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brenda4891 is offline brenda4891 Post #1  January 3,2012, 4:55pm
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So, I know my profile has to be extra good to attract guys, since I live so far away in arctic conditions. Please review and give me any tips. I would really appreciate it. Important: I am looking for only Christian guys.

So here it is:

The one thing I am most passionate about: I am passionate about traveling, meeting people from other countries and learning about their cultures. I love education and teaching others and learning more myself. My relationship with God is what sustains and motivates me.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: Kindness


Basic Information

Occupation: I'm a coordinator at an Adult Basic Education center. Age 27 Height 5' 4" Wants Kids: Maybe Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic Religion: Christian Drinks: A few times a year Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

I can't pick one person, but I think my teachers have been the most important influences in my life. Some of my professors in college were really motivating and I particularly remember one high school English teacher who made sure that my work got published in a magazine. Also, I find the writings of C.S. Lewis, Shane Claiborne and others to be extremely influential.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

  • I am most thankful for God in my life. He has allowed me to have a wonderful life full of great family, friends, travel, etc.
  • I am thankful for what I do. I teach English and run a literacy program at a non-profit. It is like a mission for me.
  • I am thankful for good friends. They have gotten me through the normal ups and downs of life and keep me from being lonely.

Three of my best life-skills are:

  • Volunteering my time to causes I care about
  • Achieving personal goals
  • Maintaining a network of close friends


The things I can't live without are:

  • God
  • Relationships
  • Adventure
  • Good books
  • Fruit Smoothies


The first thing people notice about me:

My smile..(is that appearance? ) But really, I think that people notice that I am very cheery and bright and am almost always smiling.


My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

In my leisure time, I live to read. My favorites are novels about people from other countries. I like to work out. Even though it is hard to get to the gym, once I'm there, I really enjoy it. I like spending time with friends at home, restaurants, coffee shops ,the movies etc.


According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

  • Dependable
  • Loyal
  • Intelligent
  • Outgoing
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  January 3,2012, 5:33pm
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My reactions are in blue text. Redhighlight I applied to your text is something which makes me especially likelyto close; green highlight is something which makes me especially inclined towrite.

Keep in mind that a large percentage of matches are abandoned profiles, ornon-paying members, and will not write or reply for that reason.

Matches who view and don't write, or closeyou, are the ones to be more concerned over - especially those who were activeduring a free weekend.

brenda4891 wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am passionate about traveling, meeting people from other countries and learning about their cultures. I love education and teaching others and learning more myself. My relationship with God is what sustains and motivates me.

One ... two ... three ... four ... When I was educated, "one" did not mean four. I roll my eyes at this (very common) omission, but would not close for it. Unfortunately, once I see this I know what to expect.
I recommend picking one topic (or theme) and expanding on that in a way that sounds interesting or unique.
Personally, I prefer to see an acheivement or attainment based "passion," and not a recreation or entertaiment. If you're a teacher, that would be my favorite, of these.
FYI, travel is somewhat risky, as a number of men intepret this to mean she wants someone to pay for her travel (I don't, but it seems to be a somewhat common view.)
This answer is also extremely generic and commonplace.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: Kindness

Take a deep breath and let it all out now ... How about some ideas of what kindness means to you? How you react? What you'd like to see, or some examples?


Occupation: I'm a coordinator at an Adult Basic Education center.
Age 27
Height 5' 4"
Wants Kids: Maybe
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never


The most influential person in my life has been:
I can't pick one person, but I think my teachers have been the most important influences in my life. Some of my professors in college were really motivating and I particularly remember one high school English teacher who made sure that my work got published in a magazine. Also, I find the writings of C.S. Lewis, Shane Claiborne and others to be extremely influential.

Just pick one! I like the part that leads up to "published;" that's relatively unusual, and unusual is interesting. I would add something more about that (move the authors down to the "last book" answer.


The three things which I am most thankful for:
  • I am most thankful for God in my life. He has allowed me to have a wonderful life full of great family, friends, travel, etc.
  • I am thankful for what I do. I teach English and run a literacy program at a non-profit. It is like a mission for me.
  • I am thankful for good friends. They have gotten me through the normal ups and downs of life and keep me from being lonely.
These answers are more complete and thoughtful than most (and sound very appropriate for your target audience.)


Three of my best life-skills are:
  • Volunteering my time to causes I care about
  • Achieving personal goals
  • Maintaining a network of close friends
The things I can't live without are:
  • God
  • Relationships
  • Adventure
  • Good books
  • Fruit Smoothies

The first thing people notice about me:
My smile..(is that appearance? ) But really, I think that people notice that I am very cheery and bright and am almost always smiling.

Boring, but I don't think you're doing any harm by it.


I typically spend my leisure time:
In my leisure time, I live to read. My favorites are novels about people from other countries. I like to work out. Even though it is hard to get to the gym, once I'm there, I really enjoy it. I like spending time with friends at home, restaurants, coffee shops ,the movies etc.

I'd try to do this in a way that gives some sense of the frequency of some of these, and give particular thought to what a man might like to do.

Although I go to a gym, I see no real benefit to doing so with a partner. I like to eat, but restaurants are not a daily activity. The rest of this is pretty much not likely to be things a man would picture himself doing.


My friends describe me as:
  • Dependable
  • Loyal
  • Intelligent
  • Outgoing
Overall, I would see this as safe (no baggage or serious problems), but not at all exciting (though I don't know that's much of a problem.)

I would like to see more detail about your interests, both day-to-day and travel (To where? How often?)

You'll turn off the non-theological, but given your desire, that seems to actually be good.

I think some attention to better writing and better adherance to the questions (if you want to list education, authors, reading, it really doesn't work not to show better, or at least more thoughtful, writing.)

Is it really -27F in Alaska? Yikes!
 
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You need to focus on the questions. The most influential..I understand you have many but talk about one n some detail and not be o cliche or generic.

The references on religion soften says you are a religious nut. It's fine to mention it once n a statement and once in your top five list but that is all.saying so much religion will say it rules your life

Under passionate about talk about why you chose your career and what you love about it.

With what you read..name a book it's k. You not naming any says you are dodging the question and do not read.
 
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Wow! Great advice! Thank you for taking the time. I really appreciate it. Actually D_Lion...it is now -32F.

Is this any better? Any green at all? I tried to show my personality a bit more.

The one thing I am most passionate about: I am passionate about my job. I know, you're thinking workaholic, but what I do doesn't really seem like work. I run a program at a non-profit that serves immigrants. We teach them to speak English and learn how to navigate all the crazy hurdles of life here in the U.S. I have met people from over 50 countries and have formed relationships with the majority of them. In one case, I actually traveled to meet a woman's family in Bolivia and stayed with them. I feel like I have found my life calling and I am blessed to be a part of their lives.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:


Kindness--So much stems from kindness, being nice to waiters and waitresses, wanting to help those in need and doing it, being good with children, being an affectionate partner. After working in customer service for many years, kindness is my most highly rated attribute.


The most influential person in my life has been:

I had an English high school teacher who made sure that my work got published in a magazine. She really changed my life by giving me confidence about my writing ability and now I try to do the same for others.
The three things which I am most thankful for:

  • I am most thankful for God in my life. He has allowed me to have a wonderful life full of great family, friends, travel, etc.
  • I am thankful for a job that I love.
  • I am thankful for good friends. They have gotten me through the normal ups and downs of life and keep me from being lonely.

Three of my best life-skills are:

  • Volunteering my time to causes I care about
  • Achieving personal goals
  • Maintaining a network of close friends


The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

That I'm more than the "smart" girl...


The things I can't live without are:

  • God
  • Relationships
  • Adventure
  • Good books
  • Fruit Smoothies


The first thing people notice about me:

So, I see, I can't put my striking figure here...hmmmm...or my dazzling smile.....let's see. Just kidding, probably how I treat them. I try to be present in my interactions and give people my undivided attention.


Some additional information I want you to know:

I live in Alaska. I know, a qratrillion miles away. Yep, I just made that word up...qratrillion (feel free to spread it around). I am willing to relocate.


My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

My favorite activity is hiking and Alaska has plenty of opportunities. There is nothing better than being outdoors with friends or by yourself with a camera.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Secret Daughter by Shilpi Somaya Gowda...It's a novel about a family in the U.S. and one in India and how they are interconnected by....drumroll..... a secret daughter. I love these kind of novels or memoirs set in other countries. It makes me want to travel to that place and experience what I read about.
 
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emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #5  January 4,2012, 7:54am
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Love the re-write! Well written. Good use of humor. Overall, a nice job.

In terms of relocation, please bear in mind that while you might be open to matches from great distances, many eH members are not. You will only be matched with someone if both you and he are within each other's geographic preferences. Are you open to matches in Alaska itself? I thought Alaska was one of the few states where men significantly outnumbered women.

Best of luck with your search!
 
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jme21 is offline jme21 Post #6  January 4,2012, 9:40am
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I'll automatically next someone for putting 'maybe' for Wants kids. That to me means you have no clue what you want...unattractive. I don't understand the meaning behind 'maybe', as in, 'maybe with the right guy', well sure...but you could put 'Yes' and one would assume you still only want kids with the right partner.
 
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Almost every guy I am matched with has "Maybe" listed for "Want Kids." It is exceedingly rare that I get anyone who lists "Yes" even though they are at an age where one would assume they are seriously considering a family. (One, maybe two, out of the 850 or so matches I've received in nearly 4 months listed "Yes." Everyone else said "maybe.") There are many perfectly valid reasons to have "Maybe" as your selection.
 
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As said above, safe but kind of vague and not very stimulating. What kind of things would you expect to do with a guy/date???

I too question why a "maybe" for wants kids....assume the "Right guy"....you don't know????

Some of my standard advice is to include lifestyle compatibility stuff....the reader doesn't know anything about what food you like (other than smoothies..are you sushi? bbq? vegan? hunt and eat your own moose?), what music you like, movies you like, etc....Do you cook?


Not sure what "relationships" even means as a five things I can't do without. These are pretty bland selection.

Include some sensory words....hot bubble baths, cold beer, tangy wings, crispy bacon, fresh hot bread....

The good news is you have great odds in Alaska!
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
Love the re-write! Well written. I thought Alaska was one of the few states where men significantly outnumbered women.

Best of luck with your search!
Yes I think it's something like 114:100 men to women. However, a high number of these men work in fishing, construction, mining and petroleum extraction industries and are not in "town" to meet. And if they are, the smell and tobacco may drive most women away. I joke, a bit.
 
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Thanks for the catch on the "maybe" having kids. That was an accident.
 
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