something that interests them enough to subscribe. So, the best way to receive more communications is simply by fully completing your profile and maiking it as intersting and eye catching as possible. If the match is interested it is up to them to subscribe just like everyone else on the site.

Also, if it has been a few years since you were last on the site, have you ever considered retaking the relationship questionnaire? That is what we base all the matching off of, and we're probably still matching you with the same information as when you first signed up. You can have the questionnaire reset by contacting our customer care phone number.
 
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Also, depending probably on your age, some of your matches are no longer living. Three guys that I have dated are no longer alive but are still being matched with people. Those are only the three that I know about. And that is only me. So I assume that there are many dead (literally 'dead') profiles being matched every day. Again - I'd think it is more common as the age increases, but who knows.
 
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Ephemera wrote :
Also, depending probably on your age, some of your matches are no longer living.
Wow! I have to admit I've never considered this. I'm only in my 30's, but even for me it's statistically likely that some of my matches have died, given the sheer number that I had. Strange (and kind of creepy) thought.
 
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Nick,
It's kind of nice in an odd melancholy sort of way to go back and read the early communication with the two that lasted any amount of time. Sort of like they are still out there in some form in the ether. And I love the idea that guys will still be trying to communicate with me when I'm being picked clean by the crows. Thanks to eH, I will never die.
 
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Ephemera wrote :
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And I love the idea that guys will still be trying to communicate with me when I'm being picked clean by the crows. Thanks to eH, I will never die.

another great benefit of eH.......everlasting life
 
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Ephemera wrote :
And I love the idea that guys will still be trying to communicate with me when I'm being picked clean by the crows. Thanks to eH, I will never die.
Nice! Even at my young-ish age I have three dead friends on Facebook. Their profiles become a sort of memorial to them. It's going to be interesting to see how various online services handle this in the long run. In eHarmony's case they're going to have to do something eventually, because it will theoretically reach a point where the majority of people who have created profiles are no longer alive, at least in the older age ranges.
 
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I have 6 people that I got to the stage 4 of GC and never responded to my email (yet havent closed or archived me). I find those the most frustrating, because they are obviously active members, yet Im still stuck with "waiting to respond."

Im kind of curious how much communication action some of these members get... (thats why I try and tweak something in my profile every third day or so... that way at least I'll show up as updating my profile and they'll at least have to glance my way)
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Eve wrote :
Also, if it has been a few years since you were last on the site, have you ever considered retaking the relationship questionnaire? That is what we base all the matching off of, and we're probably still matching you with the same information as when you first signed up. You can have the questionnaire reset by contacting our customer care phone number.
This, of course, is no guarantee to get people to respond. All it might do is match you with a different set of people.
 
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