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alithia is offline alithia Post #1  January 10,2012, 9:38am
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
Family, friends, travel, learning about other cultures

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Communication. I place a high value on information in a relationship. I want someone who is open about what he wants, needs, expects and will receive the same in return. Relationships should be fun but they take work too - communication, honesty, and investment in each other is what really will make a relationship work. Everyone has busy lives but getting to know someone and figuring out if your lives can mesh takes some time and effort. I am looking for someone who will make sure I know he's thinking about me (text messages count . I want to share my life with someone.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation:
College Recruiter
Age
39
Height
5' 3"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

My grandmother practically raised me and my brother while my parents worked. I was very fortunate to have her in my life for as long as I did. She taught me my love of literature and learning and cultivated my curiosity about people and culture.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My family
Good friends
Health

Three of my best life-skills are:

Using humor to make friends laugh
Volunteering my time to causes I care about
Entertaining in my home

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

My tendency toward wit and sarcasm can mask an essentially good and caring personality. I just delight in the ridiculous and love to laugh!

The things I can't live without are:

Family
Friends
My Dog
My books
chocolate

The first thing people notice about me:

My ability to put people at ease and make them comfortable in any situation.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

In my leisure time I most enjoy reading and cooking. I love trying new recipes and baking fresh bread. On days off, I am generally doing something outside. I enjoy hiking, kayaking and exploring cities.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I read the Bhagavad Gita which is a hindu holy book. I enjoyed it because it provided many insights into life with practical application in today's world. Unlike most western theology that give rules by which to live, the Gita helped me understand the devine gift in all people as well as how meditation can help balance your life.

According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

Dependable
Caring
Loyal
Generous
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #2  January 10,2012, 11:02am
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The profile is pretty good...a little generic....perhaps use the sections /questions to state and elaborate a bit more on different aspects of your lifestyle, interests, activities.... Most of it is good, but you may want to rethink /reword the most important person thing section......Good Luck

This section should focus on the qualities /characteristics in a person you admire seek. It will not magically bring you a nonstop texter /talker /caller.

This is more of a relationship lecture which sounds quite needy for constant, joined at the hip talking / texting. It would be a major turn off to read this, so consider mentioning real qualities , not communication gripes

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Communication. I place a high value on information in a relationship. I want someone who is open about what he wants, needs, expects and will receive the same in return. Relationships should be fun but they take work too - communication, honesty, and investment in each other is what really will make a relationship work. Everyone has busy lives but getting to know someone and figuring out if your lives can mesh takes some time and effort. I am looking for someone who will make sure I know he's thinking about me (text messages count . I want to share my life with someone.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #3  January 10,2012, 11:06am
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alithia wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
Family, friends, travel, learning about other cultures
This should be about the ONE thing that you are most passionate about not a list of things / activities. Choose the one thing that really gets you fired up, that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning. Then tell me about it. Why it is a passion to you. Make me believe that you are passionate about it.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I place a high value on communication in a relationship. I want someone who is open about what he wants, needs and expects and will receive the same in return. Relationships should be fun but they take work too - communication, honesty, and an investment in each other is what really will make a relationship work. Everyone has busy lives but getting to know someone and figuring out if your lives can mesh takes some time and effort. I am looking for someone who will make sure I know he's thinking about me (text messages count ). I want to really share my life with someone.
This is good now.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation: College Recruiter
Age 39
Height 5' 3"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

My grandmother practically raised me and my brother while my parents worked. I was very fortunate to have her in my life for as long as I did. She taught me my love of literature and learning and cultivated my curiosity about people and culture.
This is good.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family
Good friends
Health
This is OK but you could add a brief description to each item.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Volunteering my time to causes I care about
Entertaining in my home

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
My tendency toward wit and sarcasm can mask an essentially good and caring personality. I just delight in the ridiculous and love to laugh!
I think that this comes off a bit negative as it is written.

The things I can't live without are:
Family
Friends
My Dog
My books
Chocolate
You have a little space to put "why" for these things.

The first thing people notice about me:
I have an ability to put people at ease and make them comfortable in any situation.
This is good.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

In my leisure time I most enjoy reading and cooking. I love trying new recipes and baking fresh bread. On days off, I am generally doing something outside. I enjoy hiking, kayaking and exploring cities.
Reading is a solitary activity and you will cover reading in the Last Book section. This is one of the most important sections, you should consider expanding on this some.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read the Bhagavad Gita which is a Hindu holy book. I enjoyed it because it provided many insights into life with practical application in today's world. Unlike most western theology that give rules by which to live, the Gita helped me understand the divine gift in all people as well as how meditation can help balance your life.
This is good.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
Dependable
Caring
Loyal
Generous
Comments above in red.

Stuff in BOLD purple are corrections.

Your Additional Information section is missing.
Most of your profile is pretty good.

 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
The profile is pretty good...a little generic....perhaps use the sections /questions to state and elaborate a bit more on different aspects of your lifestyle, interests, activities.... Most of it is good, but you may want to rethink /reword the most important person thing section......Good Luck

This section should focus on the qualities /characteristics in a person you admire seek. It will not magically bring you a nonstop texter /talker /caller.

This is more of a relationship lecture which sounds quite needy for constant, joined at the hip talking / texting. It would be a major turn off to read this, so consider mentioning real qualities , not communication gripes

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Communication. I place a high value on information in a relationship. I want someone who is open about what he wants, needs, expects and will receive the same in return. Relationships should be fun but they take work too - communication, honesty, and investment in each other is what really will make a relationship work. Everyone has busy lives but getting to know someone and figuring out if your lives can mesh takes some time and effort. I am looking for someone who will make sure I know he's thinking about me (text messages count . I want to share my life with someone.
I fully understand what the OP is talking about in this section. It is not a communication gripe. Not everyone is able / willing to communicate their thoughts and desires to their partner. She is stating that she requires a partner that can share their thoughts and desires. This is very much a QUALITY or personality trait. I have had matches / partners who were not able or would not share what they were thinking with me and I require this same trait in my matches.
 
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alithia is offline alithia Post #5  January 10,2012, 1:43pm
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Thanks so much for all the suggestions!
 
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My reactions are in blue text. Redhighlight I applied to your text is something which makes me especially likelyto close; green highlight is something which makes me especially inclined towrite.

Keep in mind that a large percentage of matches are abandoned profiles, ornon-paying members, and will not write or reply for that reason.

Matches who view and don't write, or closeyou, are the ones to be more concerned over - especially those who were activeduring a free weekend.

alithia wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
Family, friends, travel, learning about other cultures

In other words, nothing?

Pick something, and say something!


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Communication. I place a high value on information in a relationship. I want someone who is open about what he wants, needs, expects and will receive the same in return. Relationships should be fun but they take work too - communication, honesty, and investment in each other is what really will make a relationship work. Everyone has busy lives but getting to know someone and figuring out if your lives can mesh takes some time and effort. I am looking for someone who will make sure I know he's thinking about me (text messages count . I want to share my life with someone.

This is not horrible, but I'd probably close you for it.

Especially after you skipped the first question, to now fill the space with "here is what you can do for me" is such a downer that there's just no reason to read any further.

(And the only people who think "text messages count" are phone company accountants.)

I think you should soften this up, and make it more personal.


Occupation: College Recruiter
Age: 39
Height: 5' 3"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
My grandmother practically raised me and my brother while my parents worked. I was very fortunate to have her in my life for as long as I did. She taught me my love of literature and learning and cultivated my curiosity about people and culture.

I think this is a good beginning. Something to follow up on the "She taught me my love of literature and learning and cultivated my curiosity about people and culture" is what I would like to see. Take the opportunity to connect this to a specific current interest or action (tangible detail I can picture you involved in.)


The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family
Good friends
Health

Far too commonplace and boring. Something unique to you is needed.


Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Volunteering my time to causes I care about
Entertaining in my home

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
My tendency toward wit and sarcasm can mask an essentially good and caring personality. I just delight in the ridiculous and love to laugh!

Then why is nothing in this profile funny?


The things I can't live without are:
Family
Friends
My Dog
My books
chocolate

Generic again.


The first thing people notice about me:
My ability to put people at ease and make them comfortable in any situation.

I typically spend my leisure time:
In my leisure time I most enjoy reading and cooking. I love trying new recipes and baking fresh bread. On days off, I am generally doing something outside. I enjoy hiking, kayaking and exploring cities.

This is a good start. I'd like to see some more sense of how much / how often for some leisures (speaks to compatibility.) Statements like "new recipies" warrant more information.


The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read the Bhagavad Gita which is a hindu holy book. I enjoyed it because it provided many insights into life with practical application in today's world. Unlike most western theology that give rules by which to live, the Gita helped me understand the devine gift in all people as well as how meditation can help balance your life.

Good. Not important, but is there a practical aspect to this choice? Or, any themes you tend to favor?


My friends describe me as:
Dependable
Caring
Loyal
Generous

For me, I think there's some sections that will benefit from additional effort:

- Back off the neediness on "communication."
- Don't claim humor if you haven't got any.
- Add uniqueness to the generic lists.

If you want children, you're looking at the pierhead leap. I would prefer to see something slipped in to explain this; if you want biological children, I suggest a statement which conveys that is a clear goal. If you mean to write that you favor a partner who has childen but do not intend your own, I'd write that.
 
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I like the profile...
Of course my Grandma raised me to read
& I like travel, baking, chocolate, want children
and think that I'm funny, too!
 
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