needadvise is offline needadvise Post #1  January 9,2012, 12:06pm
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Hey guys! I need some help adjusting my profile. Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks!

The one thing I am most passionate about:

My faith is very important to me and a lot of my time is spent at my church. I also love cooking and baking, camping and backpacking, and spending time with my dog. I also enjoy the movies or just relaxing in front of the tv

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

I'm looking for a genuinely good guy with character and integrity. To me, that is so important, and really effects every area of life. I want a man who will do the right thing always, with me, and in the future we build together.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation:
retail
Age
28
Height
5' 5"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
Never
Smokes:
Never
In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

When I was in 7th grade, I had the most amazing youth pastor. He really showed me it was possible to have fun, enjoy life, have and amazing family and still dedicate your life to God. And actually, he is one of the main reasons I aspire to become a youth pastor myself.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

God- His amazing grace and forgiveness and unfathomable love in my life
my parents- they have been so loving, faithful and dependable and their 40 year marriage has been such and example to me
my dogs, Champ and Charlie- who bring so much joy and life

Three of my best life-skills are:

Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
Cooking for my family and friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

I can be pretty funny and be a lot of fun.

The things I can't live without are:

My Relationship With God
Bible
Family
My dog
My hiking boots

The first thing people notice about me:

When I first meet anyone, I tend to be kind of shy. I'm not really though, once I get to know you. It just takes me a little while to get comfortable.

Some additional information I want you to know:

I graduated from a christian university with a degree in youth ministry. I love kids and seeing God transform their lives. I'm looking for a godly man to share my life and passions with. Can't wait to hear from you!

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

When I have down time, I usually try to spend it all outside. Whether it's taking my dog for a walk, going camping or hiking, or just sitting on my deck enjoying the view, I love to be out in nature. Another thing I really enjoy is baking and cooking. I'm always trying out new recipes or whipping up a batch or this or that.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I love anything by John Eldredge. Most recently, I read Waking the Dead and it made me so excited about life with God.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Dependable
Genuine
Easy-Going
Thoughtful
 
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itswhatev is offline itswhatev Post #2  January 10,2012, 12:05am
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First thing I noticed was that your profile has a lot about god in it. There is a Christian singles website if you didn't know. But anyway, many people equate religion to high maintenance, at least I do. Mainly because I feel every decision is going to be based on religion. It's cool to care about god, but I would like to hear more about you being "pretty funny and be a lot of fun." More about YOU!

I'm not anti-religion. Just trying to help. Hope this helps.
 
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Faraday is offline Faraday Post #3  January 10,2012, 10:19am
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I think you're not getting many replies because there are a lot of profiles like yours that come up with a religious reference in every section...and it feels redundant sometimes

It's totally awesome that you're a believer and I completely understand wanting to find someone that serves God in the same way as yourself...but, your profile is about YOU. It should highlight your interests, hobbies, things that you do and things that you love. You want a match to read your profile and connect with you. He's trying to imagine what living with you and sharing your life would be like. It's okay to mention your passion for God in ONE section...that will be enough. Anymore than one mention, and you become one-dimensional and it seems like all there is to you is serving God. So I strongly advise, that you rewrite your profile focusing on you , post it, and then I bet you'll get a lot of great feedback

I like your leisure time section
 
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I agree. I think you have some good content in your profile but it is VERY repetitive. Since god is so important in your life I would put it in the most passionate section and free up everything else to focus on other interests or aspects of your personality. People will get your faith is important to you, but they will also get to see you as a multidimensional person.

Whenever I write my profile I always like to think about what it is I think it is most important for a potential date to know about me. What will make me seem different than their other matches? What will make them excited to get to know me? I try to make sure to give him a picture of what a date and life with me would be like. Once I've landed on a few things I make sure my profile hits them home.

Right now religion is such a strong focus that it overpowers everything else so even a match who has strong convictions in his faith may overlook you because he doesn't know anything else about you.
 
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