nerds-unite is offline nerds-unite Post #1  January 9,2012, 4:04pm
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Well many people were suggesting this for me, so I'll give it a shot. Let's hear what you guys have to say. =]

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The one thing I am most passionate about:
The simple answer is art. Everything from music to writing to drawing. Animation is what I like best, since it combines all three. My goal is to open my own studio because I want to work on projects that are truly mine, not someone else's.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Well I'm definitely a "geek-and-proud" kind of guy, so I'd like someone who appreciates the nerdier side of life. =P I would love to find someone who has good morals, but isn't too black-and-white either.

Occupation:
Student; Work-Study
Age
21
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Maybe
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
Probably my brother. As a kid I followed in his footsteps, I felt inspired by how he did so well at everything. To this day it's hard not to brag about him.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• The little things are what matter most.
• I guess I'm thankful for having a comfortable life.
• Donuts.

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Making art and culture an ongoing part of my life
• Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
• Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I'm actually confident. I can take care of myself. In fact, I took eight years of martial arts.

The things I can't live without are:
• Friends
• Art
• Music
• Food
• Water

The first thing people notice about me:
I'm a nice guy! Few things are more rewarding than making people happy with good deeds.

Some additional information I want you to know:
Well, I have a dorky sense of humor. I think funny faces and silly voices are hilarious. Sometimes I'm just plain weird. =] On the other hand, I have a deep and philosophical side. I've maintained a perfect 4.0 GPA for four years, counting high school. Let's see ... I'm often told that I'm financially responsible, but I love to buy people gifts. I know how to work hard, I've worked at several different places and I'm usually told I'm among the most valuable employees. That's about all I can think of right now ...

I typically spend my leisure time:
In the summer, I like to take my bike out for long rides on the local trails. When I'm stuck indoors, I usually spend free time creating something. I will rarely play a video game anymore, but occasionally I still enjoy a few rounds of certain games.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
It was fiction based on a true story, about the author's rough life on the streets ... it was written and published by a good friend of mine, actually. Look up "Pursuing Hope" on Amazon, it's a good read.

My friends describe me as:
• Dependable
• Creative
• Kind
• Energetic
I might add that I love to watch (the actually good) anime, and my preferred style of animation is based on anime. I'm just hesitant to mention that because it could give the wrong impression. There's no denying I'm an enthusiast, but I'm not the strange and socially awkward stereotypical fan (at least I don't believe I am.)
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emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #2  January 10,2012, 1:42pm
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Hi nerds-unite!

Over all, this is a very well-written profile. A few suggested tweaks:
  1. Add details. What type of art? Impressionist? Pop? Anime? What? Ditto for music. Who are your favorite artists? Favorite genres? Do you play an instrument? What are some of the little things that matter? What makes your life comfortable? Details will add color and depth to your match's impression of you and really set you apart from everyone else in her Inbox.
  2. Lose the self-deprecation. Statements such as, "Sometimes I'm just plain weird.=]" really hurt you. A stranger isn't going to stick around to figure out whether that's "good" weird or "bad "weird. She'll opt instead for the normal-sounding guy.
  3. Food and water are extremely common answers. I would say, probably 90% of my matches use one of the following three combinations: Food-water-air-housing, friends-family-health-job, and/or phone-computer-car-money/job. These are so expected that anyone that doesn't use them really stands out. Are there other things that are really critical to you? Maybe mention those instead.

Best of luck with your search!
 
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1. Alright, I'll try to be more specific.

2. I honestly didn't think the word "weird" was negative at all in that context, but if it really does have such a strong negative connotation then it's giving the wrong impression. How else do I say I like to act strange for the sake of humor?

3. And here I thought I was being clever. =P I guess I'll have to put some other humorous items in there instead.
 
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Make sure to have a female friend look over your pictures too. You want to choose ones that make you look the best.
 
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nerds-unite wrote :
1. Alright, I'll try to be more specific.

2. I honestly didn't think the word "weird" was negative at all in that context, but if it really does have such a strong negative connotation then it's giving the wrong impression. How else do I say I like to act strange for the sake of humor?

3. And here I thought I was being clever. =P I guess I'll have to put some other humorous items in there instead.
#1: Feel free to post the revised version for additional feedback and tweaking.

#2: How about you just skip this effort. Acting strange to be funny will come across as immature, socially awkward, and not ready to handle a real relationship. Women are not looking for Peter Pan types to date. Besides, you have more than enough references to your geekiness and dorkiness sprinkled throughout your profile. No need for overkill.

#3: You and the rest of the world thought they would be the only ones clever enough to think of this. Did it myself. Saw it listed in all my early matches' profiles and thought, "Uh-oh...I guess I'm not that unique after all!"

FWIW, you can post your pictures for review here. Just create an album under your profile and add your pictures to it. Allow for public viewing, so that reviewers can see them.

Best of luck!
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
#2: How about you just skip this effort. Acting strange to be funny will come across as immature, socially awkward, and not ready to handle a real relationship. Women are not looking for Peter Pan types to date. Besides, you have more than enough references to your geekiness and dorkiness sprinkled throughout your profile. No need for overkill.
Agreed.
Now, I appreciate a good (and correctly referenced) LotR joke or Elder Scrolls game session as much as the next girl, but I agree, you do not need to mention your quirkiness at every turn. I'm sure it'll come out later, and there's no need to push it. Besides that, the "Additional information" is sort of a cram session of accomplishments. They're all respectable and I'm sure many women are looking for them. But to me personally, they don't seem to relate or read well.
 
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/sigh, online dating just isn't for me. I can't obsess over how I present myself with a dating resume, it seems so much easier to just flirt in real life. I respect that this system must work for a lot of people, and I'm happy for them.

Mainly I came here because I believe that people should be selfless and kind, sex should be intimate and not casual, drugs should be avoided, things of that nature. When I find a girl who believes all that, she's usually very prudish and religious, a little over-the-top. On the other hand, when I find myself getting along with a girl, she usually doesn't believe any of that, and it's all still important to me. Maybe I'm being too picky, but I thought that coming here would broaden my selection. For me, it's just as narrow as it was before.

Thanks to everyone who gave me advice, it was much appreciated. Your insight will help me, even if it's only in real life. I've made the changes to my profile accordingly.
I understand my matches put a lot of thought into reviewing my profile, but I feel like I'll never get anywhere if I'm not even given a chance to talk, let alone being cut off because of one or two silly words on my profile. Thanks again.
 
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