Eharmony Profile Workshop: Question 6 - What is the one thing that people don't notice right away that you wish they would?


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eH_Advice_Host_Gabriel is offline eH_Advice_Host_Gabriel — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  December 22,2011, 4:54pm
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It's time for round 6 in our eHarmony Profile Workshop series! Woohoo!

If you're playing ketchup, previous installments are here:

Question 1: What are you most passionate about?

Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

Question 3: Who has been the most influential person in your life & why?

Question 4: What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?

Question 5: Other than your appearance, what is the first thing people notice about you?

This week another oft-misunderstood (thanks Gr8Guy) question:

What is the ONE thing that people DON’T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

How did you approach this question? What were some of the more interesting approaches you've seen?
 
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Uh oh what did I do now?
 
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I did not know that this was a misunderstood question. It seems rather straight forward to me, which would be an indication that I don't understand what is actually being asked

I don't particularly like my answer to this question and think that I probably need to do a little work on it.

I can't say that I have seen any really novel answers to this question from the matches I receive. More often than not the answer is either some physical feature that would be obvious, i.e. "My twinkling blue eyes" or some personality trait that would be impossible to "notice" until you get to know the person.
 
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Like Gr8Guy, I haven't seen a good answer to this question. Answers tend to be something like

Underneath this shell-like / shy, quiet / overly exuberant / sarcastic. silly exterior,
I'm a guy/girl who is
warm and caring and will open up once you get to know me.

And how is that an attractive answer? Even the sample answer is something like that.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Gabriel wrote :

What is the ONE thing that people DON’T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

How did you approach this question? What were some of the more interesting approaches you've seen?
I wrote: "Well, I think for the most part- I think I'm perceived dead on by people...I guess the only thing I really would like is that more funny, cute, single guys would notice that I'm single too"

I don't think mine is super great, but I do think this is a difficult question. I haven't seen anything good written here ever. Mostly men talk about how super nice they are, or that they really care about others but through the tough guy facade it's hard to tell. This is also where people list how smart, funny and incredibly witty they are *gags* or how they have walls that need to be broken down by the right women. Or the most common "I'll tell you later."
 
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Faraday wrote :
Or the most common "I'll tell you later."
LOL, when I was on eH, I used to get matches that would answer almost every question/category of their profile with that answer.

....or just to change it up a bit, they would throw in a "I'll tell ya when we meet" every now and then
 
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Before I post my own answer (from my inactive and hidden profile), a random thought to mention about this section is that I think the way this question has been phrased BEGS for a cheesy answer (the most common being some variant of: I'm shy at first but open later), so I saw it as the best candidate for putting a bit of a humorous spin on my profile. I'd suggest others to do the same, or at least take a lighthearted and not-too-serious approach to it.

And now, without further ado, My actual answer for your reading pleasure :

That I'm secretly planning on taking over the world! . . . Now I know what you're thinking: "That's fine and I like a man with ambition, but why would you wish people would notice this? It's supposed to be a SECRET plan!". And well... It's because I could use the funding and publicity! It appears an office job just doesn't cut it when it comes to world domination!
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Harryoss wrote :
(from my inactive and hidden profile)
That I'm secretly planning on taking over the world! . . . Now I know what you're thinking: "That's fine and I like a man with ambition, but why would you wish people would notice this? It's supposed to be a SECRET plan!". And well... It's because I could use the funding and publicity! It appears an office job just doesn't cut it when it comes to world domination!
Using a dating site for funding and publicity. Genius. If only Pinky and the Brain had done that.
 
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Harryoss wrote :
Before I post my own answer (from my inactive and hidden profile), a random thought to mention about this section is that I think the way this question has been phrased BEGS for a cheesy answer (the most common being some variant of: I'm shy at first but open later), so I saw it as the best candidate for putting a bit of a humorous spin on my profile. I'd suggest others to do the same, or at least take a lighthearted and not-too-serious approach to it.

And now, without further ado, My actual answer for your reading pleasure :

That I'm secretly planning on taking over the world! . . . Now I know what you're thinking: "That's fine and I like a man with ambition, but why would you wish people would notice this? It's supposed to be a SECRET plan!". And well... It's because I could use the funding and publicity! It appears an office job just doesn't cut it when it comes to world domination!
Great answer!!

I really dislike the 'tell you later'...or 'can't think of anything...tell me when you meet me'....

I look at profiles where people take TIME and EFFORT to fill it out completely...I mean...it's the ONE shot to have someone notice you...

Same with why I go for guys who have at least 5 or more photos...(the more the better for me)....
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I mostly see the lame, "I'm shy but open up when you get to know me!" or "I'll tell you later!" or "Tell me when we meet!"
 
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