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GramercyGal is offline GramercyGal Post #1  January 22,2012, 9:15am
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I've been getting a lot of useful tips from reading other people's profile reviews. It's definitely made me rethink and edit a lot of my profile. I'd love some feedback!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I love food and food culture, especially when I can share it with people. I used to own a gourmet food and wine store, teach cooking classes, and was a food writer. It's something that's in my veins, and I love it!

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone who has a strong sense of themselves. There's nothing more attractive than someone is comfortable in their own skin and enjoys who they are. Not that we aren't all trying to improve and grow who we are, but to have a strong foundation of self, I feel is important.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation:
University Administrator
Age
33
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
About once a week
In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:
My Grandfather was a wonderful man and was very influential in my life. He took every opportunity offered to him to live a well rounded life. He loved his wife, children, and grandchildren more than anything in this world - he always put them first and never missed an opportunity to tell us how much he loved us. He was kind, generous, funny, spirited, and loving. He's been gone for more than 10 years now, and I still miss him everyday.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family, friends and dog, Oliver!
My sense of humor - it gets me through.
Living in NYC - I'm so fortunate to live here.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Using humor to make friends laugh
Maintaining a network of close friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Hmm, I don't know. I'm always me where ever I go, so my personality comes out pretty quick. I guess if they don't notice it right away, they will eventually.

The things I can't live without are:

Morning coffee
Summer dresses
Blue jeans
Lazy Sunday mornings
Warm breezes

The first thing people notice about me:
Probably my laugh. I love to laugh and people stop and tell me how infectious it is all the time.

Some additional information I want you to know:

I'm very allergic to cats. It's unfortunate, because I do love them and I grew up with them too. But when I got into my 20s, I found out the hard way that I am very allergic to them.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

I live a pretty simple life. I spend my free time walking and playing with my dog (I'm obsessed with my dog; he's my favorite part of everyday), hanging out with friends, and taking advantage of living in NYC. Every year I make a list of things I want to do in NYC and I tick them off as the year goes on. It's a great way to tackle the overwhelming amount of things to do in the city. I belong to a Spades group and play cards every couple of weeks - I LOVE playing cards and it's a great group of folks. And I just joined a bowling league... I'm terrible at bowling but it so much fun! I guess I'll be their handicap...

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I just finished The Hunger Games for my book club and it was fantastic! It's a post-apocalyptic science fiction series for young adults and it really keeps you on your toes. It's been a wonderful guilty pleasure lately. I just started the third book in the series - so much fun! I'm a total book geek. I was a literature major in college so I love to read! I also belong to a few book clubs and always get excited to get together with people and discuss literature; it's something I really miss since college.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Genuine
Good Listener
Loyal
 
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tangochef is offline tangochef Post #2  January 22,2012, 10:30am
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I like your profile, if I was in your demographic I would contact you if I found the pictures appealing.

So, profile is good, how are the pictures?
 
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GramercyGal is offline GramercyGal Post #3  January 22,2012, 2:00pm
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tangochef wrote :
I like your profile, if I was in your demographic I would contact you if I found the pictures appealing.

So, profile is good, how are the pictures?
I think the pictures are good. I have about 7 of them on there, plus one of my dog. Two full lengths, and the rest are closer shots of me. Most of them are me doing stuff in NYC, where I live. And then I have one nicer shot of me that's professional.

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it. Let's hope someone else likes it too.
Last edited by GramercyGal; January 22,2012 at 3:25pm.
 
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notyet is offline notyet Post #4  January 22,2012, 3:22pm
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GramercyGal wrote :
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I'm looking for someone who has a strong sense of themselves. There's nothing more attractive than someone is comfortable in their own skin and enjoys who they are. Not that we aren't all trying to improve and grow who we are, but to have a strong foundation of self, I feel is important.
nice profile. you should do well with it.

however, i find the above paragraph grating. besides the typographical error ("There's nothing more attractive than someone is comfortable in their own skin"- i think you're missing a 'who' there) there is dissonance created by switching from singular to plural (someone/their). and the whole gender neutral pronoun thing just comes across as affected to me.

my re-write would be...

I'm looking for a man who has a strong sense of himself. There's nothing more attractive than one who is comfortable in his own skin and enjoys who he is...

and that last sentence is awkward. i would reword it to something like...

And even though all of us are hopefully growing who we are, a strong sense of self is very important.
 
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GramercyGal is offline GramercyGal Post #5  January 22,2012, 3:27pm
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Thanks! That's really helpful. Thank you for catching the typo as well, sometimes you can read something so many times you don't see the errors anymore. I appreciate it.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #6  January 22,2012, 3:34pm
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Overall your profile is good

What is happening with communicating with people...do you initiate? What are your age and match settings?
 
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GramercyGal is offline GramercyGal Post #7  January 23,2012, 6:20am
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ami1uwant wrote :
Overall your profile is good

What is happening with communicating with people...do you initiate? What are your age and match settings?
I've only been on Eharmony about 3 weeks. So far the matching has been okay. I have a 15 year range and only a 30 mile radius. I know that's a small radius, but I live in NYC and I don't have a car - so commuting for a relationship is really complicated. I'm communicating with a couple of people. I don't have any trouble initiating. I go through my matches every morning and the people I'm interested in, I start communication. The problem I'm seeing is that a majority of my matches haven't been active in some time, which means they probably aren't members and just took advantage of a free weekend. This is a problem with most dating sites. I wish they would deactivate them after a certain amount of time to not waste our time and money.

But I'm dedicated to trying eHarmony for a year and just be patient and see how it goes. I've deleted all of my other dating site profiles and am just putting my energy into EH. That's why I wanted to have people review my profile. I had been reading other people's profile reviews and commenting on them, and a lot of the comments I read from other people really made me think about my own. So I had made a lot of changes and was really happy with the outcome. Even the change that someone suggested to me on here was great. I had never seen my answer that way, so it's nice to have an outside perspective. I wish more people would take advantage of this, because I read a lot of stinker profiles.
 
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skwm is offline skwm Post #8  January 27,2012, 10:44pm
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I think your profile is pretty great with a lot of specifics. I did find myself curious about some of the things you wrote, though. You wrote:

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Hmm, I don't know. I'm always me where ever I go, so my personality comes out pretty quick. I guess if they don't notice it right away, they will eventually.
When I read a person's answer to this question, I'm imagining what it will be like to be meeting them in person. When I read this, I found myself wondering, "What is your personality like?" Is it your wit, is it your intensity, is it that you're laid back? What is it about you that I'm going to experience when I am with you for the first time?

Also, you wrote:

wrote :
[...] taking advantage of living in NYC. Every year I make a list of things I want to do in NYC and I tick them off as the year goes on.
I wondered what kinds of things are on that list. Are they things that I would enjoy doing with you? That's typically what I'm looking for when I read a person's answers to that question. Maybe it's because I'm in Washington state and have never lived in NYC that I don't immediately have specific things in mind.

Hope that helps some.
 
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skwm wrote :
I think your profile is pretty great with a lot of specifics. I did find myself curious about some of the things you wrote, though. You wrote:



When I read a person's answer to this question, I'm imagining what it will be like to be meeting them in person. When I read this, I found myself wondering, "What is your personality like?" Is it your wit, is it your intensity, is it that you're laid back? What is it about you that I'm going to experience when I am with you for the first time?

Also, you wrote:



I wondered what kinds of things are on that list. Are they things that I would enjoy doing with you? That's typically what I'm looking for when I read a person's answers to that question. Maybe it's because I'm in Washington state and have never lived in NYC that I don't immediately have specific things in mind.

Hope that helps some.

Thank you so much for the advice. You know that question about what people don't notice about you right away - I have racked my brain on what to put in that section and for the life of me, I cannot think of one dang thing. But I'll put some more thought into it. I really would like to have a better answer to that.

And the NYC list, I can definitely add some things in there. I didn't want the answer to be overwhelming, but I can add a few choice things. Thanks again!
 
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Ok - so here's the updated profile. Let me know your thoughts!! Thanks!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I love food and food culture, especially when I can share it with people. I used to own a gourmet food and wine store, teach cooking classes, and was a food writer. It's something that's in my veins, and I love it!

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for a man who has a strong sense of himself. There's nothing more attractive than a man who is comfortable in his own skin and enjoys who he is. And even though all of us are hopefully growing who we are, a strong sense of self is very important.

About Me
Basic Information
Occupation:
University Administrator
Age
33
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
About once a week

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
My Grandfather was a wonderful man and was very influential in my life. He took every opportunity offered to him to live a well rounded life. He loved his wife, children, and grandchildren more than anything in this world - he always put them first and never missed an opportunity to tell us how much he loved us. He was kind, generous, funny, spirited, and loving. He's been gone for more than 10 years now, and I still miss him everyday.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family, friends and dog, Oliver!
My sense of humor - it gets me through.
Living in NYC - I'm so fortunate to live here.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Using humor to make friends laugh
Maintaining a network of close friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Hmm.. this is a tough one. I think if I had to pick something, it would be that people would see that I am truly a sincere person. Not that I come off as insincere, actually it's the complete opposite. But in today's society, I feel that people don't always trust other people's intentions and so many people pretend to be something that they're not. I am a genuinely nice person that believes in the power of kindness and giving of yourself.

The things I can't live without are:
Morning coffee
Summer dresses
Blue jeans
Lazy Sunday mornings
Warm sunny days

The first thing people notice about me:
Probably my laugh. I love to laugh and people stop and tell me how infectious it is all the time.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I'm very allergic to cats. It's unfortunate, because I do love them and I grew up with them too. But when I got into my 20s, I found out the hard way that I am very allergic to them.

My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:
I live a pretty simple life. I spend my free time walking and playing with my dog (I'm obsessed with my dog; he's my favorite part of everyday), hanging out with friends, and taking advantage of living in NYC. Every year I make a list of things I want to do in NYC and I tick them off as the year goes on. It's a great way to tackle the overwhelming amount of things to do in the city. A couple of the things on my list this year are: Brooklyn Museum of Art, Big Apple BBQ Festival, and seeing the Book of Mormon. I also belong to a Spades group and play cards every couple of weeks - I LOVE playing cards and it's a great group of folks.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I just finished The Hunger Games for my book club and it was fantastic! It's a post-apocalyptic science fiction series for young adults and it really keeps you on your toes. It's been a wonderful guilty pleasure lately. I just started the third book in the series - so much fun! I'm a total book geek. I was a literature major in college so I love to read! I also belong to a few book clubs and always get excited to get together with people and discuss literature; it's something I really miss since college.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
Funny
Genuine
Good Listener
Loyal
 
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