eHarmony Experience, Did it Work?

Compatibility with those I dated was not really an issue, I think the GC, and the "29 degrees" seem to work. It was the chemistry, and life goals that seem to have not been there mutually.

^^^^ this.

I'm on Match for a while. Changing my profile gets immediate reaction and I'm learning what to look for in a guy's profile for compatible adventure/travel lifestyle. The Match guys haven't been as LTR oriented, so I'll be back on eH.

tangochef, if the travel part of your lifestyle is still not matching up, maybe redefine that in your profile so it's more clear to your matches.

I have had somewhat better success w/ other dating sites, but in general it doesn't work well for me.

Back to the original question based on the title. I think eH worked, as its purpose in my opinion is to work as an introduction service. What happens after that is up to the people involved.

I joined eH back in May. Part of the reason was that I wanted to use a new approach the dating, and knew some people that had met their SO on eH.

During that time I was out of the country on trips for about 10 weeks so while I kept up the correspondences, obviously I did not have any eH dates.

Since joining I have had about 60 first dates, I'd say about half we decided to go out again and several went on to 4+ dates, weekend getaways etc. However, so far it has been a mismatch in that when I really liked someone the feeling was not mutual and vice versa.

Compatibility with those I dated was not really an issue, I think the GC, and the "29 degrees" seem to work. It was the chemistry, and life goals that seem to have not been there mutually.

As far as demographics, majority of the ladies were in their mid to late 30s with a few in early 40s, Caucasian, over 5'5", slender, professional and educated. So, the matching worked, even though I am 6' tall, no one listed as 5'10"+ ever responded to initial contact. No African American ladies ever responded either.

I did renew recently (though by accident, had left auto renew on and got a message after my CC was charged).

Back to the original question based on the title. I think eH worked, as its purpose in my opinion is to work as an introduction service. What happens after that is up to the people involved.

I did enjoy meeting the people, and hope that some day soon I meet a person where we both think the other is the best match ever.

Try Match and list all the outdoor activities you enjoy. I get winks from Honolulu guys who must be searching by keyword. They're in your town.

My final stab at on line matching is Our Time, which targets people > 50. I figure any man on that site is at least open to the possibility of meeting someone in that age range. But I think every contact I have received on that site has been a wink. It's getting old.

I think when my time is up on those 2 sites, it's unlikely I will sink any more money (or more significantly, hope) into internet matching.

I may be wrong, but I think it is an age thing. On match you can look at the age range hat the guy is looking for & most of the men in my target range (55 - 65) seem to be looking for significantly younger women. I don't know if they are having any success or not, but that's what they are looking for.