Profile Review: M/30 years old/Vancouver, WA

Q-Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?*
A-My friend Jeremy. We have known each other for 15 years and have gone through everything together throughout our lives. He pushes me intellectually and picks me up emotionally.*

This is OK I guess, sort of bland and vague.

Q-what is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?
A-Curiosity. I feel that constant drive to know more about the world today than I did yesterday, and I greatly appreciate it in other people. I also need someone that communicates well, not just every day things but emotionally and intellectually as well. My wish list isn't that long, I love a girl with nice tattoo's, someone that is musical would be awesome, and someone with a passion for travel (even if income prevents it). everything else simply limits people too much and makes life uninteresting, who wants their idea of perfect anyway, the unknown is better anyway.

I read this and thought, well, this guy wouldn't like me, I don't have any tattoos and even though I like lots of different kinds of music, I don't consider myself "musical". Putting specific things like this will limit your dating pool. Also for some reason the last line comes off as kind of negative to me, and reads badly with "anyway" twice.

Q-Other than your appearance, what is the first thing people notice about you and why?
A-My laugh. It is loud and very distinctive, but not annoying.*

I like this

Q-what is one thing that people don't notice about you right away that you wish they would?
A-I am a lot deeper than many of my friends notice, and that is hard sometimes. I am a very emotional person, but really try to operate from a purely rational position which is a bit of an enigma. I guess I want people to know more about me and less about what I enjoy or am passionate about that is external.

This sounds super "emo" and like you might be brooding/moody. Also, in the end, the "I'm really a sensitive person once you get to know me" bit is what most people put in this section. I actually think it's the lamest question they ask in the profile though since I've never seen anybody have a real great answer to it.

Q-what are five things you can't live without?
A-TIVO, Education, Conversation, Physical contact, and Pets

This is OK but the "physical contact" part might be taken the wrong way by some people. Also what kind of pets?

Q-describe the last book you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
A-Well, the last full book I read was "Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness" by a Buddhist monk Bhante Guarantana. It explores how the Eight fold path of Buddhism can improve your joy in life. It was half for work and half for myself as I try to lead a mindful life. Right now I am reading "Hitchhikers Guide" which is a whole different type of philosophy altogether.

This is good.

A-is there any additional information that you would like your matches to know about you?

A-Just that I can come across as aloof or distant when people first meet me, and some people mistake it for being either stuck up or angry, which it isn't. I am a pretty shy person at first but that only lasts until the first good conversation topic.

All this is not good. It makes it sound like it would be hard to have a conversation with you, and it sort of says something similar to the "don't notice about me" section. This section is more to provide more detail to other things you wrote in your profile but didn't have room to elaborate. Like example, you mention you're a nursing student, but then you also mention work. Is your work the nursing student work stuff, or do you have a different job too? Also you can put something humorous or a tidbit about your life here.

Q-What are you most passionate about?
A-I am most passionate about learning. I am always trying to learn something interesting everyday. I consider myself a perpetual student and like to read about many different topics. I want to be able to form an educated opinion about as many topics as I can and thirst to learn new things.*

I think I know what you were trying to say about being a perpetual student (ie you always like to learn new things), but it comes across totally wrong. Saying you're a perpetual student at the age of 30 would be a huge turn-off for me. Makes it sound like you never grew up and are in "college student" mode for forever. We don't want to date a man-child.

Q-what are three things for which you are the most thankful?
A-The opportunities I have had educationally and professionally,*My closeness with my family. I am lucky to have a very tight knit family,*My friends and everything they do for me on a daily basis.

This is fine

Q-the four things your friends say about you are?
A-Good listener, Loyal, Intelligence, and Genuine

Q-What are three of my best life skills?
A-Achieving personal goals, Maintaining a network of close friends, Using humor to make friends laugh.

Q-How do you typically spend your leisure time?
A-Because of my current work schedule I don't do anything too exciting. I spend most of my time watching TV, reading and listening to music. Of the three I am most passionate about listening to music. When I get the chance I love going to a Timbers match or hiking if I can find someone to go with me. I also love to travel but generally only get one trip a year out of the country, which I would like to change sometime soon.*

This section sounds pretty negative and makes you sound very boring. Do you like to go out to eat or go to live shows? Do you have any other hobbies other than sitting around watching TV and listening to music? What kind of music do you like to listen to? Do you go to live shows or just listen at home? Maybe elaborate more on the travel part? Where do you like to go? Gallivant around Europe or soak up the sun in the Caribbean? One trip out of the country per year is a lot for most people so I don't think there's a need to say "which I would like to change sometime soon". Also it makes it sound like you don't have time to date if all you have free time for is watching TV and listening to music.

BASICS---
Occupation: Full Time Nursing Student
Height: 5'11"
Education: Bachelors Degree
Religion: Spiritual but not religious

In addition to this I also have 9 photos posted including a close-up face shot, a full body shot, an activity photo, and a group photo. My profile is fully completed with something marked in each of the "Something to Talk sections.

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I have been on e-harmony for Over a year and in the beginning got fairly good results but I have had 1 date in the past 6 months from this site despite regularly updating my profile and adding different pictures regularly. I rarely even have matches respond to my first questions, and I always make sure to follow up with a "nudge" if I hear nothing after a week. When I read through the profile it says what I want it to say about me, but my results are clear that there is something in my profile that is off-putting to my matches (I know my photos are good pics of me and generally attractive/fun).

I also wanted feedback about the "do you want children" question. I do not want biological children right now, though I definitely leave the option open to change my mind in the future (which is why I haven't had the vasectomy done). I am also open to the option of adoption in the future, and am much more open to that then biological kids. I don't want to mislead anyone by putti "maybe" as an answer but answering "no" would also not be completely accurate. I also know that saying no would cause many women, especially at my age, to skip over my profile. I ask because I had a date about 2 months ago that ended almost immediately after I mentioned that I am not sold on the idea of biological kids when it came up in conversation.
What would you suggest I put as an answer, and is it appropriate to say a little more within the profile itself?

I really appreciate the feedback, please feel free to be as harsh as you want I have no problem taking constructive brutal criticism well and running with it.

Also is there a place where I can post my photos to have people review them?