Closing matches from new "What if?" feature


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yetanother2sername is offline yetanother2sername Post #1  January 26,2012, 5:54am
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For the most part I like the "What if?" feature, for the simple fact that it provides more matches. The What if? matches don't appear to have any more or less in common with my criteria than my regular matches, so I don't really understand why they're classified separately, but I'll take 'em anyway I can get 'em.

The only problem: The options are to either initiate communication with them, or to click, "maybe later". There needs to be a "don't show me this person again" option. When I click "maybe later", that person will then show up again, and again, and again. Eventually I then have to click through the same people over and over each day before I can get to someone new. The only way I've found to get rid of the "What if?" matches that don't interest me is to initiate communication and then immediately close them. This doesn't seem like a kind or fair thing to do to them, but I don't see another option to make them go away.

Has anyone found another way to do this?
 
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Interesting. I just rejoined and have been trying out this feature as well. You are right that there doesn't seem to be a way to take someone out of the mix although at least for me, I haven't had any repeats so far. (Granted, some of the people I passed over requested communication and I closed them -- generally they were people where I didn't seem to match what they were looking for or who were far beyond what I would consider an acceptable age range.)
 
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yetanother2sername wrote :
.... The only way I've found to get rid of the "What if?" matches that don't interest me is to initiate communication and then immediately close them. This doesn't seem like a kind or fair thing to do to them, but I don't see another option to make them go away. ...
Sounds like a fine method to me - I wouldn't worry about offending anyone.
 
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boschimsp wrote :
I haven't had any repeats so far.
I didn't have any repeats for the first few days. A few days ago, however, it appeared to run out of new ones, and has since been recycling the old ones repeatedly, with only an occasional new one.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
Sounds like a fine method to me - I wouldn't worry about offending anyone.
Thanks. I would be annoyed if I got an email saying that someone had initiated communication with me and I signed in to eH only to find that the person had closed me, so I guess that's what I was going off of. I'm also annoyed by having to click through a dozen people I've already rejected each day in order to get to a new potential match, though, so I guess I have to do what I have to do.
 
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I agree, there should be a "never see this person again" feature in the What If - when I took the What If survey a while back, I suggested that.
 
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I don't know about this "What if" feature? What is it and where do I find it?
 
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This is a bit interesting. I have only clicked on the What If? a couple of times but when I clicked on the Maybe Later button a message told me that I may never see that match again and was I sure that I did not want to communicate with them now. If after only using the What If? for a short time you are getting your Maybe Later matches showing up again that would tell me that you have exhausted your pool of What If? matches.
 
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I don't know about this "What if" feature? What is it and where do I find it?
The What If? feature is at the top of your eHarmony home page in the "toolbar" right next to My Matches.

It is a way to get other matches that are even more of a flex match than your flex matches. They still meet the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility but may be farther away than your settings, drink more or less, don't match your settings with respect to children, etc. As some of the other posters have mentioned, I did not see much difference between the couple of What If? matches that I looked at and any of my other matches.

One thing to note is that when you click on the What If? you get an abbreviated profile and don't see their whole profile. You do get to see photos though so you can tell what they look like.

Also, if I recall correctly, the What If? feature is only available to paying members. So if you are a non-paying member then you won't have that button.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The What If? feature is at the top of your eHarmony home page in the "toolbar" right next to My Matches.

It is a way to get other matches that are even more of a flex match than your flex matches. They still meet the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility but may be farther away than your settings, drink more or less, don't match your settings with respect to children, etc. As some of the other posters have mentioned, I did not see much difference between the couple of What If? matches that I looked at and any of my other matches.

One thing to note is that when you click on the What If? you get an abbreviated profile and don't see their whole profile. You do get to see photos though so you can tell what they look like.

Also, if I recall correctly, the What If? feature is only available to paying members. So if you are a non-paying member then you won't have that button.
Hmm...I am indeed a paying member and do not have this button on my homepage toolbar.
 
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