Boukworm is offline Boukworm Post #1  December 31,2011, 12:26pm
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How appropriate would eH be to use by someone from another country? I have a friend who has despaired of finding a suitable husband in her own country and wants to give it a shot in North America. I know that many men here are *very* paranoid about scams and mail-order-bride businesses (understandably so), so I'm not sure what to tell her. Any advice? Thanks in advance!
 
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This would be a LDR so the standard answer is that a LDR is very difficult under the best of circumstances. When you add in things like a different country, culture and likely language the LDR becomes even more difficult to make happen.

I will suggest that you give your friend the same advice that I gave on another thread a week or so back to a girl that was in another country than the US and was looking to find a match in the US. Go through the process of immigrating to the location / country that you would like to possibly find a match / mate and then search local. Yes, it is a very difficult process and takes time but if you are legal to live and work in the US then that removes all the "s" factor, MOB, just looking for a ticket into the US connotations and searching local makes the possibilities of making a relationship work astronomically greater.
 
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They can use Eharmony. They are in other parts of the world.


It depends on where she is from....If they are from Canada there is less of a concern than if they are from Nigeria.

Another factor will be how they do their profile. People will be less leary if they are from a western country than another country but they still will be very guarded.
 
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If she can realistically participate in an LDR of this kind, then why not? That "mail order" dilemma swings in four directions. She might have to weed out the ones who are looking only for that.

With limited experience with matches beyond our borders, like across the pond, I do hope she has no VISA issues. I encountered that difficulty and seemingly it could not be overcome. We (USA) didn't want her for fear that she'd stay. I was shocked.
 
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I would communicate to Canada (assuming at the time it was within my distance.)

I would not communicate to Europe or Asia, as I can not afford regular (comfortable) travel there (nor do I have the vacation time.) I would answer a sincere, thoughtful, apparently genuine message, though. If I had more time and money, like enough to get to Berlin or Tokyo to go clubbing on a whim, then I might as well do so with a cute Lady, right?

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What I would like to see would be evidence that the match is either capable of affording an international distance relationship and understands the implications, and possessed of an appreciation of varied cultures - or, if they wish to relocate and be assimilated into me, a clear expression of that intent (in which case, I will close them.)

In any case, a global set of occupational skills and credentials is mandatory.
 
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