raimey282 is offline raimey282 Post #11  January 14,2012, 7:32pm
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The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone that can communicate love (romantic and otherwise) well in word and in deed. Someone that knows when love means lending a helpful hand or a kick in the pants or when it would be best displayed by the simple, but hard to hear, truth.

The things I can't live without are:
Polished toenails
Hair pins
Singing
Jeans
Cartoons & cereal on Saturday mornings
 
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Nedrob is offline Nedrob Post #12  January 14,2012, 8:40pm
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Personally, I don't mind the "work in progress" bit that you had in your original profile, although it did seem a little random in the context of the question and your response. I know that the consensus is "put your best foot forward" "show no weakness" "stiff upper lip" and all that stuff, but I find a little humility attractive.

Notice I said 'humility' and not 'low self-esteem' (which I'm guilty of). Something to bear in mind when you're considering the feedback

I disagree with the suggestion to remove "psychiatric practice" from your job description. Some people find psychiatry frightening. I'm not one of those people. Remember, laced in a lot of the feedback, with all due respect to the other responders who volunteer their time and try to be as objective and constructive as possible, are prejudices for what s/he would like to read in a profile.

If you read my profile review, one of the criticisms was that a girl reading my profile would suspect that I'm gay because my profile mentions that I knit. I respect the argument, but girls have also started conversations with me when they saw that I knit, so clearly SOME girls are attracted to it. I personally decided that a girl who judges me on the knitting is probably not a girl I'd be happy with anyway so I left that bit in my profile.

Likewise, some people may think that mentioning that you work for a psychiatric facility may attract the wrong guys and scare away the right guys. Maybe. Then again, I would hope that the right guy for you is smart enough not to read so far into your occupation.

I also respectfully disagree with the advice to remove the "awful liar." I personally read it as both cute and playful. If you want to reinforce this, you might slip in "when I try to lie, I crack up/bite my lip/something equally endearing" which, at least for me, will turn that bit from cute into adorable.

With describing yourself as nerdy, I would agree that it needs some elaboration. There are lots of types of nerdy. You probably want to be the "cute nerdy" and not the "weird nerdy" or "never bathes nerdy."

In your interests section, the criticisms on my profile explained that I should be slipping in suggestions for what we could do on a date. It's great that you're easy going, but consider giving men interested in you some hints on what they can suggest when they e-mail you. God knows our job is hard enough.
 
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raimey282 wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
I'm passionate about people. Nursing, nurturing, and serving is a big part of who I am.
I left this pretty vague because the answer is best known by getting to know me. A person's passion is not as easily expressed as this.

This is the first thing people see. So first impressions matter. You need to be more detailed and less listing things.

Passionate about is why you chose your career? Is there a cause you fight for or volunteer for? Is there a hobby or interest you will never give up? Is there a hobby you would love to have second career in?

Pasionate about is telling the reader was drives you.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone that values people and has a heart to serve people using the gifts that they've been blessed with. Someone that is considerate of the needs of others.

Occupation: Medical Receptionist for psychiatric practice, nurse, and student
Why would this raise questions? This is what I do. I have two different jobs while I'm trying to juggle school. It's fairly common for someone climbing a ladder to have multiple balls in the air. It's exactly like it says... What message does NOT expanding on this relay to matches?

You really should put just one here...what is your career or what career you plan on getting into. I understand in jobs you will have other duties. In an office someone may be the budget person who works and hour a day as a receptionist when the receptioinist is on lunch.

Sure a nurse can also have office management duties, financial work, and receptionist.

By listing multiple titles says you either are undecided , going through being layed off and having to do another career, or you are just a flake.



Age: 29
Height: 5' 4"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
There have been many people that have impacted me in the different seasons of my life. Mostly friends that see my heart and remind me of whom I am and who God is when I need reminding.

I think I'll leave this as is for now.

Pick a friend and elaborate on how this person has affected you even if it wasnt the most. The issue really isnt what you write its how you write and how it affecets those who read your profile.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
Family - We're not perfect, but we grow individually together - blood relation as well as those that I surround myself with and share life with.
Friends - Everybody needs somebody sometimes! I'm grateful for those that are near and far, those that I talk to daily, and those that I talk to rarely yet know that I can always call them friend.
Provision - I am so abundantly blessed! I'm thankful for where I am in life. I got here by grace alone!

Three of my best life-skills are:
Raising and/or caring for children
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I just took this out for now. I see what you're saying and I'm not sure what I want to put on this yet.

If you leave parts of your profile blank it says you arent serious.
The things I can't live without are:
Supportive friends/family
A place or way to serve
Took some of these out as well. It's supposed to be this clever telling hint about a person... I really don't think it is. I'm going to hold of on this bit.

The first thing people notice about me:
I'm genuine. I'm a really awful faker/liar, so I couldn't be one even if I wanted to be. It always works best for me to say what I really mean and be who I really am.
Got it. Tweaked it. Hopefully this says what I mean a bit better.

At this point you arent a liar--but you are a dodger in not answering questions the way they shoulb be,

Some additional information I want you to know:
I'm kind of nerdy. My sense of humor is... well I guess most people don't get me until they get to know me. But I'm easily entertained and find humor in a lot of things.
Fine! Tweaked.

I typically spend my leisure time:
What I do is not nearly as important to me as who I'm with. I can join in or tag along with most anything. I even enjoy watching from the sidelines a lot of times. It's the people that count. So as not to be a complete party pooper, some of the things I specifically enjoy are movies, driving to no specific place, window shopping, and just hanging out.

You are being vague again with this cliched nonanswer. Remember you are to write the profile so the guys say I want to date her...not reject her.

As a guy I havent sen you list interests in a way that I can say we share some common interests. If you list types of movies, type of music, say what you do for fun will give mem a better idea of your interest and not come off as if you are dodging the question


The last book I read and enjoyed:
My last read was Uncle Tom's Cabin. I've been trying to read classics in between semesters and was honestly surprised to like this one as much as I did since I was much less enthused with the few before it. This book has so much wisdom in it. I loved the Old English and how much emotion was packed into this story. I definitely appreciated the historical aspect of this novel and the thought provoking perspectives. All that on top of characters that I easily fell in love with makes it highly recommend to friends.

The last book you read was something from 15 years ago?

My friends describe me as:
Funny
Loyal
Sweet
Thoughtful

Better? Am I date-able yet?

see above,.......
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
By listing multiple titles says you either are undecided , going through being layed off and having to do another career, or you are just a flake.
OR, I really have two jobs! Why is this a difficult concept for people?

ami1uwant wrote :
If you leave parts of your profile blank it says you arent serious.
ami1uwant wrote :
At this point you arent a liar--but you are a dodger in not answering questions the way they shoulb be,
ami1uwant wrote :
You are being vague again with this cliched nonanswer. Remember you are to write the profile so the guys say I want to date her...not reject her.
Maybe it says that I don't know how to best answer those questions yet - which is why I'm attempting to get some help here.

ami1uwant wrote :
The last book you read was something from 15 years ago?
No. The last book I read was something from 160 years ago. Funny thing about literature. It tends to stick around a while.

Thanks for your input.
 
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How about these changes?

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I'm passionate about taking care of people. I've been able to help people in crisis with spiritual and emotional needs and also get to take care of the physical needs as a nurse. In the future I hope to be able to do the same over seas with different missions opportunities.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone that can communicate love (romantic and otherwise) well in word and in deed. Someone that knows when love means lending a helpful hand or a kick in the pants or when it would be best displayed by the simple, but hard to hear, truth.

The things I can't live without are:
Polished toenails
Hair pins
Singing
Jeans
Cartoons & cereal on Saturday mornings

Some additional information I want you to know:
I consider myself a little nerdy because I have a pet turtle, MAY sing in the grocery store if I hear a song I like, and I like a lot of the same movies, cartoons, or stories that my nieces and nephews do. Some things that I like (musical artists specifically) I like them only because of memories that are attached to them and definitely not because they're cool.
 
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Nedrob is offline Nedrob Post #16  January 15,2012, 2:54pm
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I'm going to be a stickler and tighten up some of your grammar (underline used in place of strikeout):

raimey282 wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
I'm passionate about taking care of people. I've been able to help people in crisis with spiritual and emotional needs and also get to take care of the (their?) physical needs as a nurse. In the future, I hope to be able to do the same overseas with different missions opportunities (either 'missions and opportunities' or 'mission opportunities').

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I'm looking for someone who can communicate love (romantic and otherwise) well in word and in deed (by what they have done, and by what they have left undone?). Someone who knows when love means lending a helpful hand or a kick in the pants, or when it would be best displayed by the simple, but hard to hear, truth.

The things I can't live without are:
Polished toenails
Hair pins
Singing
Jeans
Cartoons & cereal on Saturday mornings

Some additional information I want you to know:
I consider myself a little nerdy because I have a pet turtle, MAY sing in the grocery store if I hear a song I like, and I like a lot of the same movies, cartoons, and stories that my nieces and nephews do. Some things that I like (musical artists specifically) I like them only because of memories that are attached to them and definitely not because they're cool.
Again, respectfully disagreeing with the other comments here, I don't think you need to be apologetic about being nerdy. Guys who find that a turn off may not be guys you'd want to date anyway, so why be apologetic about it? The last sentence in "additional information" seems a bit random; specifically, I'm not sure why you're explaining why you like certain songs and not artists. I don't see why it matters. I may just reword to "I like some things (especially music) because they evoke (or bring back) memories and feelings to me."
 
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Nedrob wrote :
I'm going to be a stickler and tighten up some of your grammar (underline used in place of strikeout):



Again, respectfully disagreeing with the other comments here, I don't think you need to be apologetic about being nerdy. Guys who find that a turn off may not be guys you'd want to date anyway, so why be apologetic about it? The last sentence in "additional information" seems a bit random; specifically, I'm not sure why you're explaining why you like certain songs and not artists. I don't see why it matters. I may just reword to "I like some things (especially music) because they evoke (or bring back) memories and feelings to me."
Good input. Thank you very much.
 
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