Where do most of you get photos from?

The few pics I do have that were taken at the odd family or work event aren't very flattering.

Do you take them specifically to post or use ones that you have lying around?


it seems like the thing to do.

Is there a place to get a digital picture of oneself taken?

Or maybe I could hand my camera to some stranger that I will never see again and give them a buck to take a picture of me

My main profile photo I take specifically for "avatar" purposes--on eHarmony and other places.

For the others I tend to use ones that friends have taken for me in the course of normal daily events. I figure these are the most accurate since most of my friends are not professional photographers and are not aiming to make me look particularly good or bad.


That's fine. The way your family and co-workers are capturing is what you normally look like to others.

This is a great question and you're off to a good start realizing that good photos are a huge plus.

Some take those phone self-portraits..which are iffy...but popular...You must have some friends / co-workers or neighbors who could help out?.....

Or you could go out to a nice setting..as if a tourist and ask someone....There is a photo workshop /advice section somewhere on here or the dating site.....Good Luck...

First, no one likes their own photos, myself included! You are far from unique on this front. You have to post pictures--face shots and clear body shots, otherwise matches will assume the worst, and you'll limit your choices. Make sure these are realistic pictures of you. Your goal is not to look fantastic in your profile and have him reject you in person, but to have him pick you...the real you. Do not put yourself at the mercy of a disappointed stranger and hope to "sell" him with your personality. You won't, and you'll probably ruin your self-esteem in the process.

I too struggled when I came online. I take lots of pictures. I just never thought to include myself in them. I started off with three--two from a business trip I had just taken overseas (body shot and a clear face shot), and another from a recent business lunch (since my hair was pulled back). I have a great camera on my phone. Now wherever I go, I take pictures--birthday parties, vacations, family gatherings, hiking with friends, biking, etc. It keeps my photos current and shows me doing the things I love. (I currently have eight on my profile.)

I have taken photos for friends when they joined dating sites or needed to refresh their photos. It's best if the person taking the photo knows the purpose. They'll probably give you some great tips. Plus the more people that know you are looking, the more guys they might have you meet that just might be a match. Who cares about the source? Everyone has been single and looking at some point. There's no shame. The goal is to meet as many great guys as possible and give yourself the best chance of finding the right person for you.

I think most of us experience a certain amount of angst about photos. I don't think I am especially photogenic either, so I understand what you are saying. But if you get enough pictures taken, surely there will be a few that are at least somewhat flattering. It is kind of embarrassing to ask a friend to help w/ photos for a dating site, I get that. But there's no shame in being on a dating site & if you are going to do it successfully than you do need good pictures. I have asked one of my adult children & also the husband of a good friend to take pictures for me.