Profile Review 32yo Male

Hi everyone,

I've been on eharmony for a year, but rarely get any replies to my emails. I think my profile may need some jazzing up, but I'm not sure how to do it. I thought I might give this a try. Any comments will be very appreciated.

Thanks.


The one thing I am most passionate about:
Maintaining my friendships. Every place I’ve lived (from Portland to Panama), I’ve been lucky to have the best friends to share both the good times and the bad. As I’ve moved on, I’ve found that keeping them in my life has been a valuable source of fulfillment.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Someone with a kind heart and an inquiring mind.

Basic Information
Occupation: Advertising Research Analyst
Age 32
Height 5' 10"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity Indian
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
I went to a small high school where I came from a very different background than most of the students. I had a young teacher who really helped me to find my place and encouraged me to reach my potential without losing sight of who I am. As a result, I'm now confident that I can succeed in any environment, no matter how unfamiliar it may initially seem.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
•a supportive family
•good health
•the opportunities I have had in life

Three of my best life-skills are:
•Understanding local, national, and world events
•Using humor to make friends laugh
•Maintaining a network of close friends

The things I can't live without are:
Friends/Family
A cast-iron skillet -- I love to cook
The Daily Show
My boxing gloves
Electricity

The first thing people notice about me:
That I am friendly and am an easy person to talk to.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I've lived from coast to coast and in between. I spent the last few years as a grad student in San Diego. But I was born in raised in the midwest. Every now and then, some of my midwestern mannerisms still come through.

My interestsI typically spend my leisure time:
I've taken up boxing classess to stay active--great fun. I also enjoy experimenting in the kitchen as well as finding new restaurants. In the city, I enjoy exploring museums, going to the theater or discovering those places that are unique to New York. But sometimes, I just like to relax with my Netflix queue and catch up on tv and movies. EXAMPLE?

The last book I read and enjoyed:
Tina Fey's "Bossypants" and "The Other Boleyn Girl." The first because Tina Fey is awesome and the second because I am fascinated by that time (Tudor) in history.

According to my friends:My friends describe me as:
Funny
Good Listener
Easy-Going
Intelligent

Overall, your profile is well-written. Two suggestions:

#1
Your Passionate section is weak. Is this really what gets you up in the morning? What gets you excited? Gets your blood rushing? Is your raison d'etre? I'm far from convinced. Either do a better job of conveying your excitement or pick something that is more meaningful to you.

#2
You have some nice detail throughout, however, there are opportunities missed. What foods? What midwestern mannerisms? What movies? How did you get introduced to boxing? Surely there is a story there. Paint a vivid picture for your matches!

Finally, I'm a little surprised that you have had little response. eH has more women than men, and you're at the "prime" online dating age for men, where demand by women far outstrips supply of men. Hmm. Could be your pictures. I would recommend posting those for review. Could be the questions you choose to send and/or your responses to a match's question. Could be your location. Could be your settings are very narrow with regard to age range, ethnicity, geography, etc. Customer service can help you figure out how to broaden these. Could be you're only contacting women who are completely out of your league. Could be that you aren't attempting contact with enough matches.

Best of luck!

I also think your profile is fine. I am not sure where you are currently located. Are you seeking women of all races?

Although it's not pc to say, I wonder how much your ethinicity plays into it...I wonder if you are either being actively screened out by ethnicity (can't recall if EH does that) or passively by readers who think you are "too different" from them. Personally, Indian men were high on my radar (educated, professional, ethical) when I was seeking but I am not sure if that is common.

I wonder if another sentence in addition to your "mid-west" comment, you could add some more "white bread"...whether it was born and raised here, a comment that you have a new love for Polish food since your brother married a Polish girl, or something that says you/your family aren't (IF you aren't) uber-traditional.

Best-K

Hi everyone,

I've been on eharmony for a year, but rarely get any replies to my emails. I think my profile may need some jazzing up, but I'm not sure how to do it. I thought I might give this a try. Any comments will be very appreciated.

Thanks.


The one thing I am most passionate about:
Maintaining my friendships. Every place I’ve lived, I’ve been lucky to have the best friends to share both the good times and the bad. As I’ve moved on, I’ve found that keeping them in my life has been a valuable source of fulfillment.

I liked this answer.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Someone with a kind heart and an inquiring mind.

Basic Information
Occupation: Advertising Research Analyst
Age 32
Height 5' 10"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity Indian
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
I went to a small high school where I came from a very different background than most of the students. I had a young teacher who really helped me to find my place and encouraged me to reach my potential without losing sight of who I am. As a result, I'm now confident that I can succeed in any environment, no matter how unfamiliar it may initially seem.

How did this teacher actually help you?

The three things which I am most thankful for:
•a supportive family
•good health
•the opportunities I have had in life

Three of my best life-skills are:
•Understanding local, national, and world events
•Using humor to make friends laugh
•Maintaining a network of close friends

The things I can't live without are:
Friends/Family - you mention friends above, try a different one that is more creative (like the one below)
A cast-iron skillet -- I love to cook
The Daily Show
My boxing gloves
Electricity - kind of lame

The first thing people notice about me:
That I am friendly and am an easy person to talk to.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I've lived from coast to coast and in between. I spent the last few years as a grad student in San Diego. But I was born in raised in the midwest. Every now and then, some of my midwestern mannerisms still come through.

My interestsI typically spend my leisure time:
I've taken up boxing classess to stay active--great fun. I also enjoy experimenting in the kitchen as well as finding new restaurants. In the city, I enjoy exploring museums, going to the theater or discovering those places that are unique to New York. But sometimes, I just like to relax with my Netflix queue and catch up on tv and movies.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
Tina Fey's "Bossypants" and "The Other Boleyn Girl." The first because Tina Fey is awesome and the second because I am fascinated by that time in history.

According to my friends:My friends describe me as:
Funny
Good Listener
Easy-Going
Intelligent

Thanks for the insights! I am seeking women of all races, and I live in the New York area, so I do get a steady stream of matches every day.
Ethnicity might be an issue to some. I’ve dated women out of my ethnicity and I certainly know people in interracial relationships. I also think many people are open to dating other ethnicities. Moreover, I get turned down by Indian women just as often as non-Indians (two just today!), so I think my problems have more to do with factors other than my race. That being said, I think my ethnicity matters at the margins mainly because there might be a perception that Indians are traditional or foreign, etc. At the very least, I feel compelled to explain how American I am—not just on eH, but to potential dates in real life too. You are also correct that my “Midwestern” line is my way of explaining that I am American in upbringing, and by extension, my values without explicitly mentioning my ethnicity. I think I could add another sentence along the lines you suggest to indicate that I am not traditional. But I am not sure that anything more can really be done about it. In the end, I hope to meet someone that doesn’t care about these things!
Thanks again,
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