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OK, so far Im not impressed with eH...so, maybe its me or just something in my profile...

your thoughts please-

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I know its says MOST passionate about, but, its hard to narrow down one. Photography, White Water Kayaking are my biggest passions. If I cant be on the rivers in the mountains, I am looking for a great place to go photograph some views less seen.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Adventure! We get one go on this ride. Lets go to a movie premier in Hollywood for the weekend, drive to the NC mountains with no real destination and see where we end up, take a zip line canopy tour , or even head down to Key West for a laid back day in the sun. We have a business trip to Vegas in January, several coworkers and I are planning to do the "Skyjump" off Stratosphere...look it up

Basic Information
Occupation:
Photographer/CameraTech Rep
Age 36
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity:White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
Its so hard to narrow it down to one person. I feel everyone I meet influences me in some way. My Brother, my parents, even my current and past boss' have taught me so much.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• Family
• I have a career that I fully enjoy
• Friends that have helped in rough times through the years

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
• Finding new adventures and unique experiences

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
While on stage I can "turn it on", in private, I can be kinda quiet at first. It takes me a little bit to warm up to new people. My "filter" does not always kick in, so I tend to sit back and observe first (one of those things I am constantly working on)

The things I can't live without are:
• Family
• My Dog Harley
• Yelp!- Im a big foodie
• iPhone (for searching Yelp!)
• a camera

The first thing people notice about me:
I can have a sarcastic sense of humor. I dont mind being the target of a joke, but I will fire right back and smile. I teach photography for a living all over the country- many times to a crowd of 100+ people. I have the ability to keep them entertained, laughing and still learning throughout a 6 hour seminar.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I have not been in the dating world for quite some time. I have always been in a serious relationship or just happy being single for a little while. Online dating is really new to me (not sure when to "smile", message or whatever eH calls it)...I would rather have a cup of coffee with you and see how things go- its so hard to tell how sincere people are through email and pre-canned questions.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Hanging out with friends, cooking for them or finding a new restaurant none of us have ever been to. You often find me heading out in a pouring rain to hit a swollen river in the mountains. In town, I am often at live music at the Alamo, Brickhouse or just watching some sports and talking with friends at Taco Mac

The last book I read and enjoyed:
David Beldacci- "Zero Day". it was about an Army CID agent working a case in a West Virginia mining town.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Perceptive
• Easy-Going
• Intelligent
• Hard Working
 
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Not too bad at all, you could polish it up a bit and add some detail where you are short winded. Your Passionate section is scattered as most peoples are. Look up my thread "Finding Your Passion", do a little reading and answer the few questions, without a doubt you will find that you suddenly don't have enough room to write what you want to in that section. Remember you have 650 characters per essay section of the profile. Fill them up as best you can, its the only real chance you have to catch a potential matches attention. Tell them about you and give them something to reciprocate with once communications get to OC level.

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Overall, interesting well written profile.....Just a heads up....Everyone says they are shy at first, then open up, Everyone says they have sarcastic wit...so these things can come across as trite. Sometimes less is more especially when it's easy to read between the lines. You'll do great with some rewording / rethinking

Better to leave this whole bit out ...it has "just passing through" written all over it: I have always been in a serious relationship or just happy being single for a little while.

"would rather have a cup of coffee with you and see how things go- its so hard to tell how sincere people are through email and pre-canned questions"...Translation= "The stuff about Hollywood, Key West and NC were all bait and switch bull...I'm really a multidating cheapskate who wants to check you out before I spend a dime, because contrary to my "new at online dating" line...I'm quite a pro at this game".
 
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Lucid- thanks for the info, I will keep expanding.

Wiseman2- I see some good advice there, the "im a multidating...." and "Im a pro at this game" cant be farther from the truth and made me laugh a little...I will look at revising those statements though.
 
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dmac75 wrote :
OK, so far Im not impressed with eH...so, maybe its me or just something in my profile...

your thoughts please-

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I know its says MOST passionate about, but, its hard to narrow down one. Photography, White Water Kayaking are my biggest passions. If I cant be on the rivers in the mountains, I am looking for a great place to go photograph some views less seen. Delete that first sentence - it's a space waster. Go straight to "I have two huge passions ..." or something like that. Add in a sentence on what attracts you to it, what do you get out of it or how you got into it. Just some brief context.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Adventure! We get one go on this ride. Lets go to a movie premier in Hollywood for the weekend, drive to the NC mountains with no real destination and see where we end up, take a zip line canopy tour , or even head down to Key West for a laid back day in the sun. We have a business trip to Vegas in January, several coworkers and I are planning to do the "Skyjump" off Stratosphere...look it up Unique way to say adventurous. Just leave off the "look it up" - really don't want to dictate to people what to do and it gives it kind of a bad tone.

Basic Information
Occupation:
Photographer/CameraTech Rep
Age 36
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity:White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
Its so hard to narrow it down to one person. I feel everyone I meet influences me in some way. My Brother, my parents, even my current and past boss' have taught me so much. Personally, I have no issue with this type of an answer, but a lot of people out there see this as a cop out answer. Might be a good idea to just pick someone - a friend who has qualities you admire, a teacher, a boss who inspired you in some way or got to see you something different. It doesn't have to be life changing, just interesting.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• Family
• I have a career that I fully enjoy
• Friends that have helped in rough times through the years

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
• Finding new adventures and unique experiences

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
While on stage I can "turn it on", in private, I can be kinda quiet at first. It takes me a little bit to warm up to new people. My "filter" does not always kick in, so I tend to sit back and observe first (one of those things I am constantly working on) Delete and think of something else. You are basically telling me that a date with you will be that dreadful nightmare where I have to carry the whole conversation or face deafening silence. Why work that hard with you, when I have more interesting matches to talk to?

The things I can't live without are:
• Family
• My Dog Harley
• Yelp!- Im a big foodie
• iPhone (for searching Yelp!)
• a camera

The first thing people notice about me:
I can have a sarcastic sense of humor. I dont mind being the target of a joke, but I will fire right back and smile. I teach photography for a living all over the country- many times to a crowd of 100+ people. I have the ability to keep them entertained, laughing and still learning throughout a 6 hour seminar.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I have not been in the dating world for quite some time. I have always been in a serious relationship or just happy being single for a little while. This is pretty much saying rebound and no sane person will want to be your rebound toy. Online dating is really new to me And I care because? It's a "pity me" statement that really won't earn you too many brownie points. (not sure when to "smile", message or whatever eH calls it)...I would rather have a cup of coffee with you and see how things go- its so hard to tell how sincere people are through email and pre-canned questions. You just called me a liar until proven otherwise. There is nothing more unattractive about a person than a display of this kind of automatic distrust of mankind.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Hanging out with friends, cooking for them or finding a new restaurant none of us have ever been to. You often find me heading out in a pouring rain to hit a swollen river in the mountains. In town, I am often at live music at the Alamo, Brickhouse or just watching some sports and talking with friends at Taco Mac

The last book I read and enjoyed:
David Beldacci- "Zero Day". it was about an Army CID agent working a case in a West Virginia mining town.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Perceptive
• Easy-Going
• Intelligent
• Hard Working
My comments above. Overall it's not a bad profile, but I would close you out instantly for the rebound potential and the my matches are dishonest until proven otherwise attitude. By the way, nothing wrong with saying you'd like to meet soon and prefer talking over coffee over writing e-mails in and of itself.
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David Baldacci...(with an a instead of e)...

Also be mindful of punctuation...you are missing quite a lot of apostrophes...

I agree with others and especially DF's comments.
 
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lol DF I don't think that would be calling you a liar unless you really read into it. But hey, I do see where you see it after a second look. point of the matter is that when it comes to text, you really have to chose your wording appropriately because body language, tone of voice and facial expressions don't come accros too well on paper.

Also I have no idea who David Baldacci is or what his book is about. What did you like about it? Is it mystery that intregues you? Is it a romance? What you enjoy in a book can tell alot about a person if worded and read properly.

Also once you have your profile to what you think is better, please repost it, I'd love to see what you have come up with as a finished product. You already have the makings for a terrific profile.
 
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dmac75 wrote :
OK, so far Im not impressed with eH...so, maybe its me or just something in my profile...

your thoughts please-

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I know its says MOST passionate about, but, its hard to narrow down one. Photography AND White Water Kayaking are my biggest passions. If I can't be on the rivers in the mountains, I am looking for a great place to go photograph some views less seen.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Adventure! We get one go on this ride. Lets go to a movie premier in Hollywood for the weekend, drive to the NC mountains with no real destination and see where we end up, take a zip line canopy tour , or even head down to Key West for a laid back day in the sun. We have a business trip to Vegas in January, several coworkers and I are planning to do the "Skyjump" off Stratosphere. [DELETE..look it up ]

Basic Information
Occupation:
Photographer/CameraTech Rep
Age 36
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity:White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
Its so hard to narrow it down to one person. I feel everyone I meet influences me in some way. My Brother, my parents, even my current and past bossES have taught me so much.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• Family
• I have a career that I fully enjoy
Lifetime Friends [that have helped in rough times through the years ??? HUH? You are thankful for them having rough times that you have helped them thru?]

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
• Finding new adventures and unique experiences [slightly contradictory with above (I'm a simple man flying all over to have adventures) but I gather you mean you aren't "fancy"....]

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
While on stage I can "turn it on", in private, I can be kinda quiet at first. It takes me a little bit to warm up to new people. My "filter" does not always kick in, so I tend to sit back and observe first (one of those things I am constantly working on)

The things I can't live without are:
• Family
• My Dog Harley
• Yelp!- Im a big foodie EXAMPLE??? Sushi? Indian?
• iPhone (for searching Yelp!)
• a camera (dig or film?)


The first thing people notice about me:
I can have a sarcastic sense of humor. I don't mind being the target of a joke, but I will fire right back and smile. I teach photography for a living all over the country- many times to a crowd of 100+ people. I have the ability to keep them entertained, laughing and still learning throughout a 6 hour seminar.

Lots of women are turned off by "sarcastic" as often it is how passive agressive guys describe their sense of humor.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I have not been in the dating world for quite some time. I have always been in a serious relationship or just happy being single for a little while. Online dating is really new to me (not sure when to "smile", message or whatever eH calls it)...I would rather have a cup of coffee with you and see how things go- its so hard to tell how sincere people are through email and pre-canned questions.

On one hand, I think it's fine to say you are new to this and that you have some LTR's under your belt (because, trust me, some don't). On the other hand, it reads: SKEPTICAL.

Also, there are whole threads on the "coffee date" with much vibrant disagreements between those who think it's a good quick cheap way to judge truthfulness and chemistry and those of us who think it's jaded and interview-like which sets you up for no chemistry. So let me put a plug in here for lunch dates, or a micro brew, or a walk around the lake or anything else!

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Hanging out with friends, cooking BBQ for them or finding a new restaurant none of us have ever been to. You often find me heading out in a pouring rain to hit a swollen river (good use of sensory language!!!) in the mountains. In town, I am often at live music at the Alamo, Brickhouse or just watching some sports (GOLF?? Pingpong?? NFL??? TEAM???) and talking with friends at Taco Mac

The last book I read and enjoyed:
David Beldacci- "Zero Day". it was about an Army CID agent working a case in a West Virginia mining town.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Perceptive
• Easy-Going
• Intelligent
• Hard Working
It's not bad at all, my main comments are:

1. There is a sense of lack of commitment to this process. Dude. Go for it. What do you have to lose at this point?

2.Typos...another clue this is half-baked and you aren't "in"... (or lazy, or uneducated).

3. Somewhat vague...you are a foodie but no details. Lifestyle compatibility is key. What food, what music, where do you shop????.... REI? Trader Joes? WALMART? Listening to Metallica? Madonna? Garth?? Paint your picture of yourself....are you a mac or a pc? Birks or Keens or cowboy boots?

4. Do you want a girl to river ride with you? I wonder if a woman would see this and wonder "But what will we do together???" OR that she isn't adventurous enough. Hard to tell if you do this stuff every week or once a quarter.

5. That said, I think the main key is the kids stuff. Don't know what ages you are looking for but you don't have any kids and don't want any. Also the way you live your life reads incompatible with anyone who does. (IE lets race off at the drop of a hat to ....)

Overall, put as much of YOU out there as you can. My bf (who I met on EH a year ago) described it as the opposite of meeting IRL. In real life, you see who is cute and then get to know them for compatibility. EH starts with compatibility and then you screen for chemistry. The more about you in your profile, the more places for you to create interest based on genuine lifestyle stuff more than "I like movies. I like food. I like air...."

Best.
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wow, thank you all for the review, you have all given me great advice and I am working on revisions now. Just adding a few touches here and there. I will post them once I am (somewhat) happy with the edits...

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OK, here is the edited version. It probably could still use some tweaks, and I hope its better than before...thanks again to you all.

Happy New Year

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I have two passions in life, Photography and White Water Kayaking. I started photography in High School, its been my career for almost 20 years and has taken me all over the country, allowed me to see things and meet people I never thought I would get the chance to.
While I don't get to do it as much as I used to, I try and go at least once a month White Water Kayaking. While it can be relaxing, it can also be an extreme challenge.
I don't expect my match to have to share my love for kayaking, it would be nice and I can teach you, but, if you're just up for coming up to camp or hang with friends at the cabin, thats ok too.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Adventure! We get one go on this ride. Lets go to a movie premier in Hollywood for the weekend, drive to the NC mountains with no real destination and see where we end up, take a zip line canopy tour, or even head down to Key West for a laid back day in the sun. We have a business trip to Vegas in January, several coworkers and I are planning to do the "Skyjump" off Stratosphere.

Basic Information
Occupation:
Photographer/CameraTech Rep
Age 36
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
My Dad. He never got a college degree, but ended up working alongside research scientists and engineers in Bio Medical. He taught me that the difficult roads are ones we need to travel. We moved around a lot across the country when I was a kid since his job transferred us almost every 5-6 years. I never went to one school for very long. However this taught me how to adapt to different people, and cultures pretty quick.. All of that and 2 kids, and my parents are still married after 44 years. I think this has been a huge factor in making me who I am.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• Family
• I have a career that I fully enjoy
• Friends that have helped me in rough times through the years.

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Using humor to make friends laugh
• Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
• Finding new adventures and unique experiences

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Yes, I am a techie kind of person. BUT I can't stand video games or living life in a virtual world (stop pretending your in Special Forces and go take a walk or something). I prefer to actually talk on the phone instead of texting.

The things I can't live without are:
• Family
• My Dog Harley
• Yelp!- I'm a big foodie- from sushi-to steak house and everything between
• iPhone (for searching Yelp!)
• A REAL camera, not the iPhone

The first thing people notice about me:
I have a witty sense of humor and I tend to throw out a one liner or make an obscure movie reference line even though it may fall flat. I am not afraid to talk to a large crowd, strangely, its the smaller crowds I get nervous in.

Some additional information I want you to know:
My job keeps me traveling a good bit, so I get to spend a lot of time in Nashville, TN listening to good live country (and rock) music, eating great Cuban food in Miami, FL and holding my own BBQ competition when going though the Carolinas and Georgia (still partial to Memphis BBQ though). I am an "outdoorsy" person, and can start a campfire without lighter fluid, but no, I am not a tree hugger (not that there is anything wrong with that).
My friends call me the "beer snob" but I will be the first to call when they are out of town and looking for a good restaurant,

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Hanging out with friends, cooking for them or finding a new restaurant none of us have ever been to. You often find me heading out in a pouring rain to hit a swollen river in the mountains. In town, I am often at live music at the Alamo, Brickhouse or just watching some sports (Go Braves) and talking with friends at Taco Mac

The last book I read and enjoyed:
David Baldacci- "Zero Day". It was about an Army CID agent working a case in a West Virginia mining town. I also get into the Dan Brown mystery thrillers and various political biographies.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Perceptive
• Easy-Going
• Intelligent
• Hard Working
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