pink_tulip is offline pink_tulip Post #1  January 4,2012, 1:58pm
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I posted some of my pics on my album

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FairOne is offline FairOne Post #2  January 4,2012, 2:14pm
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Hi Pink Tulip,
The thing that stands out to me most about your profile is your daughters. While I definitely think you should mention them, I think it should only be once. The profile has really got to sell you and make you attractive as a dating prospect, and too many mentions of any one thing takes away from that.
 
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I am passionate about doing the best that I can to in any given situation; I enjoy music, I often find myself just singing along; my true passion though is my family, my two girls mean the world to me This is kind of a jumble that really doesn't say anything. By the way, the fact that you deeply love your children is a given, claiming that as your passion is a bit odd. When you think about passion, think along the lines of what really interests you - your work, a hobby, a cause, a world issue that gets you fired up, etc. Pick one thing and talk about it - how did you get into it, what do you get out of it, why do you care, etc. Doesn't need to be long, just something concrete.


Someone who doesn't just play the card life deals them, someone that looks for more to life. Nice way to say ambitious.

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
A lot of people have infuenced me through their actions, I have been blessed by meeting many great people who have taught me a lot. Personally, I'm fine with this answer, but a lot of people see this as a cop out. So, just pick a person. It doesn't have to be anything life changing. Maybe you have a friend with qualities you admire, maybe a teacher who got you to see something a different way, maybe you know someone who has faced serious adversities and came through on top and you admire their courage and strength, etc. Think of someone.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

I couldn't really just mention three, but I'll do my best, Im most thankful for friends, their love and support have helped me be a better person
Waking up to the most beautiful daughters
Working in tourism which has allowed me to meet great people and visit beautiful places in my own city
Three of my best life-skills are:
Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
That behind my initial shyness I am very funny and out going
This is basically telling your dates that you'll be difficult to get to know and a boring date where they'll have to carry the conversation or face awkward silence. Who wants to deal with that? In your profile stick with what positive about you. Since you are in tourism, I'm certain you know how to be social and friendly with just about any stranger.
The things I can't live without are:
• My daughters
• Coffee
• A computer
• Laughter
• Books

Some additional information I want you to know:
I work very hard at my job and focus on my daughters, but I am looking for that extra fun to have with a partner, friend and lover. I love being spontaneous and adventurous and would love to meet someone that shares that same drive. Yet respect my responsibilities and values. This pretty much tells your prospective match to stay away because you won't have time for them. Everyone is busy nowadays, so there is no need to bring this up and rub it in. It just makes you seem unapproachable. Do mention here how many children you have and their ages. This info matters to people quite a bit.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

I am focusing on training for my first 1/2 marathon rain or shine. I enjoy visiting attractions, going to a good movie or staying in. And well quite frankly housework and kids extra curricular are usually filling up my leisure time. Again with the I'm so busy and the kids. Delete all that and add in extra info. What kinds of attractions do you like to visit? What's next on your bucket list of attractions? What's your favorite? What kinds of movies do you like? What do you like to do when staying in? Cook? Read? Invite friends over for dinner? These details is what makes you less of a bland stranger and more of a vibrant person that stands out from the crowd.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I am looking for my next read, not quite decided yet what I'm into this days... I have recently read an amazing true story called 'same kind of different as me'... very inspirational... Just pick a book you've read in the past and talk about it. What did you like about it? What was interesting or inspirational about it exactly to you? Don't be afraid to share some of your actual thoughts.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Happy
Intelligent
Hard Working
Outgoing
Reduce the number of references to your children to one or two at the very most. Your matches want to know who you are as a person. Avoid repetition in your profile as it makes you seem one dimensional. Try to make sure that each section introduces a different aspect of you or reveals some new snippet about you. Add in some specific details, like types of movies, favorite bands, etc. You want your profile to reflect you - a vibrant, interesting woman.
 
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pink_tulip wrote :
Ok, following the advice of our fellow members here is my eh profile,

Cheers



I am passionate about doing the best that I can to in any given situation; I enjoy music, I often find myself just singing along; my true passion though is my family, my two girls mean the world to me
Someone who doesn't just play the card life deals them, someone that looks for more to life.

I would either pick one thing that you feel very passionate about and give a few sentences explaining why, or give a list of things, each with a brief explanation. I would not mention your daughters in this section, as you mention them elsewhere.

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
A lot of people have infuenced me through their actions, I have been blessed by meeting many great people who have taught me a lot.

I would pick one person, or at least provide examples of several people, with brief explanations of how they influenced you.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

I couldn't really just mention three, but I'll do my best, Im most thankful for friends, their love and support have helped me be a better person
Waking up to the most beautiful daughters
Working in tourism which has allowed me to meet great people and visit beautiful places in my own city

This is good. In fact, perhaps you can move the discussion about your work in tourism to the "most passionate" section and expand on it.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
That behind my initial shyness I am very funny and out going

The things I can't live without are:
• My daughters
• Coffee
• A computer
• Laughter
• Books

Some additional information I want you to know:
I work very hard at my job and focus on my daughters, but I am looking for that extra fun to have with a partner, friend and lover. I love being spontaneous and adventurous and would love to meet someone that shares that same drive. Yet respect my responsibilities and values.

This is very good.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
I am focusing on training for my first 1/2 marathon rain or shine. I enjoy visiting attractions, going to a good movie or staying in. And well quite frankly housework and kids extra curricular are usually filling up my leisure time.

As a divorced father, I certainly understand the time that kids and housework can consume. However, your mention of it in this section might scare off men who are not used to life in the trenches of parenthood. Maybe that's your goal...

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I am looking for my next read, not quite decided yet what I'm into this days... I have recently read an amazing true story called 'same kind of different as me'... very inspirational...

I would delete the first sentence, and expand your discussion of the book you read. Explain what it was about, and why you found it inspirational.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
Happy
Intelligent
Hard Working
Outgoing


I posted some of my pics on my album

Thanks
Your pictures are good, but could use some work. You are beautiful, and the picture of you with the ice cream cone and the black and white picture are excellent! The other three pictures work, but each has a flaw from a photographic perspective -- the second picture has you in a shadow, the fourth picture is a little blurry, and the last picture is too closely cropped. See if you can find better photos, or maybe ask a friend to take some pictures of you.

Overall, you've got a good profile, and I would initiate communication if you came up as one of my matches. Good luck!
 
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pink_tulip wrote :
I am passionate about doing the best that I can to in any given situation; I enjoy music, I often find myself just singing along; my true passion though is my family, my two girls mean the world to me
Someone who doesn't just play the card life deals them, someone that looks for more to life.
Okay, so you're passionate about music. Not too bad, but what kind since this is what drives you in life?

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A lot of people have infuenced me through their actions, I have been blessed by meeting many great people who have taught me a lot.
Bonus points if you pick one and name them rather than this cliche answer.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

wrote :
I couldn't really just mention three, but I'll do my best, Im most thankful for friends, their love and support have helped me be a better person
Waking up to the most beautiful daughters
Working in tourism which has allowed me to meet great people and visit beautiful places in my own city
Drop the "filler"--"I couldn't really just mention three, but I'll do my best"--so readers focus on your content. The rest is good.

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Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Being a good friend and companion
Okay.

wrote :
That behind my initial shyness I am very funny and out going
Bonus points if you come up with something other than "shy / until you get to know me" which 95% of women write.

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• My daughters
• Coffee
• A computer
• Laughter
• Books
This is the third mention of your daughters. Really, one mention with ages and one photo is plenty of coverage.

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I work very hard at my job and focus on my daughters,
Now you're getting into NEXT territory. We need to know you have kids and what age they are in case we're not okay with that. But we're actually dating you. In fact, if you're a responsible parent, your kids won't even be seeing us for a good three months or more! We need to know who you are. We need to know what life and spending time with you is like outside your role as a parent, and you should have a life outside parenting. Marriages end over parents too focused on their kids, ironically not in the best interest of those same kids.

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I am focusing on training for my first 1/2 marathon rain or shine. I enjoy visiting attractions, going to a good movie or staying in. And well quite frankly housework and kids extra curricular are usually filling up my leisure time.
Drop the kids and housework, but otherwise good.

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I am looking for my next read, not quite decided yet what I'm into this days... I have recently read an amazing true story called 'same kind of different as me'... very inspirational...
Drop the filler, "I am looking for my next read, not quite decided yet what I'm into this days...".

Bonus points if you explain why the book was so very inspirational to you. Don't be afraid that your answers will scare away men! Better to say something genuine that attracts like-minded men and scares away those who think completely different, than to say something bland that makes everyone shrug. One thing women love about my profile is how much of me I share!

wrote :
Happy
Intelligent
Hard Working
Outgoing
Okay.
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my two girls mean the world to me[/B]


... I love being spontaneous and adventurous and would love to meet someone that shares that same drive. Yet respect my responsibilities and values.

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OK, what the bolded parts along with multiple references to your daughters tells me is that you are a mom whose primary focus is her kids, and wants a guy around as a filler when she is not busy with her kids.

I would close the above profile as I would not want to be anyone's filler.

It is a tough effort to emphasize your kids, but at the same time show that you are open to having a guy in your life as an equal partner. Good luck with the re-write.
 
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Thanks all... It's not easy to put yourself all exposed and "out there" our should I say in here... I appreciate the criticism and will be taking your advice ... Best regards :-)
 
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Sorry I missed your profile, as I was looking for it yesterday (?) after your thread. Don't be discouraged. That stuff about your kids is what we tell 80% of parents doing their profiles for the first time.

Don't forget lifestyle stuff (type of music, food etc you love.....) and the age of kids is important so the guys know if they are in the same range (diapers, prom, soccer) or are willing to potentially be there...

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