mgoetsch82 is offline mgoetsch82 Post #1  November 17,2011, 8:24pm
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I would like some input on my profile and where I could improve it. Thanks in advance

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I am passionate about my faith and belief in God. He gives me each day to bless and help others. I love to help others, especially with helping them become financially independent. I also love photography. I learned the basics while deployed to Iraq, and it helped give me peace during a stressful situation.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I am looking for someone who loves God and family. Someone who knows how to treat a lady. Someone not afraid of a woman with kids. I'm looking for someone who still knows how to dream and live life to the fullest, not missing any opportunities. I also want stone who knows how to make me laugh.

The most influential person in my life has been:
First and foremost, God. Next would be my friend, business associate and mentor Chris Dim. He has shown me that I can do anything if I just believe. He has helped me grow as a person and in my business.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
•My two angels. My girls mean the world to me.
•The ability to impact so many lives with the opportunity to become financially free.
•God! Without Him, there would be nothing.

Three of my best life-skills are:
•Raising and/or caring for children
•Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
•Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I love to help others and give. If I'm willing to buy lunch, I don't want y to give me your part unless I say so. I'm also not looking for anything return.

The things I can't live without are:
God
Family/friends
Organo Gold Coffee (get paid from drinking it)
Dreams
Apple products

Some additional information I want you to know:
I want to take my time to learn who your really are. Faith and family has to be very important to you. I come with two kids, so if you can't help very young kids, please leave me alone. I a very passionate about my business and helping others realize their dreams can come reality! Too many people have stopped dreaming because they have been taught not to. There is nothing stopping you from reaching your dreams but yourself!

I typically spend my leisure time:
I love to read personal development books, like The Secret and Think and Grow Rich. I also like to relax with friends and family by watching movies or some tv. Golf and photography. Traveling when I can.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
The last book I read was "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. It is an amazing book that will change how you think and change your life. It talks about the power of the law of attraction and how positive thoughts can attract what you desire into your life.

My friends describe me as:
Good Listener
Loyal
Intelligent
Generous
 
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God, God, God...too much God . Only put God in ONE section only. You come across as one dimensional and boring.

And The Secret? Really? Put a better book choice in there! Fine if you've read it and read it last, but lie and put something that is an intelligent read in there to give the best impression possible .
 
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What is wrong with the book "The Secret"? Have you read it and applied it?
 
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Faraday wrote :
God, God, God...too much God . Only put God in ONE section only. You come across as one dimensional and boring.

And The Secret? Really? Put a better book choice in there! Fine if you've read it and read it last, but lie and put something that is an intelligent read in there to give the best impression possible .
That's the sort of interest a match should put in their profile. It's important for a future date to know what to expect in advance.
 
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"That's the sort of interest a match should put in their profile. It's important for a future date to know what to expect in advance. "

There is no multi quote option right now

I guess it is a tool for weeding people out...I was hoping to help her out


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What is wrong with the book "The Secret"? Have you read it and applied it?
"The Secret" isn't the most intellectual book and it definitely conveys a message....and when you're creating your profile you want to put your best foot forward and show people the best version of you. Many people will look at "The Secret" as hokey or immature. I remember reading "The Celestine Prophecy" when I was 17. It completely changed my life...but I look at it now as being a young read. If you truly believe in it as the best thing ever, leave it in your profile...but you will shrink your dating pool.

And no, I have not read it. But I have read a few books on the laws of attraction and I think they are totally right, you get what you believe you will. But IMO, not because of some divine alignment of the universe...but because as Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right."

When you re-write your profile with less talk about God and more about you, re-post it. People will give feedback.
 
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Having read your profile these are my observations:
1. You have mentioned God in almost every section. You have limited space to present who you are as a person. Mentioning anything more than once is taking the limited space that you do have and wastes it. In the case of your profile you have mentioned God in 6 different section (7 including your basic information section where you have Religion: ---). Since you have very little else in your profile you come off as very one dimensional more suited to living in a Convent than dating.
2. You like photography.
3. Your description of the book The Secret is in sharp contrast to someone so focused on God.
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Faraday wrote :
"That's the sort of interest a match should put in their profile. It's important for a future date to know what to expect in advance. "

There is no multi quote option right now

I guess it is a tool for weeding people out...I was hoping to help her out




"The Secret" isn't the most intellectual book and it definitely conveys a message....and when you're creating your profile you want to put your best foot forward and show people the best version of you. Many people will look at "The Secret" as hokey or immature. I remember reading "The Celestine Prophecy" when I was 17. It completely changed my life...but I look at it now as being a young read. If you truly believe in it as the best thing ever, leave it in your profile...but you will shrink your dating pool.

And no, I have not read it. But I have read a few books on the laws of attraction and I think they are totally right, you get what you believe you will. But IMO, not because of some divine alignment of the universe...but because as Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right."

When you re-write your profile with less talk about God and more about you, re-post it. People will give feedback.
Ok, so basically you are recommending that I post something that doesn't say anything about a huge part of my life? My faith and belief in God is a huge part of my life. That question asks what you are passionate about. That is one of mine. Besides, I have seen many profiles that mention their belief in God much more than I do. But I do appreciate your comment. I understand what you said about the book. So, I changed it to

"Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
"The Richest Man in Babylon" by George S Clason
 
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mgoetsch82 wrote :
Ok, so basically you are recommending that I post something that doesn't say anything about a huge part of my life? My faith and belief in God is a huge part of my life. That question asks what you are passionate about. That is one of mine. Besides, I have seen many profiles that mention their belief in God much more than I do. But I do appreciate your comment. I understand what you said about the book. So, I changed it to

"Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
"The Richest Man in Babylon" by George S Clason
Firstly, I think you should mention your faith. It's a big part of your life. I have a daughter. She's a big part of my life. I don't mention her in every section (just my most influential and as a side note in another section describing my custody|) because no one wants to date my daughter. Just like your dates don't want to date God. They might love God too. But you're looking for someone to love you.

Secondly, I don't think second book selection will help you much either...putting self help books doesn't convey a good message. It says that you have problems and need work.
 
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You could almost guess the other books based on the quirks in your original profile. I think you're looking for a specific kind of mate, and that's how you are advertising. However, the suggestions that you be less specific and repetitive in order to widen your dating pool are good ones, even if they don't sound like it to you.

Life consists of more than core beliefs and those other things, which might seem less important, are actually the ones that kill relationships in the end.

Keep that in mind, and write more about the other things that make you the person you are. Mention each thing once.
 
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Wow, deployed to Iraq while having too young kids. That must have been tough.

Others have mentioned God, so I won't go there. Just two things:

First in what you are looking for you say: " I'm looking for someone who still knows how to dream and live life to the fullest..." A lot of people say the same thing. You might want to change it to what knowing how to dream, and live life to the fullest means to you, and put that down.

Secondly, you also say: " I come with two kids, so if you can't help very young kids, please leave me alone." Now, mentioning the two young kids is fine, however I would delete the underlined section. It comes off as negative, and most people would know that being with someone that has young kids means work.

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