mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #31  January 12,2012, 2:30pm
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Some people don't remember who the person is and will open the profile out of curiosity to see who they are closing. Also clicking the orange button as you do, whether, it's Respond or Close triggers a profile view on the other person's side.
Interesting. Why would it show up as a view when I never even entered their profile? I just clicked a button in a list. I am not talking about the orange "close match" button at the bottom of the profile, just on the match list in my archive folder.

And, for my own sanity, I learned long ago NOT to re-open any profile that has already closed me. Yeah, the curiosity factor used to get to me, and I would look, but then I'd get frustrated wondering why that guy would close me. Pointless! So, now I don't look. I just hit "close" and move on.

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And to clear up one of the inaccuracies that is being tossed around this thread, when you close someone, you no longer get updates on their behavior after about 24 hours, with the exception of when they view you
This is good to know! I am not presently on EH, so it seems they have corrected that little problem. I know that back a few months ago when I was still on EH, I was getting profile and photo updates from matches that I knew were closed. And not just views. Updates.


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These women refused to respond to his earlier communication. Let's get real. Why on earth would they now stalk him...after ignoring him for weeks/months? Why is he so focused on what some stranger that he purportedly doesn't care about can see?
Well, I figured that the OP was using "stalking" in a very loose term. Like, if you keep running into someone you know in different places - the gym, the store, a restaurant - you ask them "Hey, what are you stalking me now?!" You don't really think they're stalking you, but it's odd how you keep running into them. Same if someone on EH keeps viewing your profile - you forget that sometimes you can get stuck in this loop of "Who viewed me" and it feels uncomfortable.

Perhaps he did mean literally stalking, but that's not how I interpreted his comment.
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mitchell175 wrote :
Interesting. Why would it show up as a view when I never even entered their profile? I just clicked a button in a list. I am not talking about the orange "close match" button at the bottom of the profile, just on the match list in my archive folder.
I have stopped questioning the logic of eH features. Don't know why it works this way.


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Well, I figured that the OP was using "stalking" in a very loose term. Like, if you keep running into someone you know in different places - the gym, the store, a restaurant - you ask them "Hey, what are you stalking me now?!" You don't really think they're stalking you, but it's odd how you keep running into them. Same if someone on EH keeps viewing your profile - you forget that sometimes you can get stuck in this loop of "Who viewed me" and it feels uncomfortable.

Perhaps he did mean literally stalking, but that's not how I interpreted his comment.
If you aren't interested in someone, you really don't care what they do. Why does he care so much?

BTW, I have run into closed matches in the grocery store. It's a little weird when you recognize each other, isn't it?
 
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Well, I still have paid for until August. I'm just not accepting matches.
 
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glonamcd is offline glonamcd Post #34  January 12,2012, 3:43pm
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Due to a company close of office, I have had to move a long ways from my original 300 matches. There really needs to be a way to clear my matches, but I can't seem to find a way other than creating a new account. Is there someone I could contact to get a mass-delete of my matches?

edit: I read the thread properly now and created a customer service request now. It should be added as a feature for relocating though.
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mitchell175 wrote :
Interesting. Why would it show up as a view when I never even entered their profile? I just clicked a button in a list. I am not talking about the orange "close match" button at the bottom of the profile, just on the match list in my archive folder.

And, for my own sanity, I learned long ago NOT to re-open any profile that has already closed me. Yeah, the curiosity factor used to get to me, and I would look, but then I'd get frustrated wondering why that guy would close me. Pointless! So, now I don't look. I just hit "close" and move on.


This is good to know! I am not presently on EH, so it seems they have corrected that little problem. I know that back a few months ago when I was still on EH, I was getting profile and photo updates from matches that I knew were closed. And not just views. Updates.



Well, I figured that the OP was using "stalking" in a very loose term. Like, if you keep running into someone you know in different places - the gym, the store, a restaurant - you ask them "Hey, what are you stalking me now?!" You don't really think they're stalking you, but it's odd how you keep running into them. Same if someone on EH keeps viewing your profile - you forget that sometimes you can get stuck in this loop of "Who viewed me" and it feels uncomfortable.

Perhaps he did mean literally stalking, but that's not how I interpreted his comment.
Thank you, I was using loosely. I think the other posters fail to understand the situation. I'm trying to close permanently the people I have no interests in, which is everyone.
 
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Actually, if you click the orange button that says "Respond" or "Close" it does not show up as a view. You have to actually "view" their profile. But, that doesn't mean if you go into their profile through the orange button then click on the Basic Info tab that it won't show up as a view. I'm pretty darn sure about this because I have matches who will respond to questions or OC and never show up on my viewed me list.
 
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