Closing Matches Based on Must Haves & Can't Stands

You are interpreting the "no overweight" to mean that this person is only into sticks and you better not gain a pound. However, he may be thinking extreme obese, can't even walk or get out of bed kind of overweight. To be honest, when I read this can't stand, that's kind of what pops into my head.

You also have people in your age range who maybe got out of bad marriages where the ex didn't want to have sex but once a year, etc. What seems like a given to you, is not such a given to them and their life experience. Going forward, they want to be sure that the next women will be warm and affectionate in that department.

The bottom line is that if you see something questionable, ask about it later on. Don't leap to blind conclusions.

but often the photos were just face photos so it was impossible to filter people out by checking the photos.

but often the photos were just face photos so it was impossible to filter people out by checking the photos.

Lastly, the "I can't stand someone who does not enjoy having sex on a regular basis" statement also turns me off immediately. I'm assuming that the majority of guys in my target age range (under 40) want sex on a regular basis, so why is it important to state that to a stranger?

I've only been a member of EH for about 2 months now and wouldn't say that I'm having much success with actually meeting anyone, but I know it's still early.

Anyway, something I've noticed with the guys I've started Guided Communication with is that their Must Haves & Can't Stands are turning me off and leading me to close the match. For instance, this one guy listed "I must have a partner who is considered 'very attractive' by most current standards" when he's really not a stud himself, so that makes me feel like he's shallow. I also don't like the "I can't stand someone who is overweight" statement. It's fine if you feel that way, but can't we assume that you wouldn't even be communicating with someone who you weren't attracted to, so what's the point of telling me that you don't like fat women? So I'll know that I had better not EVER gain any weight if we were to start a relationship? Once again, it sounds very shallow and I don't see the point in listing it as a Can't Stand because I would think the person you're sending it to wouldn't be overweight in the first place.

Lastly, the "I can't stand someone who does not enjoy having sex on a regular basis" statement also turns me off immediately. I'm assuming that the majority of guys in my target age range (under 40) want sex on a regular basis, so why is it important to state that to a stranger? Maybe it's just me, but it makes me uncomfortable when some guy who I've never even met feels the need to tell me that he needs a lot of sex in order for him to be happy.

So, are there any Must Haves & Can't Stands that turn you off immediately and make you just want to close the match? If you regularly send out some of the ones that I mentioned, can you explain to me why you think it's important to share those sentiments with potential partners?

I also don't like the "I can't stand someone who is overweight" statement. It's fine if you feel that way, but can't we assume that you wouldn't even be communicating with someone who you weren't attracted to, so what's the point of telling me that you don't like fat women?