emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #71  January 12,2012, 5:43am
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Hmmm...

How about your settings? As an example, if you are a 23 y.o. guy and have your age range set at 23 - 28, you will get matches, but they likely will not be that interested in you. 19 - 25 might be a better range if these ages are acceptable to you.

Are you having success in other venues? If so, focus on those. Different dating sites work better for different people. Figure out which ones work for you. Also, some people do better in real life than online. Again, figure out what works best for you.

If you are having minimal success regardless of how the introduction is made, then the issue is indeed with how you present. In this case, I would encourage you to dig much deeper to try and understand what might be happening.

We all deserve to find love and happiness. Heck even a praying mantis does, and that never ends well for the male!
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
Hmmm...

How about your settings? As an example, if you are a 23 y.o. guy and have your age range set at 23 - 28, you will get matches, but they likely will not be that interested in you. 19 - 25 might be a better range if these ages are acceptable to you.

Are you having success in other venues? If so, focus on those. Different dating sites work better for different people. Figure out which ones work for you. Also, some people do better in real life than online. Again, figure out what works best for you.

If you are having minimal success regardless of how the introduction is made, then the issue is indeed with how you present. In this case, I would encourage you to dig much deeper to try and understand what might be happening.

We all deserve to find love and happiness. Heck even a praying mantis does, and that never ends well for the male!
I joined here when I was 21. I had my age bracket set to 18-28.

I will say that in the last year using a free service, OKCupid I've been on 5-7 dates, and while I haven't found THE ONE, I have been at least in the game versus on the sideline using this website which does an awful job of marketing and is guilty of the bait and switch sending someone who is paying hard earned money to use their service and to be given people who don't pay and can't use this service.

I would make an honest bet that out the few hundred matches I've had, maybe a couple dozen were legit paying customers.
 
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Glad you found something that works for you. A good friend of mine just moved in with her boyfriend after connecting with him on OkC 7 months ago.

21 is a difficult age for a guy. You're really limited to college-aged women then. The 25 yo, and certainly, the 28yo will not be interested. They are at a different stage in life plus, unfortunately, they'll assume you can't be that serious. Were you not meeting women in school? At 21, that tends to be the most fertile ground for potential dates.

Again, glad you've found something that works for you. Best of luck!
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
Glad you found something that works for you. A good friend of mine just moved in with her boyfriend after connecting with him on OkC 7 months ago.

21 is a difficult age for a guy. You're really limited to college-aged women then. The 25 yo, and certainly, the 28yo will not be interested. They are at a different stage in life plus, unfortunately, they'll assume you can't be that serious. Were you not meeting women in school? At 21, that tends to be the most fertile ground for potential dates.

Again, glad you've found something that works for you. Best of luck!
It's also hard being at that age, when you abstain from drinking, drugs, and smoking, so the bar scene doesn't happen for me. People say go to the bar, you'll find someone, I tried that once, and women weren't too comfortable with a guy chatting them up, offering to buy them drinks while sipping on a Diet Coke.
 
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At 21 I didn't drink, smoke, or do drugs either. I still dated. My dates came from my extracurricular activities, sports, parties, friends of friends, guys I met in the cafeteria, in the library, randomly walking around campus, jobs, etc. Don't know if you're in grad school, but if you are, campus is by far the richest pool of dates. Everyone is single, in the right age range, and somewhat socially responsible. Nothing else comes close in terms of the sheer number and caliber of dating prospects.

Best of luck in your online and real life search!
 
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This might be shocking after my blatant disregard for the site in this forum but... I am coming back to eharmony for the following reasons.

One is that you can actually skip the portion of guided communication when it comes to the essay questions. This I didn't realize until after the fact of unsubscribing, and really the date stream has been completely incompatible from her on out on my own. This really is the holy grail of dating sites and it only takes the realization that is such by seeing what else is out there. About next month I will be back and trying again. Not to mention how unbelievable the other sites have been in regards to compatibility. Two is that I had listed more than one reason for one.
 
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I believe that online dating should be a supplement to dating in real life, instead of your primary focus. Dating in real life is a lot less time-consuming and you, at least to some degree, know what you're getting when you go out on the date.
 
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