Aaomalley is offline Aaomalley Post #1  January 14,2012, 10:34pm
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So I posted a critique about a week ago and I didn't receive much feedback. I took what I did get and rewrote my entire profile top to bottom. I am trying to better focus my profile to show who I actually am where my last profile really did nothing close to that. Rip me apart, I can take whatever feedback people have, no matter how ugly it may be.

My one other question is where can a person go to get feedback on pictures for their profile? How many pictures is too many, should you stick with 4-5 great pics or 9-10 where some of them aren't the greatest? Is there anywhere you can post your pictures and have people choose which ones they like the best?

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Q-Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
A-There are so many people who have impacted my life so profoundly it is definitely difficult to choose one. I suppose it would likely be my close friend Jeremy. I have known him since I was 14 and we have gone through everything together and he was always able to help me out of tough situations. More than that though is that he has had a pretty hard life, drugs, family problems, deaths, unplanned baby and so much more. Through everything I have witnessed him face he has come out the other side a better and more complete person. He never ran and hid from any of his life problems, rather choosing to face them head-on and make rational decisions*

Q-What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?
A-By far the most important thing I need from a romantic partner is the ability to communicate well. Having worked in the mental health field I place a ton of stock in open and honest communication as the silver bullet for almost all difficulties in relationships. I also deeply value the ability to laugh at life in all of it's insanity and ridiculousness. My favorite quote has always been "never take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive". Laughter cures all ills, and I need a partner who can take the darkest of situations and make them light.*

Q-Other than your appearance, what is the frost thing people notice about you?
A-My laugh. People always tell me they love my laugh and can always find me in a crowd by listening for it. It is loud and distinctive, I am constantly told that it sounds exactly like Seth Rogan if that gives you an idea.

Q-What is one thing people don't notice about you right away that you wish they would?
A-I am generally an open book with those in my life, but there are some things I think people may miss. One of them is my traditional beliefs when it comes to family. I strongly believe that family comes first, and that as a son it is my duty to care for my parents as they get older. I don't buy in to all the traditional gender roles and that BS, but I do think that children have obligations to their family first. The other thing people may miss about me is that I am hopelessly romantic. Despite being a bit cynical in general I do want the entire romance story in my life.

Q-What are the 5 things you cannot live without?
A-Education, TIVO, amazing conversation, my puppy-he's my kick ass little guy, books.

Q-Describe the last book you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you enjoy about it?
A-Well, the last full book I read completely was "Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness" by a monk named Bhante Guarantana. It explores the noble eight-fold path of Buddhism and how it can improve your life by implanting joy in place of judgment. *It was half for my old job (I just left the job mid-December) and half for personal enjoyment. Right now I am reading "Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy" which has been amazing to this point. It provides a refreshing look at humanity and the universe, it discusses an interesting philosophy of life, the universe and everything. **

Q-Is there any additional information you would like Your matches to know about you?
A-I am just starting a Nursing program. The program takes a huge chunk of time dedicated to it. Because of this I have had to tightly schedule my life which is antithetical to how I normally like things to be. I usually enjoy being spontaneous and randomly deciding to take a trip to Newport or Seattle (once to Chicago at 4am) so the idea of not being able to drop everything and change direction at a drop of a hat. I am dedicated to maintaining a social life and still having a good time, but it just has to be more scheduled. This means that if we get together it may take some extra planning.

Q-What are you passionate about?
A-I am passionate about so much it is hard to sum it up. My first passion has to be learning, there is nothing like the feeling you get when you're learning something new and it clicks and suddenly you know something you didn't 5 minutes before. After that I am really dedicated to helping people, I was a counselor before going back to school and love helping people be better to themselves. Other than that I love travel and force myself to take 1 trip outside the US every year, I love going out and tasting craft cocktails (especially whiskey cocktails) with my good friends, SCUBA when I can, Hiking, playing with my dog, and meditation.

Q-What are the 3 things for which you are most thankful?
A-The opportunities I have educationally and professionally,*My closeness with my family. I am lucky to have a very tight knit family,*My friends and everything they do for me on a daily basis

Q-How do you typically spend your leisure time?
A-I remember leisure time In the rare times when I can get down time I do as much as I possibly can (after catching up on sleep). I love just going out and walking around the niche neighborhoods in Portland, finding cool new shops/restaurants/bars. I love hiking though I haven't done enough of it, as well as camping. I am planning on doing some cooking classes, I love cooking for friends but only have a few things I do really well. I also do a lot of reading in my leisure time, probably what I do most. I tend to read articles and journals more than books because they can be squeezed in a 15 minute spot of down time.*
 
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Hi Aaomalley -- to get your photos reviewed, you can upload them into an album in your eHA profile (make sure the album is viewable by all members, not just your eHA Friends), then post here and ask people to review them.

Note: your profile has at least 1 word in it that triggers the moderation filter so anyone who quotes your profile will find their post also triggering the filter. I left the word in and released it anyway so that you can get feedback on your profile exactly as it is.
 
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First thing to do is clean up the spelling, grammar and wording. Slang, tough-talk, etc. doesn't go over well.

Next edit to keep the important points from getting lost in the shuffle of to many words. The other reason to be succinct is to focus thoughts.......... and mostly....women are reading 100s of profiles, yours should stand out to be read ...start to finish..not passed over because it's too-much-to-read.

Use each section / question to creatively highlight a different aspect of yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and your activities....keep and get to the point in those areas. Long-winded auto-biographies, like on other sites...doesn't work well with the eH format.

Focus on women reading this and wanting to contact you. Do you have time for dating? Are you so all-over-the-map that dating is an after thought ?

You have a lot of interesting ideas /activities and aspects on this profile.... with some rethinking /rewording focusing /editing it will be a stand-out profile...Good Luck.
 
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