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boschimsp is offline boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #1  January 26,2012, 9:43am
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I just re-upped my subscription with eHarmony.

I was on the site awhile ago and while I met many people I often found that I actually felt I was less compatible with them than I was with people I had met through other venues (other dating sites included). They all seemed be similar in ways that wasn't making sense with my personality. I couldn't seem to figure out if it was the differences in the population of eHarmony overall or something to do with the way I had answered the questionnaire. (I initially took it during a free communication weekend on a whim and so it's possible I wasn't as thoughtful about it as I otherwise might have been.)

After taking a break of a little over a year from the site I decided to sign up again and retook the test. Interestingly from what it shows me of 'personality profile' From what they show me two of the areas - agreeableness and openness - have changed and the other three have remained the same.

I haven't been out on any dates yet so only time will tell if this is resolving some of the issues I had the first time around, but so far I'm liking the profiles I'm receiving. The men seem more in line with the kinds of people I'd expect to be compatible with.

I'm curious what the experiences have been of others who have retaken the questionnaire. Did you see a difference in your personality profile or the kinds of matches you received? Where there any differences in your dates?
 
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I absolutely noticed a difference after I retook the questionnaire - for the positive. I was getting some really questionable matches and I'd actually turn off matching for a few months, thinking maybe the pool needed to refill - finally, my last ditch effort was to try the retake - AMAZING the difference in what I am receiving.

As for any difference in the dates themselves, I won't know until after this weekend
 
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I retook it and I've gotten some definitely better matches. I've also gotten closed a lot more by those matches, but the people the last month in general I've been matched with have been a lot more appealing to me.
 
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I absolutely noticed a difference after I retook the questionnaire - for the positive. I was getting some really questionable matches and I'd actually turn off matching for a few months, thinking maybe the pool needed to refill - finally, my last ditch effort was to try the retake - AMAZING the difference in what I am receiving.

As for any difference in the dates themselves, I won't know until after this weekend
Ooh. You'll have to report back and let us know. :-)
 
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I retook it and I've gotten some definitely better matches. I've also gotten closed a lot more by those matches, but the people the last month in general I've been matched with have been a lot more appealing to me.
I remember you saying that. I think the juxtaposition of getting better matches vs. getting closed more is an interesting one. I think my hope would be that in an ideal world I'd be getting matches that feel closer to what I want and are more likely to respond to me since hopefully I'm closer to what they want.
 
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I have been on eHarmony for over 4 years and have re-taken the Questionnaire several times. I have save all the Personality Profiles and basically they are all the same. There are slight differences but nothing significant. Just FWIW when I first took the Questionnaire I took a quick look at my Personality Profile and thought that it did not describe me at all. However I went back and carefully read what it said and decided that it did in fact describe me quite well. I have shared it with people who know me fairly well and they think that it does a pretty good job of describing me.

I suspect that many people do as you did and take the Questionnaire on a whim and don't really think about how each question really relates to them. eHarmony says to choose the the answer that meets your initial reaction to each question and not think about it too much. I disagree. I think that you should carefully consider how you relate to each question and I suggest that you have a dictionary handy because even though the words in the questions are common the meaning that eHarmony is using them for is frequently not the common meaning and is actually the 5th or 6th definition.
 
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I got somewhat better matches after I retook it. The first time I took it I wasn't dishonest or anything, but I tended to err on the side of being more middle-of-the-road or answering in a way that I thought would be more desirable to women. The second time I took it I erred in the other direction, answering in a way that I imagined a more extreme version of myself might answer. The latter approach seemed to provide better matches.
 
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I have been on eHarmony for over 4 years and have re-taken the Questionnaire several times. I have save all the Personality Profiles and basically they are all the same. There are slight differences but nothing significant. Just FWIW when I first took the Questionnaire I took a quick look at my Personality Profile and thought that it did not describe me at all. However I went back and carefully read what it said and decided that it did in fact describe me quite well. I have shared it with people who know me fairly well and they think that it does a pretty good job of describing me.

I suspect that many people do as you did and take the Questionnaire on a whim and don't really think about how each question really relates to them. eHarmony says to choose the the answer that meets your initial reaction to each question and not think about it too much. I disagree. I think that you should carefully consider how you relate to each question and I suggest that you have a dictionary handy because even though the words in the questions are common the meaning that eHarmony is using them for is frequently not the common meaning and is actually the 5th or 6th definition.
I honestly didn't have a problem with the personality profile (though the first time every attribute they listed...and this is the one that is free with membership...was straight down the middle even though I didn't intentionally do it that way so it didn't seem like it was saying much of anything), though I do think the new one reflects me much better. It was more coming out in my interactions with dates. It just seemed like we had too many incompatibilities on the core areas that were supposed to be measured - sociability, ambition, traditionalism, etc. Something just consistently felt off in a similar way with each guy.

As someone who does a lot of work in quantitative research for her day job I still struggle very much with how some of the questions are posed. They seem very open to interpretation.
 
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I got somewhat better matches after I retook it. The first time I took it I wasn't dishonest or anything, but I tended to err on the side of being more middle-of-the-road or answering in a way that I thought would be more desirable to women. The second time I took it I erred in the other direction, answering in a way that I imagined a more extreme version of myself might answer. The latter approach seemed to provide better matches.
It's funny the first time I took it my personality profile was entirely down the middle even though I didn't mean it that way.
 
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As someone who does a lot of work in quantitative research for her day job I still struggle very much with how some of the questions are posed. They seem very open to interpretation.
Agreed. I'd be interested to see a factor analysis to determine internal consistency reliability, among other things. Without peer review of the supposed "research" behind the questionnaire and matching system it really might as well all be random assignment.
 
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