itswhatev is offline itswhatev Post #1  January 11,2012, 2:46am
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Might as well get some ending opinions on way EH never worked for me. Here is the profile I used.. Stopped matching and closed every match. Still have Eharmony paid for a while.

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I love to learn and try new things. I'm just like a kid when it comes to seeing something on television and trying it, regardless if there disclaimer message telling me otherwise. Current mission is mixing music on my turntables.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
laughter/acceptance. I want someone that will not judge me, or even others for that matter. If I do or say something stupid, have a laugh at my expense, because I know i will. Never judge me for it. In return I promise to laugh back!

Occupation:
Employed & Full-Time Student
Age
27
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Maybe
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
A few times a year

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

Grandma, she's the smartest and hardest worker I know. She's has always and still is a great influence for me.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
Friends
Family
Health

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I'm NOT into gossip or rumors. It always creates drama.

The things I can't live without are:
Conversation
A good "pump up" song
Friends/Family
All the hobbies I have.
Fun

The first thing people notice about me:
Kind enough to give a forty-five minute ride to homeless, brazen enough to buy deodorant for a classmate, and respectful enough not to get punched by either.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I love deep conversation. I like to talk about everything, I have a lot of ideas and I am very perceptive in the world around me. It's a cursed. Also, I can dance like Vanilla Ice being hung out of a balcony window.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Something involving music, friends/family or being active. Sometimes all three. I have to have either my brain or body stimulated . I'm always trying different sports or finding something new to learn.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I'm not much of a reader, but whenever I have been assigned to read a book for school I've enjoyed it. However, I do like reading magazines.

My friends describe me as:

Funny
Happy
Optimistic
Energetic
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If your still paid up for a while, you may want to tweak the settings to be realistic, yet pretty wide...since it seems the matches you're getting are duds. Have they communicated with you?...Or just not responded?..Or were you being sent a lot of left-field ones?....

Didn't you get matches with other dudes ...or was that a joke?... That , if anything you should get a refund for...
 
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itswhatev wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
I love to learn and try new things. I'm just like a kid when it comes to seeing something on television and trying it, regardless if there disclaimer message telling me otherwise. Current mission is mixing music on my turntables. I think you are trying to say that you are courageous and adventurous, but the way this reads is like a guy in those funny videos on tv where the guy is totally stoopid and gets his face bashed in on something or worse. Women around your age range are starting to think about marriage and family. So a profile that makes you look like a man-child will get closed fast. This doesn't mean you can't be adventurous, just word it better.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
laughter/acceptance. I want someone that will not judge me, or even others for that matter. If I do or say something stupid, have a laugh at my expense, because I know i will. Never judge me for it. In return I promise to laugh back! The way this is written, it just screams extremely insecure. Total turn off.

Occupation:
Employed & Full-Time Student
Age
27
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Maybe You are kind of reaching a point in life where you should know whether or not you want to have a family in the future. The question doesn't imply that you have to be ready to have a family right now.
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
A few times a year A lot of people will automatically eliminate smokers and won't even pause long enough to consider that a cigar once or twice a year is tolerable.

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

Grandma, she's the smartest and hardest worker I know. She's has always and still is a great influence for me. Well....so give an example of what she taught you or how she influenced you.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
Friends
Family
Health

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I'm NOT into gossip or rumors. It always creates drama. The only way people would not notice this is because you are gossiping. Think about what this question is really asking. Also, whenever you say that you don't do x or y, people will instantly think that "thou doth protest too much" for a reason.

The things I can't live without are:
Conversation
A good "pump up" song
Friends/Family
All the hobbies I have.
Fun

The first thing people notice about me:
Kind enough to give a forty-five minute ride to homeless, brazen enough to buy deodorant for a classmate, and respectful enough not to get punched by either. This is an awesome answer.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I love deep conversation. I like to talk about everything, I have a lot of ideas and I am very perceptive in the world around me. It's a cursed. ??? Delete that sentence. It doesn't make sense here. Also, I can dance like Vanilla Ice being hung out of a balcony window. The last sentence is kind of out of the blue and reads more huh? than lol.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Something involving music, friends/family or being active. Sometimes all three. I have to have either my brain or body stimulated . I'm always trying different sports or finding something new to learn. Be more specific here. What do you do when you hang out with friends? What hobbies do you have? What exactly stimulates your brain? or body? Do you run, do you ski, do you read, do you watch movies and what kind. This is just too vague.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I'm not much of a reader, but whenever I have been assigned to read a book for school I've enjoyed it. However, I do like reading magazines. Well...so pick one book that you enjoyed and talk about it. You can always finish with that although you liked the book, typically you read X type magazines because they give you Y information.

My friends describe me as:

Funny
Happy
Optimistic
Energetic
My comments above. There are really two huge negative impressions that your profile creates - immature/insecure and doesn't really have a life. The reason for that impression is that you don't give any concrete details or examples of what actually interests you and what you are about. You talk a lot of generalities like you can't live without your hobbies, but then nowhere in your profile do you mention a single hobby. If you have hobbies, then tell me briefly about them. That will make you interesting and give me a more accurate idea of who you are.

Example:

I love to cook - this says nothing and in all honesty I'm not buying that statement.

v.

I love to cook and while experimenting in the kitchen one day came up with an awesome lasagna recipe. Now family and friends request it every time I'm having a get together. - this is concrete. It shows that the person actually loves cooking and aren't just saying it to impress. These kinds of details make a profile stand out.

You don't have to make your profile long and tedious, but just inserting a few concrete things like that will make a huge difference.
 
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I agree with all of what DancingFool said. A lot of your profile reads "manchild"ish and gives the reader hardly any inclination of who you are.

And DF, the Vanilla Ice reference has to do w/ the rumor that Suge Knight dangled Vanilla Ice over a balcony by his ankles until Vanilla Ice agreed to sign over royalties of "Ice Ice Baby" to Death Row Records. But to the OP, I agree with DF that that might be a little bit too obscure for a lot of people, and "balcony window" makes no sense.
 
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eharmonyjc wrote :
I agree with all of what DancingFool said. A lot of your profile reads "manchild"ish and gives the reader hardly any inclination of who you are.

And DF, the Vanilla Ice reference has to do w/ the rumor that Suge Knight dangled Vanilla Ice over a balcony by his ankles until Vanilla Ice agreed to sign over royalties of "Ice Ice Baby" to Death Row Records. But to the OP, I agree with DF that that might be a little bit too obscure for a lot of people, and "balcony window" makes no sense.
lol...I got the reference, but my point is that it's not as amusing as the OP may think it is and that yes, some matches are not likely to get it at all. When writing your profile and trying to insert your brand of humor in it, it's definitely a fine line to walk between funny ha ha and weird in a bad way. In real life our voice and body language and timing help out. We don't have those tools online.
 
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I see it now. Good insight. That's probably why I didn't get too much action. That, or EH isn't matching me with the insecure crowd.
 
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Now I have "check out the hook while my DJ revolves it" stuck in my head.
 
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Haha, at least my profile was good for something.
 
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Yeah and now it's segueing into David Bowie :-P
 
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