Kendra1313 is offline Kendra1313 Post #1  December 26,2011, 7:00pm

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I read the feedback given on other profiles, so hopefully I've avoided the big errors. I appreciate any advice you have. (Edit to add: I temporarily changed my avatar to my main profile picture. I can't add photo's to this post.)

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Saying "yes" to opportunities that will add to my life (and relationships), even if they're a bit outside of my comfort zone.
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Originality. We’re all unique, but I like men who are comfortable with themselves and let their originality shine. I'm looking for a relationship where the conversations are thought-provoking, the chemistry is alive, the companionship includes independence, and the connection is substantial.
Basic Information
Occupation:
Program Director
Age
52
Height
5' 6"
Wants Kids:
No
Kids at Home:
Yes
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never




The most influential person in my life has been:

My friend Nancy, who has taught me a lot about healthy relationships. She is supportive and non-judgmental of my choices, but completely honest when I ask for advice. We have so much fun together, and I feel truly “seen” by her, which is an amazing gift.
The three things which I am most thankful for:

  • My son. I love being a parent!
  • Intuition coupled with life experience. An awesome combination in middle age.
  • A challenging career that benefits other people.
Three of my best life-skills are:

  • Using humor to make friends laugh
  • Being a good friend and companion
  • Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

The whole world thinks I’m an extrovert (including e-harmony) but I’m not! I enjoy groups, but I prefer one-on-one interactions. I’m not quiet or shy, and I think that throws people off.
The things I can't live without are:

  • Connection – to others, nature, spirituality
  • Being physically active
  • My family of origin, who I like as well as love
  • The library - free books!
  • Seeing the world as “interesting”
The first thing people notice about me:

Genuineness.

Some additional information I want you to know:

I laugh at my own jokes, I know how to change a car tire (and think all drivers should), and while I'm young enough to text, I'm old enough to use all the vowels and proper punctuation. I feel strongly and passionately about many things, but I almost always see the other side of an issue. I think and live a bit outside of the box. My son lives with me 2/3 of the time.
I typically spend my leisure time:

Talking and laughing with others – what’s better than that? I like most outdoor activities: float trips down the South Platte, sledding, camping, hiking. Traveling. I enjoy reading both fiction and non-fiction. Chilling and doing nothing. Any activity or time with my son. I like variety and discovering new activities I enjoy. I loved “Wicked” though I don’t get to the theater much. I enjoyed the challenge of installing laminated flooring in a bedroom recently, even though I'm a beginning DIY. I probably played a grand total of two hours of video games before I became a parent; now I can’t play enough "Plants vs. Zombies."
The last book I read and enjoyed:

I loved the series, "The Dresden Files" by Jim Butcher. These paranormal suspense books are not my usual genre, but I read the entire series straight through. The books were intelligent page-turners full of humor and mystery. But was the author’s insight into humanity and his "shades of gray" characters that made the books so compelling to me.
My friends describe me as:
  • Genuine
  • Kind
  • Articulate
  • Intelligent
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Hi Kendra!

I'm not your target audience, but will provide feedback anyway. This is a good start, but could use a fair amount of work. It is well-written, but lacks detail and is riddled with cliches that say little if anything about you. Please see specific comments and edits below.

With regard to photos, you can create an album on your profile, post photos to it and set it so that everyone, not just your friends, can see them. Change the settings on the album back to private once your review is over.

You have a great smile. Based on your avatar though, I would suggest a new hairstyle and color. I think this will do wonders for you, since you otherwise look like an attractive woman. What you have is very outdated and aging.

Best of luck!

Kendra1313 wrote :
I read the feedback given on other profiles, so hopefully I've avoided the big errors. I appreciate any advice you have. (Edit to add: I temporarily changed my avatar to my main profile picture. I can't add photo's to this post.)

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Saying "yes" to opportunities that will add to my life (and relationships), even if they're a bit outside of my comfort zone. What does this mean?!? Yes, to the offers from the Most Honorable Lady Karama that are cluttering your Spam folder? Travel to a new country? A new job? A new recipe? What?
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Originality. Again, what does this mean to you? He dresses in red baggy pants? Has a weird sense of humor? Lives off the grid? Is an artist? What? We’re all unique, but I like men who are comfortable with themselves and let their originality shine. I'm looking for a relationship where the conversations are thought-provoking, the chemistry is alive, the companionship includes independence, and the connection is substantial. This is all very generic, and except for "thought-provoking" applies universally to any woman seeking any guy. I don't know of a single, healthy romantic relationship that doesn't involve companionship, connection, and some chemistry. Dig beyond the cliches to come up with your unique needs. The sea of masses is all looking for a sense of humor, honesty, companionship, etc. What else do YOU need?
Basic Information
Occupation:
Program Director
Age
52
Height
5' 6"
Wants Kids:
No
Kids at Home:
Yes
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
A few times a year
Smokes:
Never




The most influential person in my life has been:

My friend Nancy, who has taught me a lot about healthy relationships. She is supportive and non-judgmental of my choices, but completely honest when I ask for advice. We have so much fun together, and I feel truly “seen” by her, which is an amazing gift. This is not an ad for your friend. Your match won't be dating your friend. It's YOUR profile. Relate this back to you...your values, what matters to you, etc.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

  • My son. I love being a parent! How old? Also, the way you've worded this might give the impression, that a guy in your life might have to play second fiddle to every minor need of your son's.
  • Intuition coupled with life experience. An awesome combination in middle age.Why? What does this mean? Don't we all have intuition and life experience?
  • A challenging career that benefits other people.And what exactly is this career? Program Director told me close to nothing, except that you are capable of supporting yourself.
Three of my best life-skills are:

  • Using humor to make friends laugh
  • Being a good friend and companion
  • Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

The whole world thinks I’m an extrovert (including e-harmony) but I’m not! I enjoy groups, but I prefer one-on-one interactions. I’m not quiet or shy, and I think that throws people off. (Personally, I would delete this final sentence. Online, surprises and people who aren't what they seem are negatives.)
The things I can't live without are:

  • Connection – to others, nature, spirituality
  • Being physically active
  • My family of origin, who I like as well as love
  • The library - free books!
  • Seeing the world as “interesting”
Love that these are original and meaningful.

The first thing people notice about me:

Genuineness. Why is this bolded?

Some additional information I want you to know:

I laugh at my own jokes, I know how to change a car tire (and think all drivers should) today's "run-flat" tires make this an unnecessary skill, and while I'm young enough to text, I'm old enough to use all the vowels and proper punctuation. I feel strongly and passionately about many things, but I almost always see the other side of an issue. I think and live a bit outside of the box. My son lives with me 2/3 of the time. Great. This last sentence is useful info to a match. The rest of this section doesn't paint you in the most positive light.

I typically spend my leisure time:

Talking and laughing with others – what’s better than that? I like most outdoor activities: float trips down the South Platte, sledding, camping, hiking. Traveling.To where? The grocery store? Alaska? Timbuktu? I enjoy reading both fiction and non-fiction. Chilling and doing nothing. Any activity or time with my son.This is your third mention of your son. Anyone would assume that a custodial parent spends some time with her child. This adds nothing positive, particularly since there is zero detail of what it is that you actually do with him. I like variety and discovering new activities I enjoy. Such as? Ziplining? Dog sledding? What? I loved “Wicked” though I don’t get to the theater much.If this was a one-off, why are you mentioning it? Focus on activities that you enjoy doing on a regular basis, particularly those in which a match could participate. I enjoyed the challenge of installing laminated flooring in a bedroom recently, even though I'm a beginning DIY. Are you planning to install flooring on a regular basis? I probably played a grand total of two hours of video games before I became a parent; now I can’t play enough "Plants vs. Zombies." Mention #4 of your son.
This whole section needs to be tightened up and far more focused.
The last book I read and enjoyed:

I loved the series, "The Dresden Files" by Jim Butcher. These paranormal suspense books are not my usual genre, but I read the entire series straight through. The books were intelligent page-turners full of humor and mystery. But was the author’s insight into humanity and his "shades of gray" characters that made the books so compelling to me.What is your normal genre since this was outside of your usual tastes. Again, your profile is supposed to give a feeling for who you are on a daily/regular basis. It's not a summary of all the exceptions and one-offs from the past year or two.
My friends describe me as:
  • Genuine
  • Kind
  • Articulate
  • Intelligent
 
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Kendra1313 is offline Kendra1313 Post #3  December 27,2011, 3:57pm

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Thanks. Shows how much another view is needed!

I will incorporate your feedback and appreciate your time.
 
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emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #4  December 27,2011, 4:50pm
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Hi again! It's incredibly hard to write a great profile. We all struggle with it. Hopefully some guys in your target age range will provide feedback. There are a bunch on these Boards who are active.

Best of luck with your search!
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In general..keep in mind that this is a profile to attract a man into your life. Use each section /question to highlight a different aspect of yourself... Avoid trite life philosophies...they are boring and have nothing to do with attraction.
The profile could be easier to follow if it were a bit more organized, thought-out and edited.....Good Luck..
Kendra1313 wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:
Saying "yes" to opportunities that will add to my life (and relationships), even if they're a bit outside of my comfort zone.
Thry to mention something you are actually interested in besides "new opportunities"
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: Best to edit and have meaningful content rather than wordy filler
I like men who are comfortable with themselves and let their originality shine. I'm looking for a relationship where the conversations are thought-provoking, the chemistry is alive
The most influential person in my life has been:
My friend Nancy, who has taught me a lot about healthy relationships. She is supportive and non-judgmental of my choices, but completely honest when I ask for advice. We have so much fun together, and I feel truly “seen” by her, which is an amazing gift.
The three things which I am most thankful for
  • My son. I love being a parent!
  • Intuition coupled with life experience.
  • A challenging career that benefits other people.
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
The whole world thinks I’m an extrovert (including e-harmony) but I’m not! I enjoy groups, but I prefer one-on-one interactions. I’m not quiet or shy, and I think that throws people off. Reread this...it makes no sense...use this section to mention something interesting about yourself
The things I can't live without are:
This is good
  • Connection – to others, nature, spirituality
  • Being physically active
  • My family of origin, who I like as well as love
  • The library - free books!
  • Seeing the world as “interesting”
The first thing people notice about me:

Genuineness.

Some additional information I want you to know:
Men are not looking for a mechanic, or someone who "cracks herself up"...again there is this droning about old / young...your age is posted in the basics. please reread some of these odd contradictions and edit for making some sense.
I laugh at my own jokes, I know how to change a car tire (and think all drivers should), and while I'm young enough to text, I'm old enough to use all the vowels and proper punctuation. I feel strongly and passionately about many things, but I almost always see the other side of an issue. I think and live a bit outside of the box. My son lives with me 2/3 of the time.
I typically spend my leisure time:
talking, laughing, talking ,laughing, talking, laughing.....is that really all you do with your leisure time?...put some thought into reading the section and addressing it...
What is it you actually do?..not just once or kids games..or would like to do
Talking and laughing with others – what’s better than that? I like most outdoor activities: float trips down the South Platte, sledding, camping, hiking. Traveling. Chilling and doing nothing. Any activity or time with my son. I like variety and discovering new activities I enjoy. I loved “Wicked” though I don’t get to the theater much. I enjoyed the challenge of installing laminated flooring in a bedroom recently, even though I'm a beginning DIY. I probably played a grand total of two hours of video games before I became a parent; now I can’t play enough "Plants vs. Zombies."
The last book I read and enjoyed:I enjoy reading both fiction and non-fiction.

I loved the series, "The Dresden Files" by Jim Butcher. These paranormal suspense books are not my usual genre, but I read the entire series straight through. The books were intelligent page-turners full of humor and mystery. But was the author’s insight into humanity and his "shades of gray" characters that made the books so compelling to me.
 
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I think this is a good start. I feel like an outline of you and your personality is there but vague. Along the "originality" and genuineness does this mean (to you) piercings or meditation and yoga or just shopping at trader joes intead of WF??? No clues here as to your lifestyle.... are you BBQ/sushi/grits??? James Taylor/Madonna/Metallica? Are you artsy/crafty or IT??? An F-150 or a Mini or a minivan??? Coffee or tea??? Football at the stadium or Scrabble at home???? Lifestyle compatibility is important. Doesn't hurt to put it out there.

We usually advise people to include their child just once or run the risk of alienating men who are not actually seeking a "mommy" (smile). It would help to include a notation as to how old he is (ie high school etc) this allows the reader to know if you are in "the same place" with kids and how soon you could potentially be alone without same (off to college/no need for babysitters).
 
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