northfor is offline northfor Post #1  December 11,2011, 6:02pm
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I think that this will be my last month subscribing to eH. I'm sure it works for some people, but I've found it pretty frustrating. Over the summer, I was getting good matches. Now about 70% of my "matches" have no photo or were active more than three weeks ago (i.e. long gone). Sometimes I get matches with only a couple letters in their entire profile. I thought eHarmony had some profile review team approving changes. It's starting to get close to a bait-and-switch and I feel like a chump paying for that.

I'm not saying that it's a bad product. It's just that for my age group in my area, it's pretty weak. The poor quality control is annoying, especially when I've done the hard work of putting up a good profile and photos. I can join Match if I want to sift through half-completed profiles. eHarmony is supposed to be a better product.

Honestly, I get far more dates with women I meet offline than from eH. I spent two hours at a club on Friday. Today I called up three of the women I met. All agreed to dates this week. That's typical. But that's more than I've found from eH in months. Unless I can be convinced otherwise, I think I'm going to call it a day with eH.
 
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Please consider the time of year. We are just a couple of weeks away from Christmas. Not many people are actively seeking dates at this time of year. Keep your account open (doesn't have to be paid) and see what happens to activity levels once the holidays pass. I think you will see an upswing.
 
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Honestly, I get far more dates with women I meet offline than from eH.
Then why did you even try eHarmony or any other dating site in the first place
 
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I gave up today. My membership does not run out until Jan 12th but had enough of the crummy matches, the no replies, closed matches after only first round of guided communication. This site has been the epitomy of epic fail. I wiped out my pictures and wiped out info on the profile. Give up on it, the price and the BS is not worth it.
 
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Funnymm wrote :
I gave up today. My membership does not run out until Jan 12th but had enough of the crummy matches, the no replies, closed matches after only first round of guided communication. This site has been the epitomy of epic fail. I wiped out my pictures and wiped out info on the profile. Give up on it, the price and the BS is not worth it.
Did you turn off matching? Otherwise you've just added to the bs part that everyone complains about.
 
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I gave up today. My membership does not run out until Jan 12th but had enough of the crummy matches, the no replies, closed matches after only first round of guided communication. This site has been the epitome of epic fail. I wiped out my pictures and wiped out info on the profile. Give up on it, the price and the BS is not worth it.
If you have not turned off matching then you have just become one of those "no replying, half filled out, no photo" matches that you are complaining about. And if you are not just taking a break from eHarmony why are you leaving your profile still on the site?
 
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If you have not turned off matching then you have just become one of those "no replying, half filled out, no photo" matches that you are complaining about. And if you are not just taking a break from eHarmony why are you leaving your profile still on the site?
I'm sure he'll turn off the matching but why should it be his responsibility? Once Jan. 12 comes around, eH is the one who should stop sending out his profile as a match to people who are paying for a service...or at the very least list on his profile Johnny is not a current paying member of e-harmony.
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kettle, that would defeat the premise that is eH. I'm not going to get into the whole marketing thing, but if they auto turned off matching when someone's paid subscription ran out it would just cause problems.

Simply put, let's say you are a new member, not paying yet. How do they get you interested enough to pay? By showing you the profiles of matches. The same goes for (potentially) returning paid subscribers.

And, from a member's perspective, if you can't take ownership for something as simple as turning off matching, then maybe you shouldn't use online dating in general. It's not a complicated or confusing process. You are a grown up, you can make the conscious effort to turn off your matching.
 
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Then why did you even try eHarmony or any other dating site in the first place
I joined for the simple reason that I'd heard great things about people meeting their match on eHarmony. Meeting people every day is great, but you've got to meet a lot of people before finding someone who works for you. eH is supposed to take the "chance" out of the equation and bring compatible people together a little faster.

I would not be cancelling if I could just get three active matches with photos, per day. I recently got a match with a profile that literally contained one letter. I'm not paying for the experience of logging onto eH every day. I'm paying for introductions to actual people.
 
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That's the problem...their marketing....in the same breath they imply they specially select for you...then say "review your matches free"...so anyone can sign up ...so over 70% are these dead profiles you describe.....eH has gotten worse by competing with other sites and trying to be more like them....Good Luck....
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I joined for the simple reason that I'd heard great things about people meeting their match on eHarmony. Meeting people every day is great, but you've got to meet a lot of people before finding someone who works for you. eH is supposed to take the "chance" out of the equation and bring compatible people together a little faster.

I would not be cancelling if I could just get three active matches with photos, per day. I recently got a match with a profile that literally contained one letter. I'm not paying for the experience of logging onto eH every day. I'm paying for introductions to actual people.
 
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