Profile review, 26M

Hullo, all,

I've been with eH for a week now and a few women have looked at my profile but not so much as a smile or 'Hi' in my general direction. Is there something off about my profile? Too pedantic? With many thanks for reading

The one thing I am most passionate about: I have concluded from years of experience that people must protect the environment and the resources we have available to us. All people have a responsibility to help others live as fulfilled lives as possible and uphold the truth. Accordingly, I have amazed people with the lengths to which I'll go over matters of principle and standing up to people who believe that they can decide the rules.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: I see relationships as a partnership between equals which allows each person to grow off the other, divide the burdens and double the joys. Accordingly, I am looking for someone whose life will compliment mine, and mine hers. This does not mean that we should be identical - far from it - but rather our interests, characters and abilities should allow us to live more happily than if we were alone. This really reads to me as very generic preaching. The last sentence makes you look really bad as you are basically saying that you will blindly fight no matter the cost - that just makes you look stubborn and stupid. I'm certain that's not what you had in mind when you wrote this.

Basic Information

Occupation: Self-employed tech consultant
Age 26
Height 6' 0"(182 cm)
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: Never
Smokes: Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
At the church where I used to go there were two priests. They were my philosophical and intellectual advisors when I was a teenager and I am still good friends with them. They helped me laugh when I was down, gave me comfort when I was scared and guided my attention towards greater awareness and higher understanding.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

• My health and wellness
• Safety and security
• Wealth and material security

Three of my best life-skills are:

• Using humour to make friends laugh
• Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
• Managing my finances

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
People, once they get to know me, love me. It's frustrating when I meet new people and I can't convey how harmless and caring I am. Suggestions appreciated. So the impression you give is that you are dangerous??? Again, this section needs some serious rethinking and rewriting.

The things I can't live without are:

• My family
• A home

Complete this section and don't take the question so literally. This is a section where people insert some sense of humor, show some cute quirks they have, like "can't live without my fuzzy slippers" Tongue in cheek works here.
The first thing people notice about me:
Many people say that I was born in the wrong era. Although my views are modern and scientific, my behaviour, sense of humour and style show an old-world reverence to class, sophistication, tradition and wit. People occasionally wrongly develop a first impression that I'm an uptight snob, but I despise arrogance.
Ummm....in this paragraph and overall profile it's exactly how you are coming across.... Food for thought here....
I typically spend my leisure time:
My interests in fashion and style have led me to take up jewellery making, knitting and sewing. I occupy my mind with new information and skills. I love to play games and spend nice quiet evenings at home cozy and cuddling. Sooo you don't have friends you spend time with? Family? Do you go outside of the house? Do you exercise? Do you travel? Do you watch movies? Do you have a favorite band? Really need to expand in this section as knitting and sewing is pretty hard to connect to for just about anyone and this is the section where people are looking to see what they have in common with you and how you both would fit into each others lives.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I'm currently working through George Orwell's Ninteen Eighty-Four. I like how the story draws importance to many of the luxuries and freedoms which we take for granted. The relationships are contrived and makes it too easy to infer that strong government and freedom are mutually exclusive. However, the book is nevertheless a good basis for conversation.

My friends describe me as:

• Funny
• Modest
• Good Listener
• Intelligent

Just as I feared. Thanks all for your feedback. Unfortunately, (and if you find my other posts) you'll notice that my writing style is pretty formal - I blame my accounting training.

Unfortunately, my humour is pretty situational and I make observations and play off other people than set up jokes. When I actually try to write humour, it comes across as even *more* pretentious. Anyway, I'll start with relaxing the language (although since I speak a lot like how I write... oh dear!).

emma_hazards, good on you for catching that idiom. Although I'd prefer to go back to when compliment and complement were interchangeable, the differentiation certainly is clearer.

DancingFool, you seem to see in me things that other people do but I don't see myself. Between you, me and the rest of the Internet, I'm afraid I am most of the things you point me out to be: I don't go to concerts, I don't really exercise (except under protest) or travel (broke) and I do put people off.

This profile *does* reflect who I am as a person, based on the responses. I'll do my best to fix the profile, but evidently I'll also need to change who I am to prevent the very feedback I'm getting...

Gimmie a few days to rework and I'll get back to you

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
People, once they get to know me, love me. It's frustrating when I meet new people and I can't convey how harmless and caring I am. Suggestions appreciated.

I typically spend my leisure time:
My interests in fashion and style have led me to take up jewellery making, knitting and sewing. I occupy my mind with new information and skills. I love to play games and spend nice quiet evenings at home cozy and cuddling.

The first one, by saying "I'm harmless" makes it sound like you come across as a serial killer when people first meet you.

Also using "frustrating" makes it sound like you get upset easily when people don't warm up to you quickly.

The second section, I don't know, some girls may be into a guy that does these things in his free time, but most wouldn't, especially at your age. I'm 29 and the only guys I know who spend all their free time doing stuff like that are gay.