tangochef is offline tangochef Post #1  January 26,2012, 10:19am
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I will be leaving next week for an overseas trip, and will be gone for seven weeks.

Now, if I do not contact my matches until the 4th week or so, I am wondering if they will close me as a matter of course.

I am not even planning on looking at the profiles just archive, and close the ones from thumbnails of the iPad app that I do not like.

I can stretch GC a few weeks, but not for seven I think. My usual pace is about two-three weeks for a match to go from GC to meet (though some have taken a few days).
 
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Depends on if you can access from where you'll be. If you can take it off site can you continue contact that way? Some may give up and move on, some may be there when you're ready to resume communication. Some you may want to tell you'll be away for business for several weeks....Good Luck
 
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I think you misunderstood me. I have full internet access.

I get 7+ matches a day. That is 49 a week. Let's say I am in GC with 5 of them the first week. It would be 6 weeks before I can even meet them.

So, what I was thinking was to let the matches accumulate, and then start GC on week 4. That way by the time I we get to the meeting point, I am back in the States.

The question is whether the first group will do nothing or close me because I have not contacted them for 4 weeks after I showed up as their match.
 
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If it were me, I'd indicate somewhere in your profile that you're going to be on a trip and likely unable to answer for an extended period of time and also let any matches you are in OC with know. Anytime conversation is getting dragged out it can feel like a match is stalling so personally I'd like to know that it is related to travel and nothing to do with dating specifically. If someone hadn't contacted me in that amount of time (especially if the precedent was for quicker communication) I'd start to wonder if their interest was waning or if they were dating others. Either way it would make MY interest wane. If they told me they were traveling I'd be MUCH more open to resuming communication when they returned.
 
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tangochef wrote :
I think you misunderstood me. I have full internet access.

I get 7+ matches a day. That is 49 a week. Let's say I am in GC with 5 of them the first week. It would be 6 weeks before I can even meet them.

So, what I was thinking was to let the matches accumulate, and then start GC on week 4. That way by the time I we get to the meeting point, I am back in the States.

The question is whether the first group will do nothing or close me because I have not contacted them for 4 weeks after I showed up as their match.
Sorry. I misunderstood as well. I wouldn't rule someone out because they didn't contact me until 4 weeks after we'd been matched. But then again, if there is someone of interest for me I generally contact them first. So this scenario is a little unlikely for me. I still though think indicating you are traveling in your profile could help in this instance as well because those who might take it to mean you were a second pick will see that in reality it is because of your schedule.
 
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boschimsp wrote :
If it were me, I'd indicate somewhere in your profile that you're going to be on a trip and likely unable to answer for an extended period of time and also let any matches you are in OC with know. Anytime conversation is getting dragged out it can feel like a match is stalling so personally I'd like to know that it is related to travel and nothing to do with dating specifically. If someone hadn't contacted me in that amount of time (especially if the precedent was for quicker communication) I'd start to wonder if their interest was waning or if they were dating others. Either way it would make MY interest wane. If they told me they were traveling I'd be MUCH more open to resuming communication when they returned.
I agree. Also, I would probably turn off matching for the first 4-5 weeks of your 7 week trip. There's no reason to start communication with women that you won't be able to meet for nearly 2 months. Turn matching back on a couple weeks before you return, so that you'll have women in the pipeline for when you get home. Good luck!
 
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Many will close or move on by delaying contact until a few weeks before returning.

If you turn off matching, and turn it back on just prior to returning, you will look like a new match to them...not a slacker who waits several weeks after being matched.

The accumulation theory may work, but the risk is delaying contact...Good Luck...
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I get 7+ matches a day. That is 49 a week. Let's say I am in GC with 5 of them the first week. It would be 6 weeks before I can even meet them.
 
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I would personally turn off matching till end of week 5. I know you are paying for it and want to use it, but if a match I was interested told me that she was away for the next 7 weeks, I would sort of loose interest. Good luck with whatever you decide and hope it works for you.
 
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As said before, I'd just put in your profile that you are gone for those weeks and obviously can't go on any dates. I had a few matches put up messages around Christmas that they would be out of town for a week or 2... I'd just skip to OC with the ones that are the most appealing out of the "backlog" when you get back.
 
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I would carry on as normal with receiving matches and communicating with the ones who appealed to me, and would let them know as soon as possible (such as in the first "open communication" message) that I am out of the country and when I'll be back. It wouldn't hurt to also mention it in the profile.

Generally speaking I think anyone who is really interested in you is still going to be interested seven weeks later, unless they find an exclusive partner in the mean time. Some may even view you as more attractive for traveling internationally.

Turning matching off would work, too. What I would not do is leave matching on but let them pile up for a month without initiating communication. If you do that you may lose matches who assume that you're a non-paying member or uninterested.
 
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