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Maverick001 is offline Maverick001 Post #1  January 5,2012, 1:01am
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Hi y'all. Wondered if you guys might be kind enough to run the ol' profile review on me. I'm taking another stab at the site after quitting it once after a year of no success, I took a break for a bit and thought I'd give it another chance, figuring maybe there's something I can adjust in getting some attention/interest.

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The one thing I am most passionate about:
I'm big on details. Whether it's about work, my hobbies or anything else, I like to get into the fine print of things.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A good (compatible?) sense of humor.

About Me
Basic Information


Occupation:
Entrepreneur, Surgical Technician
Age
30
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
There isn't one single person I can point to that answers this question accurately. That said, if I had to choose? I always thought Mr. Rogers and his philosophies on life fit the bill pretty good.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family
My friends
The opportunities I've had

Three of my best life-skills are:
Creating romance in a relationship
Using humor to make friends laugh
Volunteering my time to causes I care about

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Not that it'd be possible, but I think I have a pretty generous nature and I'd be okay with that getting recognized, I guess.

The things I can't live without are:
Jellybeans
Autodidacticism
Petrochemical byproducts
Masked wrestling
Goofy answers to benign, but dumb questions

The first thing people notice about me:
My incredible manual dexterity and the ability to cling to walls. Honestly I don't really know, they never tell me, but I never ask either.

Some additional information I want you to know:
Nope.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
I read a lot, and lately I've been trying to learn to program a little bit, out of curiosity. Most of my leisure time goes to working with kids through a youth organization, though.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
"A Cook's Tour" by Anthony Bourdain is pretty frickin' great. Though it shares the same name as his TV show for a reason, it veers off from just telling the story of the show and goes into a deeper examination of the places and cuisines he checks out, as well as some biographical entries that, combined with the guy's gift for wickedly biting, masculine-oriented prose, makes for a great read.
According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:
Creative
Ambitious
Caring
Sweet
Off the bat, I realize that maybe some folks might want more in the nebulous 'additional information' box, but I have NO idea what to put there. Same for the 'five things' question: I guess it's kind of a BS answer but they're not random lies, I suppose I'm just being difficult there.

Anyway, any thoughts would be appreciated!
 
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #2  January 5,2012, 2:47am
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Too much sarcasm can backfire. Also...be clear on your profession. Passionate about "fine print"? Sounds like OCD or lawsuit paranoia. All you want is a compatible sense of humor?....Well... maybe really sarcastic women will come your way with this ...Good Luck.
 
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My detailed comments below. My overall impression is that you didn't really put the time into your profile and so it may come across to your matches as you are not really serious about meeting anyone. You are definitely attractive, so it's not your looks.

The one thing I am most passionate about:

I'm big on details. Whether it's about work, my hobbies or anything else, I like to get into the fine print of things. This really doesn't say much and gives an impression that you are really uptight maybe? This is an answer you really need to rethink and work on. Think of what really interests you - you job, a hobby, a cause? Pick one and discuss it. Later in your profile you mentioned spending a lot of time working with children - maybe you can talk about it here?

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A good (compatible?) sense of humor. This is also really vague. A match can't really relate to this at all because they have no idea who you are and what your sense of humor is. Rethink this section.

About Me
Basic Information


Occupation:
Entrepreneur, Surgical Technician
Age
30
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
There isn't one single person I can point to that answers this question accurately. That said, if I had to choose? I always thought Mr. Rogers and his philosophies on life fit the bill pretty good. This reads a bit flippant in the "I'm too lazy to think of an answer" way. It doesn't have to be life changing, just someone you like or a friend, teacher, mentor, boss, co-worker, etc. whose qualities you admire or who got you to see something from a different perspective.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family
My friends
The opportunities I've had

Three of my best life-skills are:
Creating romance in a relationship
Using humor to make friends laugh
Volunteering my time to causes I care about

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Not that it'd be possible, but I think I have a pretty generous nature and I'd be okay with that getting recognized, I guess. This again....need to think harder and come up with an answer and don't surround with "not that....recognized...I guess" Just say it directly.

The things I can't live without are:
Jellybeans
Autodidacticism
Petrochemical byproducts
Masked wrestling
Goofy answers to benign, but dumb questions
I was actually deeply amused by your answers here. Definitely unique.

The first thing people notice about me:
My incredible manual dexterity and the ability to cling to walls. Honestly I don't really know, they never tell me, but I never ask either. This is funny.

Some additional information I want you to know:
Nope. If you don't want to say anything, just leave it blank completely. That way this section won't show up at all on your profile and so won't be noticeable.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
I read a lot, and lately I've been trying to learn to program a little bit, out of curiosity. Most of my leisure time goes to working with kids through a youth organization, though. Expand a little more in this section. Do you spend time with friend or family? What else do you do. Matches tend to read this sections carefully to try to get an idea of what your life is like outside of work, what common interests you two might have and how they would fit into your life.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
"A Cook's Tour" by Anthony Bourdain is pretty frickin' great. Though it shares the same name as his TV show for a reason, it veers off from just telling the story of the show and goes into a deeper examination of the places and cuisines he checks out, as well as some biographical entries that, combined with the guy's gift for wickedly biting, masculine-oriented prose, makes for a great read. Really well written response
According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:
Creative
Ambitious
Caring
Sweet
 
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charmed59 is online now charmed59 Post #4  January 5,2012, 8:08am
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I'm old enough to be your mom, but I loved that profile. Though from my experience, the biggest difference between profiles on eHarmony and profiles on Match is folks on eHarmony are expecting more serious, earnest profiles. If you were to use that kind of humor on Match the ladies would be all over it. On eHarmony, I don't know.
 
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You have to be careful with sarcasm because intent can be easily misread when it comes to just reading the text without te voice.

You should get into more details on your answers. Get away from cliches and personalize it. You have some stuff to build on such as why you volinteer.

The addition infor is for you to list your hobbies, what you like to do have fun, or what she would feel a date or being with you would feel like.
 
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I'm 29 and have a VERY sarcastic sense of humor, and I love Bourdain. However, I would read your profile and think either you weren't serious at all about finding someone, or you are one of those people who uses humor to cover up who you really are and it's impossible to get to know you. Either one would probably cause me to move onto the next one. Dating "for fun" was something I did in the past on other dating sites, but eH is a bit more on the serious side. I think there's still ways to inject your sense of humor but also taking the questions seriously and answering them so a woman reading them will get a bit of insight about who you really are.

Also I really hope you have more/better pictures than a bathroom mirror one. Bathroom mirror pics are awful and belong on POF or OKCupid.
 
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Definately cute enough. And smart enough. And gosh darnit....

I agree there is some funny stuff here (the 5 things and manual dexterity) but it will show better if contrasted with genuine answers elsewhere.

I am a details person myself. My career is all in the details. And I'd love to make sure surg techs count all the sponges before I get closed up,, but I think it's not a great answer for passionate about. It makes you sound high maintenance and demanding.

Include a few more (real) specifics like food/music (bbq and metallica or vegan deadhead or coffee house hipster) to highlight your lifestyle. Give a clue as to what social activities a woman might expect you to do together.....hiking, shopping, trying new restaurants, alphabetizing your cds, whatever.

I also wonder based on your career if that is typically 8-5 or more on a nursing schedule/round the clock. If the latter, you might want to discuss.

Oh, and this is EH, so by default we are ALL straight.
 
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Thanks for the good advice so far! It's a big help!

charmed59 wrote :
I'm old enough to be your mom, but I loved that profile. Though from my experience, the biggest difference between profiles on eHarmony and profiles on Match is folks on eHarmony are expecting more serious, earnest profiles. If you were to use that kind of humor on Match the ladies would be all over it. On eHarmony, I don't know.
You know, it's funny you mention Match - I tried it also, once, and wished like crazy that the results would improve enough that I could call them 'dismal'. It was really bad.

It was like the junior high dances all over again. What a nightmare!
 
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eharmonyjc wrote :
I'm 29 and have a VERY sarcastic sense of humor, and I love Bourdain. However, I would read your profile and think either you weren't serious at all about finding someone, or you are one of those people who uses humor to cover up who you really are and it's impossible to get to know you. Either one would probably cause me to move onto the next one. Dating "for fun" was something I did in the past on other dating sites, but eH is a bit more on the serious side. I think there's still ways to inject your sense of humor but also taking the questions seriously and answering them so a woman reading them will get a bit of insight about who you really are.

Also I really hope you have more/better pictures than a bathroom mirror one. Bathroom mirror pics are awful and belong on POF or OKCupid.
Good advice, and I think you've totally called me out. I absolutely feel awkward about this, because it's so inorganic, and I am totally trying to use humor to pad that out. You're a sharp one!

I'll have to dial it back a bit.

And yes, I have more photos, I just lead with that one because it might be the best of what I've got. I didn't post them all not for a photo review, but I figured it would help contextualize a little and mostly to not clog up the post with photos. Yeah, mirror photos are a bummer, but I don't wind up in a lot of good pictures, and I really don't want to go ask someone to take pictures of me just for Internet purposes. Is that something people do?
 
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Ok SO - I took all your advice to heart, thank you everyone! I retooled the most seized-upon spots, and even took a moment to build up portions that I realized I had more to say about. A big thing is that I rarely have much to say about myself, so this has been a bit of a challenge in the first place. It's never been so much a matter of not being serious about the process, or even not having answers to questions, but just knowing what questions to answer. This thread was a huge help, thank you.

Here's the result of your feedback:

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The one thing I am most passionate about:
I realized recently that, despite my (maybe overly) analytical nature, I can't stand not being able to flex a creative side. I'll give up a lot in order to have the opportunity to have that in my life, whether that be doing up fliers for an event, sausage-fingering a piano or redesigning a website because I can't look at it anymore; or ideally building it into some kind of career. Whatever the outlet is, having one is something that is critical to me.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I really want to find someone with a compatible sense of humor. I like goofy, sometimes sarcastic and dry, and I'm always big on terrible puns. Non sequiturs are great too. I just think life and relationships are more fun when you can laugh at the same things frequently, and get amusement from the same things.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation:
Entrepreneur, Surgical Technician
Age
30
Height
5' 11"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
The people I know have all made their impacts in different ways, though I'm hard-pressed to really pick one or another. It's like picking a favorite friend or something. But I like the idea of modern philosophers, and I really got a lot out of reading what Fred Rogers – as in Mr. Rogers, as in Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood – has to say about things. I thought he was remarkably astute and promotes a great way to look at things and live your life.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My family
My friends
The opportunities I've had

Three of my best life-skills are:
Creating romance in a relationship
Using humor to make friends laugh
Leading a community service group

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Other than my rippling, swoon-worthy physique and crystal clear directions to both the beach and the gun show (they're both THAT way), I think I'd like to be known or noticed more for being generous. I think that sounds weird, especially because I don't do anything for the purpose of being noticed or to draw gratitude, but to be honest it'd be nice if more people picked up on it anyway.

The things I can't live without are:
Jellybeans
Autodidacticism
Petrochemical byproducts
Masked wrestling
Goofy answers to benign, but dumb questions

The first thing people notice about me:
My incredible manual dexterity and the ability to cling to walls. Honestly I don't really know, they never tell me, but I never ask either.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I've not been dating for quite some time, so forgive me if I'm a little awkward at first, it's something I'm getting used to again. You'll have to wine and dine me a bit before I put out. Thanks for understanding!

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
I read a lot, and lately I've been trying to learn to program a little bit, out of curiosity. When I get out, though, I like rock climbing, trying new restaurants and foods or developing my own in the kitchen. In an ideal world I'd travel a whole lot more. There's a lot of world left to see. Most of my leisure time goes to working with kids through a youth organization, though. I mentor high school students and work with them on life skills, leadership and socialization. I benefitted from a similar experience as a kid, and it's good to be able to pass that onward.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
"A Cook's Tour" by Anthony Bourdain is pretty frickin' great. Though it shares the same name as his TV show for a reason, it veers off from just telling the story of the show and goes into a deeper examination of the places and cuisines he checks out, as well as some biographical entries that, combined with the guy's gift for wickedly biting, masculine-oriented prose, makes for a great read.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Creative
Ambitious
Caring
Respectful
 
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