Potential matches who "maybe" want kids


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PG-13 is offline PG-13 Post #21  January 6,2012, 12:24am
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I have "yes" but if people ask about I, I generally add that only when I'm in a stable situation with a job/house and long term partnership... I've had "maybe" before too (for the reasons stated earlier, I didn't want to come across that I was trigger happy about having kids right away)... There should be a "maybe+" option.
 
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eharmonyjc wrote :
I think "maybe" is for people who truly are open to whatever comes their way.
This. I have "maybe" as my answer and this defines me to a T. I could honestly go either way. It isn't something I feel I need to do in my lifetime, but I also feel that it is something I would be open to with the right partner. I honestly think this is something that is better approached through conversation than assumption.
 
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jlpSLP83 wrote :
Hey everyone!
I'm new to the board. I have one thing that has definitely been bothering me. I am a 28 yo F who definitely wants children at some point in the future. When I see a guy who puts "maybe" for "wants kids", it is generally a turn off for me. My first instinct tells me that if a guy isn't sure that he wants children, then I may be wasting my time dating him since I do want children. But then I think, am I potentially turning away good matches by using this as a filter? Would greatly appreciate any insight into this issue, from both men and women. Thanks so much!
I have been closing them.

This is as much of a lifestyle issue as it is anything else in life. I can put up with someone smoking. I can overcome a 7-year or more age difference. I can not see myself being with someone who does not know whether or not that they want (more) children.

I want to be with them as a friend and lover before children but kids need to be in the gameplan if both of us are physically able to do it.
 
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She said "do it."

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Thanks for all the insights. I have definitely decided to be more open when it comes to this. And, if the opportunity presents itself, I have decided that I will clarify the "maybe" in the open-ended questions stage.
 
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