Only matched with people within a few years of my age!


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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #11  December 29,2011, 12:55am
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You limit yourself too much. It's a computer matching system..not a wish list... Put 19-32....you will have much better luck. It is naive to think "opera" makes you mature or sophisticated.....life experience does.

Also...you need to think in more modern, realistic terms...Keep in mind you can close matches you don't care for... but these silly ages you put will not bring you a match who is 24, for example.

Also....men will view this as looking for a sugar daddy ...since you probably are a student or live at home and not mature enough offer a relationship....Good Luck...
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I am (19).25-35 as well - the age range I initially selcted.
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OdeliaNesbit wrote :
...I am (19)...
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...In my country, huge age gaps are commonplace:...
i don't know what country you are from, but in this county- the USA- this father- me- encourages his daughters your age to finish their education and get a job.
 
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I think it's great you like opera and are intelligent and open minded but remind you that it doesn't matter what age you have friends are....eg up to 75...because this is a DATING site, not a friending site. Are you willing to date to 75?

Seconding that there aren't many on EH that are your age. And (as a mom) I am creeped out by you considering dating someone in excess of 25. Even our lovely male posters who date 10 plus years younger don't advocate going out with teenagers (I hope)
 
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KikiAZ wrote :
... Even our lovely male posters who date 10 plus years younger don't advocate going out with teenagers (I hope)
Nope, never would. I am not allowed to date anyone younger than my daughter.
 
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OdeliaNesbit wrote :
I didn't mean to be snobby. I've met 14-year-olds who went to university and were very interesting to talk to: it is just not a common case.
What I mean is, age shouldn't be a restriction. I have friends of all ages - from 5 to 75, and I think that's the way it's supposed to be. If we were limited to people of our generation, we would miss out on a lot of learning.
As for my age preferences, it also has to do with the way I was raised. In my country, huge age gaps are commonplace: for example, my father is 25 years older than my mother.
Really? You have friends that are 5 years old?

And you really can't date someone younger than 16, 18 in many states.

You are in a completely different life stage than those that are in their late 20's and 30's and most will have absolutely no desire to date someone as young as you.

Just because you happen to like a few 'adult' type things...this doesn't mean that you can't date people that are closer to your age...There are plenty of teens and young adults in this world that aren't in to the party scene.

The key is just joining certain groups that share your interests for teens and young adults...Look online...there should be many options..

When I was your age...I was a member of the Smithsonian Resident program, World Affairs Council, I was involved in local politics, I traveled the U.S. on my own in the summer to pursue my photography....

My point is that I don't see eHarmony being a place where you are going to find a lot of people who want to date a teenager. As well as someone who isn't even old enough to drink..

Get outside...meet actual people...join organizations, volunteer for things in which you believe and want to promote...

Live your life outside a computer
 
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OP: To actually answer your question (rather than simply casting judgment upon your preferences, as half of the responders appear to be doing), it would be helpful to know if you're male or female. If you're a 19-year-old female, I'm quite surprised that you have not had matches from older men. Many men will have their settings include women 5-10 years younger, and sometimes even 15 or more. If you're a 19-year-old male, on the other hand, your interest from women age 25-35 is going to be scarce at best.

Either way, I also think that match seems to err toward matching people of similar ages, no matter what preference they set for age. If you haven't been a member long, I would give it a little more time to see if you get some older matches. If you've tried it for several weeks or even months already, I would move on to another site like match or okc.
 
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With a user name of Odelia, I'm guessing female.
 
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